OLIVIA FOX CABANE ~ THE CHARISMA MYTH

~ INM-ILB ~ It’s Not Magic – It’s Learned Behaviors

~ CCBPOMAATN ~ Charisma Can Be Present One Moment And Absent The Next

~ WMTWCFP-WMTTWCFL-WBTALAWSA-IOTLOBCOOT-BWW-WWNFPIAI-PWSI ~ We May Think We Can Fake Presence – We May Think That We Can Fake Listening – We Believe That As Long As We Seem Attentive – It’s Okay To Let Our Brains Churn On Other Things – But We’re Wrong – When We’re Not Fully Present In An Interaction – People Will See It

OBLSACMTOPRART-ALOASL ~ Our Body Language Sends A Clear Message That Other People Read And React To – At Least On A Subconscious Level

~ WYMB-YBM-BYMCTTDBIAR-BCACIS-YBLWADC ~ What Your Mind Believes – Your Body Manifests – Because Your Mind Can’t Tell The Difference Between Imagination And Reality – By Creating A Charismatic Internal State – Your Body Language Will Authentically Display Charisma

~ YISIC-GTISR-ATRCBABLWPFA ~ Your Internal State Is Critical – Get The Internal State Right – And The Right Charismatic Behaviors And Body Language Will Pour Forth Automatically

~ AID-EPOM-CIHYF-HYP-A-HOPY ~ Any Internal Discomfort – Either Physical Or Mental – Can Impair How You Feel – How You Perform – And – How Others Perceive You

~ NN-DAYTAA-JBYMCUWSDNMIHAV-AYMALOE-MOWCBP ~ Neutralizing Negativity – Don’t Assume Your Thoughts Are Accurate – Just Because Your Mind Comes Up With Something Doesn’t Necessarily Mean It Has Any Validity – Assume You’re Missing A Lot Of Elements – Many Of Which Could Be Positive

~ DTCYBAWH-CR-EDTBSL-DTCB-AFMEAHSTATROIE ~ Deciding To Change Your Belief About What Happened – Cognitive Reappraisal – Effectively Decreases The Brain’s Stress Levels – Deciding To Change Beliefs – A Far More Effective And Healthier Solution Than Attempting To Repress Or Ignore Emotions

~ GCWD-FOTMSOYPDSADP-IGYMSCTFOOTIGCTTSIU-IAHTAOBYIIFP-AKCOC ~ Getting Comfortable With Discomfort – Focusing On The Minute Sensations Of Your Physical Discomfort Serves A Dual Purpose – It Gives Your Mind Something Concrete To Focus On Other Than Its Growing Conviction That This Situation Is Unbearable – It Also Has The Advantage Of Bringing You Instantly Into Full Presence – A Key Component Of Charisma

~ TBC-YMFLTOTPOTC-ID ~ To Be Charismatic – You Must First Learn To Overcome The Primary Obstacle To Charisma – Internal Discomfort

~ NUNTBRTTMODRAFYETHTN ~ Neutralize Unhelpful Negative Thoughts By Remembering That The Mind Often Distorts Reality And Filters Your Environment To Highlight The Negative

~ TSWTFBWYFAITFYSWO-TNOT-ATSHIETSOCTYV-YCATSEJBITH ~ The Surest Way To Feel Better When You’re Feeling Anxious Is To Flood Your System With Oxytocin – The Neuropeptide Of Trust – A Twenty-Second Hug Is Enough To Send Oxytocin Coursing Through Your Veins – You Can Achieve The Same Effect Just By Imagining The Hug

~ G ~ Gratitude

~ OATOOTMRN-WOWBTMLITW? ~ Of All The Options Open To Me Right Now – Which One Would Bring The Most Love Into This World?

~ IMBHTFOSCTOSE-TFIBOSA-TLOSEASC ~ It May Be Healthier To Focus On Self-Compassion Than On Self-Esteem – The Former Is Based On Self-Acceptance – The Latter On Self-Evaluation And Social Comparison

~ CAOMSICTUYFCP ~ Creating An Optimal Mental State Is Crucial To Unleashing Your Full Charisma Potential

~ BIE-AETWIYMS ~ Before Important Events – Avoid Experiences That Would Impair Your Mental State

~ YBAYM-PATRPAFETAMOAADIS ~ Your Body Affects Your Mind – Practice Adopting The Right Posture And Facial Expressions To Access More Of Almost Any Desired Internal State

~ PLPWALT ~ People Like People Who Are Like Them

~ OAIEBDABL ~ Overall Appearance Is Evaluated Before Demeanor And Body Language

~ TOWTSPUMOIYCIS‘I’B‘Y’ ~ The One Word That Should Pop Up Most Often In Your Conversation Is Not “I” But “You”

