ROBERT PUTNAM ~ BOWLING ALONE ~ 2000

~ PC-RT-PO ~ Physical Capital – Refers To – Physical Objects

~ HC-RT-POI ~ Human Capital – Refers To – Properties Of Individuals

~ SC-RT-CAI-SN-A-TNO-RAT-TAFT ~ Social Capital – Refers To – Connections Among Individuals – Social Networks – And – The Norms Of – Reciprocity And Trustworthiness – That Arise From Them

~ ASCBGRIMETADS-FTSRTMIMETB-IWDHTBEEI-WCGALMA ~ A Society Characterized By Generalized Reciprocity Is More Efficient Than A Distrustful Society – For The Same Reason That Money Is More Efficient Than Barter – If We Don’t Have To Balance Every Exchange Instantly – We Can Get A Lot More Accomplished

~ TLSL ~ Trustworthiness Lubricates Social Life

~ CE-A-SC-E-MO-A-RFA ~ Civic Engagement – And – Social Capital – Entail – Mutual Obligation – And – Responsibility For Action

~ S-‘SC’-LICC-‘C’-S-WAC-H-NATANOR-AGGFTITN-B-TEEOSCABNMAP ~ Sometimes – “Social Capital” – Like Its Conceptual Cousin – “Community” – Sounds – Warm And Cuddly – However – Networks And The Associated Norms Of Reciprocity – Are Generally Good For Those Inside The Network – But – The External Effects Of Social Capital Are By No Means Always Positive

~ DEP-ISTMVSOABDFCL ~ Declining Electoral Participation – Is Simply The Most Visible Symptoms Of A Broader Disengagement From Community Life

~ TMDTFOI-TGTD ~ The More Demanding The Form Of Involvement – The Greater The Decline

~ TW-INTSFOFCS ~ The Workplace – Is Not The Salvation For Our Fraying Civil Society

~ PWHRHATMLTHO-ST-SAOKHARE ~ People Who Have Received Help Are Themselves More Likely To Help Others – So That – Simple Acts Of Kindness Have A Ripple Effect

~ TTOSCITPO-GR-IDTFYN-WEAIIR-APWEKY-CF-DTR-YOSE-W-RTF ~ The Touchstone Of Social Capital Is The Principle Of – Generalized Reciprocity – I’ll Do This For You Now – Without Expecting Anything Immediate In Return – And Perhaps Without Even Knowing You – Confident That – Down The Road – You Or Someone Else – Will – Return The Favor

~ TNO-GR-ISFTCLTAPMCCSE ~ The Norm Of – Generalized Reciprocity – Is So Fundamental To Civilized Life That All Prominent Moral Codes Contain Some Equivalent

~ TAIBSO-D-‘TC’-MAHEW-LE-I-IEIMTC-HAT-LTIFOSL ~ The Almost Imperceptible Background Stress Of – Daily – “Transaction Costs” – May Also Help Explain Why – Life Expectancy – Itself – Is Enhanced In More Trustful Communities – Honesty And Trust – Lubricate The Inevitable Frictions Of Social Life

~ FBOW-WRI-WAFTRI-O-FI-AAAL-TL-TA-WWUTATINRBGR-TI-T-SC ~ For Better Or Worse – We Rely Increasingly – We Are Forced To Rely Increasingly – On – Formal Institutions – And Above All On – The Law – To Accomplish – What We Used To Accomplish Through Informal Networks Reinforced By Generalized Reciprocity – That Is – Through – Social Capital

~ N-D-D ~ Not – Deliberation – Din

~ F-T-F-E-PADASOF-TIII-C-MC ~ Face-To-Face – Encounters – Provide A Depth And Speed Of Feedback – That Is Impossible In – Computer-Mediated Communication

~ TRTMOC-T-M-S-P-T-A-F-TE ~ The Richer The Medium Of Communication – The – More – Sociable – Personal – Trusting – And – Friendly – The Encounter

~ BOTPOSCASC-PIC-BGFIHTRCAFLSWOA ~ Because Of The Paucity Of Social Cues And Social Communication – Participants In Computer-Based Groups Find It Harder To Reach Consensus And Feel Less Solidarity With One Another

~ HCWUTEPO-C-MC-TMOIISCMP?-HCWHTPT-FTCT? ~ How Can We Use The Enormous Potential Of – Computer-Mediated Communication – To Make Our Investments In Social Capital More Productive? – How Can We Harness This Promising Technology – For Thickening Community Ties?

