GAVIN DE BECKER ~ THE GIFT OF FEAR ~ 1997

~ D-HAIAISE-FATPOMDTTGBSIIS-TFTTWV-I-F-F-G-TTOTWATP ~ Denial – Has An Interesting And Insidious Side Effect – For All The Peace Of Mind Deniers Think They Get By Saying It Isn’t So – The Fall They Take When Victimized – Is – Far – Far – Greater – Than That Of Those Who Accept The Possibility

~ D-A-S-N-P-L-S-ACWEISP-FITLR-TDPKTTOSL-A-ICACL-GA-DKTFTATCRTR(ATW) ~ Denial – A – Save-Now-Pay-Later – Scheme – A Contract Written Entirely In Small Print – For In The Long Run – The Denying Person Knows The Truth On Some Level – And – It Causes A Constant Low-Grade Anxiety – Denial Keeps Them From Taking Action That Could Reduce The Risks (And The Worry)

~ WWTBTPAIC-WMOMAVOB-IINS ~ We Want To Believe That People Are Infinitely Complex – With Millions Of Motivations And Varieties Of Behaviour – It Is Not So

~ W-ICTEOCIN-CNTE-AETI-SS ~ We – In Contrast To Every Other Creature In Nature – Choose Not To Explore – And Even To Ignore – Survival Signals

~ ERTUWAKTA-JAWWTC-TWOC ~ Experts Rarely Tell Us We Already Know The Answers – Just As We Want Their Checklist – They Want Our Check

~ LTTJ-W-DSPH-H-P-DH-IACWTCTCWTROFSA-AWOSF ~ Listen To The Jokes – When – Discussing Some Possible Hazard – Humor – Particularly – Dark Humor – Is A Common Way To Communicate True Concern Without The Risk Of Feeling Silly Afterward – And Without Overtly Showing Fear

~ WYATSSAAWM-A-QETEOS-FSIAI ~ When You Accept The Survival Signal As A Welcome Message – And – Quickly Evaluate The Environment Or Situation – Fear Stops In An Instant

~ TI-ITEOO-LIF ~ Trusting Intuition – Is The Exact Opposite Of – Living In Fear

~ RF-IASITBVB-AMSOI-B-TFWAT-E-U-F-I-D-MCTST ~ Real Fear – Is A Signal Intended To Be Very Brief – A Mere Servant Of Intuition – But – Though Few Would Argue That – Extended – Unanswered – Fear – Is – Destructive – Millions Choose To Stay There

~ I-WTIF-WLA-FTF-AWWAP ~ Ideally – When There Is Fear – We Look Around – Follow The Fear – Ask What We Are Perceiving

~ IWALFS-S-E-D-WALLTST-UD-PRAT-E-RT-PRAT-I ~ If We Are Looking For Some – Specific – Expected – Danger – We Are Less Likely To See The – Unexpected Danger – Pay Relaxed Attention To – Environment – Rather Than – Paying Rapt Attention To – Imagination

~ IITWMCNTWF-NWIHN-FSSMH-IIDH-WSFIASTRTI-WSTFTNOWPMBC ~ It Is That Which Might Come Next That We Fear – Not What Is Happening Now – Fear Says Something Might Happen – If It Does Happen – We Stop Fearing It And Start To Respond To It – Or – We Start To Fear The Next Outcome We Predict Might Be Coming

~ WYFIRWYTYF-IIWYLTF ~ What You Fear Is Rarely What You Think You Fear – It Is What You Link To Fear

~ W-WNBS-IWMLDYFFS-WITFWM ~ Worry – Will Not Bring Solutions – It Will More Likely Distract You From Finding Solutions – Worry Is The Fear We Manufacture

~ WIAC-A-TCGWATICBUD ~ Worry Is A Choice – And – The Creative Genius We Apply To It Can Be Used Differently

~ WYFF-L ~ When You Feel Fear – Listen

~ WYDFF-DMI ~ When You Don’t Feel Fear – Don’t Manufacture It

~ IYFYCW-EADW ~ If You Find Yourself Creating Worry – Explore And Discover Why

~ A-URF-IACB-U ~ Anxiety – Unlike Real Fear – Is Always Caused By – Uncertainty

~ WYIBI-LUFOP-RYATRSS-SHOITSWIE-A-LLMFITCSBT ~ With Your Intuition Better Informed – Less Unwarranted Fear Of People – Respect Your Ability To Recognize Survival Signals – See Hazard Only In Those Stormclouds Where It Exists – And – Live Life More Fully In The Clear Skies Between Them

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