~ PRDLTHTT-TMYLTS-TMTWLY ~ People Really Do Love To Hear Themselves Talk – The More You Let Them Speak – The More They Will Like You

~ ICTMOFGAT ~ It’s Critical To Make Others Feel Good About Themselves

~ DTTIP-LTIY ~ Don’t Try To Impress People – Let Them Impress You

~ PAYWTFYPIT-DMTFBOW ~ People Associate You With The Feelings You Produce In Them – Don’t Make Them Feel Bad Or Wrong

~ OPAOP-TRISITGSWIIAASODPTCTBLBYATCTM-ALATBIIACEM-IWBNITGTMTFSD ~ Our Physiology Affects Our Psychology – The Reason It’s So Important To Get Someone Who Is In An Angry, Stubborn, Or Defensive Posture To Change Their Body Language Before You Attempt To Change Their Mind – As Long As Their Body Is In A Certain Emotional Mode – It Will Be Nearly Impossible To Get Their Mind To Feel Something Different

~ OATPSRISS ~ Our Adherence To Personal Space Rules Is So Strong

~ AOBIS-YATSR-ITTFCRACWYNGEOAYBTIIFOFM ~ Anytime Our Breathing Is Shallow – You Activate The Stress Response – It’s Hard To Feel Calm, Relaxed, And Confident When You’re Not Getting Enough Oxygen And Your Body Thinks It’s In Fight-Or-Flight Mode

~ AASCPPWMYFMCAMP-AYFMP-YBLAA ~ Assuming A Strong, Confident Physical Posture Will Make You Feel More Confident And More Powerful – As You Feel More Powerful – Your Body Language Adapts Accordingly

~ WOWSTAPLM-ONCSTAPEM ~ While Our Words Speak To A Person’s Logical Mind – Our Nonverbal Communication Speaks To A Person’s Emotional Mind

~ NCAVCWTTAC ~ Nonverbal Communication Amplifies Verbal Communication When The Two Are Congruent

~ WVANMC-WTTTWWSITOPBLMTWWHTS ~ When Verbal And Nonverbal Messages Contradict – We Tend To Trust What We See In The Other Person’s Body Language More Than What We Hear Them Say

~ TEC-YECSTOP ~ Through Emotional Contagion – Your Emotions Can Spread To Other People

~ AAL-TECBYBL-EDBCE-CHAREOYT ~ As A Leader – The Emotions Conveyed By Your Body Language – Even During Brief, Casual Encounters – Can Have A Ripple Effect On Your Team

~ WPCTYINOR-FMTBL-TLTTMCOACP ~ When People Come To You In Need Of Reassurance – First Mirror Their Body Language – Then Lead Them To More Calm, Open, And Confident Positions

~ WPAD-BTBLL-BHTSTOAOSTWHTLFTT ~ When People Are Defensive – Break Their Body Language Lock – By Handing Them Something To Look At Or Something They Will Have To Lean Forward To Take

~ TPP-TUS-ABS ~ To Project Power – Take Up Space – And Be Still

~ COVANRLHBAEU ~ Cut Out Verbal And Nonverbal Reassurances Like Head Bobbing And Excessive Uh-Uh-Ing

~ TWTN-TMIIIFTRTFTYTUTATYATWT-TIWTITOGWCAECI ~ The Worse The News – The More Important It Is For The Recipient To Feel That You Truly Understand Them And That You Are There With Them – This Is Where The Internal Tools Of Good Will, Compassion, And Empathy Come In

~ WC-TTPIASAPAWTBYWTC-GITRM-OOCAE-WPFTYHTBIAH-ICCTDE ~ With Criticism – Try To Provide It As Soon As Possible After Witnessing The Behavior You Want To Change – Get Into The Right Mindset – One Of Compassion And Empathy – When People Feel That You Have Their Best Interests At Heart – It Can Change The Dynamic Entirety

~ AS‘IVS’DWFPAFWCWW ~ A Simple “I’m Very Sorry” Delivered With Full Presences And Full Warmth Can Work Wonders

~ CIPEICS ~ Charisma Is Particularity Effective In Crisis Situations

~ EHEOP-ACYCCITATRTTO ~ Express High Expectations Of People – And Communicate Your Complete Confidence In Their Ability To Rise To The Occasion

~ AABV-SYCIYATRTV-AADTAI ~ Articulate A Bold Vision – Show Your Confidence In Your Ability To Realize That Vision – And Act Decisively To Achieve It

~ SVWMYMLAMR-AWPPFEYTBSHAPAKAAR ~ Showing Vulnerability Will Make You More Likeable And More Relatable

~ CIAPT-UIR ~ Charisma Is A Powerful Tool – Use It Responsibly

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