~ ETBSCOSWBTPOIC ~ Effects Triggered By Social Change Often Spread Well Beyond The Point Of Initial Contact

~ CD-ATBAEOA ~ Civic Disengagement – Appears To Be An Equal Opportunity Affliction

~ POTAM ~ Pressures Of Time And Money

~ PB ~ Pervasive Busyness

~ ‘TB’-BFTMCEWOFNV ~ “Too Busy” – By Far The Most Common Explanation We Offer For Not Volunteering

~ M-FH-ANN-TSAY-CFOCEHDMRTIF ~ My – Free Hours – Are Not Necessarily – The Same As Yours – Collective Forms Of Civic Engagement Have Declined More Rapidly Than Individual Forms

~ FWAET-HAPDEO-SI-B-FAI ~ Financial Worries And Economic Troubles – Have A Profoundly Depressing Effect On – Social Involvement – Both – Formal And Informal

~ E-SAWLONFC-AIB-FD-TOLAPCWFAI-TV ~ Even – Social Activities With Little Or No Financial Cost – Are Inhibited By – Financial Distress – The Only Leisure Activity Positively Correlated With Financial Anxiety Is – TV

~ EA-T-W-T-D-ASOFV-D-CI ~ Even Among – The – Well-To-Do – A Sense Of Financial Vulnerability – Dampens – Community Involvement

~ CEASC-HDAEF-BWAM-WON-MOS-FSOFC ~ Civic Engagement And Social Connectedness – Have Diminished Almost Equally For – Both Women And Men – Working Or Not – Married Or Single – Financially Stressed Or Financially Comfortable

~ RS-I-SA-W-CE ~ Residential Stability – Is – Strongly Associated – With – Civic Engagement

~ STT-MT-AITC-LTF-FAN-M-CP-A-SO ~ Sprawl Takes Time – More Time – Alone In The Car – Less Time For – Friends And Neighbors – Meetings – Community Projects – And – So On

~ CL-R-T-EF-T-MIEC-A-T-NF-CCNBS ~ Canned Laughter – Reflected – The – Enduring Fact – That – Mirth Is Enhanced Companionship – And – The – Novel Fact – Companionship Could Now Be Simulated

~ T-V-SB-MH-LI ~ Television – Viewing – Steadily Became – More Habitual – Less Intentional

~ ITDRCE-HDIDS?-TP:CFST;HPETISP;SPC-UCM ~ If Television Does Reduce Civic Engagement – How Does It Do So? – Three Possibilities: Competes For Scarce Time; Has Psychological Effects That Inhibit Social Participation; Specific Programmatic Content – Undermines Civic Motivations

~ APEOT-NJ-P-BA-TAA-I-I-EOMV ~ Another Probable Effect Of Television – Not Just – Programming – But Also – The Associated Advertising – Is – Its – Encouragement Of Materialist Values

~ ATVL-TAIEC-AWAIT-CM-WHBU-AMLTN-TAR ~ At The Very Least – Television And Its Electronic Cousins – Are Willing Accomplices In The – Civic Mystery – We Have Been Unravelling – And More Likely Than Not – They Are Ringleaders

~ TRO-L-B/S/OLBF-B-F-F-ME-OMADICCOTPOBL ~ The Replacement Of – Local – Banks / Shops / Other Locally Based Firms – By – Far-Flung – Multinational Empires – Often Means A Decline In Civic Commitment On The Part Of Business Leaders

~ SC-SE-O-I/C/EN ~ Social Capital – Salutary Effects – On – Individuals / Communities / Entire Nations

~ Y-CC-HMU-H/W/W ~ Yes – Civic Connections – Help Make Us – Healthy / Wealthy / Wise

~ LWSCINE ~ Living Without Social Capital Is Not Easy

~ ‘C-AP’-ABSBA-IM-WTPTECWTCDB ~ “Collective-Action Problems” – Are Best Solved By An – Institutional Mechanism – With The Power To Ensure Compliance With The Collectively Desirable Behavior

~ AS-SI-IFMITAWHP-IE-THDOY-ICARHPPVTSCD ~ A State’s – Social Infrastructure – Is Far More Important Than Anyone Would Have Predicted – In Ensuring – The Healthy Development Of Youth – Individual Children At Risk Have Proven Particularly Vulnerable To Social Capital Deficits

~ NWHLOSCTTBGPTRC ~ Neighborhoods With High Levels Of Social Capital Tend To Be Good Places To Raise Children

~ NSC:M/S/M/O ~ Neighborhood Social Capital: Monitoring / Socializing / Mentoring / Organizing

~ SCIS-RABMTWAHASOWTT ~ Social Capital Is Self-Reinforcing And Benefits Most Those Who Already Have A Stock On Which To Trade

~ VGANAPFWAOD-A-TAOSC-N/T/NOA-DNEP ~ Voluntary Groups Are Not A Panacea For What Ails Our Democracy – And – The Absence Of Social Capital – Norms / Trust / Networks Of Association – Does Not Eliminate Politics

~ DDNRTCBSS-B-IMMWIDAT-MOU-MOTT-WRTTTC-TPOODIDIMWUSC ~ Democracy Does Not Require That Citizens Be Selfless Saints – But – In Many Modest Ways It Does Assume That – Most Of Us – Much Of The Time – Will Resist The Temptation To Cheat – The Performance Of Our Democratic Institutions Depends In Measurable Ways Upon Social Capital

~ EOSC-CWDSAI? ~ Erosion Of Social Capital – Can We Do Something About It?

~ C(ORC)SC-INST ~ Creating (Or Re-Creating) Social Capital – Is No Simple Task

~ TI-PF-FH-EGO-FE/L/D-OTOH-I-DD-MRE-S/E/C-I ~ The Internet – Potential For – Flattening Hierarchy – Encouraging Grassroots Organizing – Fostering Equality / Liberty / Democracy – On The Other Hand – Incipient – Digital Divide – Might Reinforce Existing – Social / Educational / Cultural – Inequalities

HELEN WILKES ~ THE AGING OF AQUARIUS ~ 2018

~ I-P&P-AA-E ~ Igniting – Passion & Purpose – As An – Elder

~ IINSTFTIO-‘TGL’-HBSBSPAEA ~ It Is Natural Sometimes To Forget That Images Of – “The Good Life” – Have Been Shaped By Skillful Promoters And Effective Advertising

~ WATSTOOE-GAB-UWAHAWWAAHWGH-WALTSSITP ~ We Are All The Sum Total Of Our Experiences – Good And Bad – Unless We Are Honest About Who We Are And How We Got Here – We Are Likely To Stay Stuck In The Past

~ WWFTA-THWU-WEUTTFIWATWT-TI-EP-ACB-A-DOAS-NOTSTP-T-IE-RAAD-SHNTM-O-O-P-L-M ~ When We Fail To Acknowledge – The Hole Within Us – We End Up Trying To Fill It With All The Wrong Things – These Include – Excess Possessions – A Constant Busyness – And – Distractions Of All Sorts – None Of These Solve The Problem – That – Inner Emptiness – Revolves Around A Deep-Seated Human Need To Make – Our – One – Precious – Life – Meaningful

~ HYBHAFS? ~ Have You Been Hiding A False Self?

~ T-GOD-WNSGFAWROP ~ The – Good Old Days – Were Not So Good For A Wide Range Of People

~ AA-E-ICSS-IAW-B-ICRFLTOW ~ As An – Elder – I Cannot Singlehandedly Stop – Injustice And Wrongdoing – But – I Can Refrain From Looking The Other Way

~ A-FAF-TTY-WSYC ~ Ask – Family And Friends – To Tell You – Which Sayings You Cite

~ FWB ~ Fostering Well-Being

~ WAUTFPUWSI ~ We Are Unlikely To Find Purpose Unless We Seek It

~ TPYOTBALAOAYBUOY ~ Try Patting Yourself On The Back At Least As Often As You Beat Up On Yourself

~ STWOP ~ Strong Ties With Other People

~ RIC-SI-AAM-HR ~ Researchers Increasingly Cite – Social Isolation – As A Major – Health Risk

~ PIL ~ Purpose In Life

~ C-MT-EE-EBAMAICT-VY ~ Curiosity – Marks The – Energetic Elder – Every Bit As Much As It Characterizes The – Very Young

~ CAEIUTFOC ~ Childhood And Elderhood Invite Us To Feed Our Curiosity

~ CCOC ~ Creating Circles Of Connectivity

~ FAP-WWWFTSOCAAGMPTJ ~ Friends And People – With Whom We Feel That Spark Of Connection Are A Gift More Precious Than Jewels

~ S-I-WBTAADOOOL ~ Sometimes – Inadvertently – We Become The Authors And Designers Of Our Own Loneliness

~ FOOTCCIA ~ Focus On Opportunities To Convert Compassion Into Action

~ EOUHASPOHTII-DLIPAV-WRTTSP ~ Each Of Us Has A Set Point Of Happiness That Is Inborn – Despite Life’s Inevitable Peaks And Valleys – We Revert To That Set Point

~ PGOADBAARTAP ~ Practice Gratitude On A Daily Basis At A Regular Time And Place

~ RYTGTWHABTWH-B-TLOOHIYTC ~ Remind Yourself That Good Things Will Happen And Bad Things Will Happen – But – The Level Of Overall Happiness Is Yours To Choose

~ TOHYLTBRATLYLTL ~ Think Of How You’d Like To Be Remembered And The Legacy You’d Like To Leave

~ LINMJBIINE ~ Life Is Not Meaningless Just Because It Is Not Endless

MARCEL MAUSS ~ THE GIFT ~ 1925

~ ATHNE-EIAEFCITTOO-OISTWLTSAA-POI-ATMRWICA’N’-E ~ Apparently There Has Never Existed – Either In An Era Fairly Close In Time To Our Own – Or In Societies That We Lump Together Somewhat Awkwardly As – Primitive Or Inferior – Anything That Might Resemble What Is Called A – “Natural” – Economy

~ TEOGATOTR ~ The Exchange Of Gifts And The Obligation To Reciprocate

~ TOTG ~ The Obligation To Give – The Obligation To Receive

~ TPMTH-A-TPMTTG ~ The Present Made To Humans – And – The Present Made To The Gods

~ E-T-G ~ Exchange-Through-Gift

~ L/H/M ~ Liberality / Honour / Money

~ ROG ~ Rules Of Generosity

~ MOO ~ Mechanisms Of Obligation

~ H&C ~ Honour And Credit

~ TTO:TG/TR/TR ~ The Three Obligations: To Give / To Receive / To Reciprocate

~ T-‘MOF’ ~ The – “Money Of Fame”

~ TAFOE-GPAR-SBAVLPOH-DAVLTP-M-SS ~ The Archaic Form Of Exchange – Gifts Presented And Reciprocated – Shared By A Very Large Part Of Humanity – During A Very Long Transitional Phase – Moreover – Still Subsists

~ F-E-ISNW-CITO-BAS ~ Fortunately – Everything – Is Still Not Wholly – Categorized In Terms Of – Buying And Selling

~ S-W-MUOSOTHC-TRMCBTCT-F-A-AB-O-A-TFGOTFC

~ Societies – Whether – Made Up Of Savages Or The Highly Civilized – The Rich Must Come Back To Considering Themselves – Freely – And – Also By – Obligation – As – The Financial Guardians Of Their Fellow Citizens

~ ‘TS’-CTC-TSW-IAG-EEWOA-CT-MA-SOEAL-TWCFOOWWCC ~ “Total Services” – Clan To Clan – The System In Which – Individuals And Groups – Exchange Everything With One Another – Constitutes The – Most Ancient – System Of Economy And Law – That We Can Find Or Of Which We Can Conceive

~ TV-EA-FE-TM-ASW-RAM ~ The Various – Economic Activities – For Example – The Market – Are Suffused With – Rituals And Myths

~ IIB-ORTF-B-PTWTPASOOI-TPSI-S-A/G/T-F-W/I/S ~ It Is By – Opposing Reason To Feeling – By – Pitting The Will To Peace Against Sudden Outburst Of Insanity – That People Succeed In – Substituting – Alliance / Gifts / Trade – For – War / Isolation / Stagnation

~ SHPISFATT-TS-AL-T-I-IT-HSI-SR-G-R-AF-GIR ~ Societies Have Progressed In So Far As They Themselves – Their Subgroups – And Lastly – The – Individuals – In Them – Have Succeeded In – Stabilizing Relationships – Giving – Receiving – And Finally – Giving In Return

BRENE BROWN ~ THE GUIDEPOSTS FOR WHOLEHEARTED LIVING ~ THE GIFTS OF IMPERFECTION ~ 2010

CULTIVATING:

~ A:LGO-WPT ~ Authenticity: Letting Go Of – What People Think

~ S-C:LGO-P ~ Self-Compassion: Letting Go Of – Perfectionism

~ RS:LGO-NAP ~ Resilient Spirit: Letting Go Of – Numbing And Powerlessness

~ GAJ:LGO-SAFOTD ~ Gratitude And Joy: Letting Go Of – Scarcity And Fear Of The Dark

~ IATF:LGO-TNFC ~ Intuition And Trusting Faith: Letting Go Of – The Need For Certainty

~ C:LGO-C ~ Creativity: Letting Go Of – Comparison

~ PAR:LGO-EAASS-A-PAS-W ~ Play And Rest: Letting Go Of – Exhaustion As A Status Symbol – And – Productivity As Self-Worth

~CAS:LGO-AAAL ~ Calm And Stillness: Letting Go Of – Anxiety As A Lifestyle

~ MW:LGO-S-D-A-‘ST’ ~ Meaningful Work: Letting Go Of – Self-Doubt – And – “Supposed To”

~ L/S/D:LGO-BC-A-‘AIC’ ~ Laughter / Song / Dance : Letting Go Of – Being Cool – And – “Always In Control”

BRENE BROWN ~ DEBUNKING THE VULNERABILITY MYTHS ~ DARING GREATLY ~ 2012

VULNERABILITY IS WEAKNESS

~ VITCOAEAF-TFITBV-TBVIWITBTFIW-TFOOELOOAFTTCWBTH-ITWAF-TVTTGPAMTL ~ Vulnerability Is The Core Of All Emotions And Feelings – To Feel Is To Be Vulnerable – To Believe Vulnerability Is Weakness Is To Believe That Feeling Is Weakness – To Foreclose On Our Emotional Life Out Of A Fear That The Costs Will Be Too High – Is To Walk Away From – The Very Thing That Gives Purpose And Meaning To Living

I DON’T DO VULNERABILITY

~ WCOOOT-U/R/EE-TWTODE-LIV ~ We Can’t Opt Out Of The – Uncertainty / Risk / Emotional Exposure – That’s Woven Through Our Daily Experiences – Life Is Vulnerable

VULNERABILITY IS LETTING IT ALL HANG OUT

~ V-WB-LT-D/D/D-WNTFTTBV-A-WNTBVIOTT ~ Vulnerability – Without Boundaries – Leads To – Disconnection / Distrust / Disengagement – We Need To Feel Trust To Be Vulnerable – And – We Need To Be Vulnerable In Order To Trust

BRENE BROWN ~ DARING GREATLY ~ 2012

~ LAB-INO ~ Love And Belonging – Irreducible Needs

~ LALDB-C-C-A-C ~ Living A Life Defined By – Courage – Compassion – And – Connection

~ V-I-TC-TH-TC-O-MHE ~ Vulnerability – Is – The Core – The Heart – The Center – Of – Meaningful Human Experiences

~ WATMAETDOCAHDCIOB? ~ What Are The Messages And Expectations That Define Our Culture And How Does Culture Influence Our Behaviors?

~ HAOSABRTPO? ~ How Are Our Struggles And Behaviors Related To Protecting Ourselves?

~ HAO-B/T/E-RTVATNFASSOW? ~ How Are Our – Behaviors / Thoughts / Emotions – Related To Vulnerability And The Need For A Strong Sense Of Worthiness?

~ V:U/R/EE ~ Vulnerability: Uncertainty / Risk / Emotional Exposure

~ I-AC-W? ~ Is – Accepting Accountability – Weak?

~ TPWTTW-NSOVT-DA-W-IF-TMV ~ The Participants Who Thought They Were – Not Susceptible Or Vulnerable To – Deceptive Advertising – Were – In Fact – The Most Vulnerable

~ ASOW-IUTBV-SO-A-P-S-KU-S-R-A-A ~ A Sense Of Worthiness – Inspires Us To Be Vulnerable – Share Openly – And – Persevere – Shame – Keeps Us – Small – Resentful – And – Afraid

~ SDIPFBU ~ Shame Derives Its Power From Being Unspeakable

~ TWBFAMAC ~ There Will Be Failures And Mistakes And Criticism

~ TLWTAS-TMCIHOOL ~ The Less We Talk About Shame – The More Control It Has Over Our Lives

~ SIRP-TIOSAACIRBOBC-A-TPTRFSRADIRP ~ Shame Is Real Pain – The Importance Of Social Acceptance And Connection Is Reinforced By Our Brain Chemistry – And – The Pain That Results From Social Rejection And Disconnection Is Real Pain

~ G-IJAPA-S-B-IIIP-WSID ~ Guilt – Is Just As Powerful As – Shame – But – It’s Influence Is Positive – While Shame’s Is Destructive

~ E-ICWTETSIE-NTEOTC ~ Empathy – Is Connecting With The Emotion That Someone Is Experiencing – Not The Event Or The Circumstance

~ TSDTMIRTIWA-T-MEW ~ Shame Dissipated The Minute I Realized That I Wasn’t Alone – That – My Experience Was Human

~ TAO-WATE-FALA-FOTWAD-F-TOFD-CPMCIPAMH ~ The Act Of – Writing About Traumatic Experience – For As Little As – Fifteen Or Twenty Minutes A Day – For – Three Or Four Days – Can Produce Measurable Changes In Physical And Mental Health

~ TINIWV-YAPEOVAC ~ There Is No Intimacy Without Vulnerability – Yet Another Powerful Example Of Vulnerability As Courage

~ AMT-D-D-O-DTF-AGOP-AACO-‘B’-IAACAP-RBDND ~ Asking Members To – Dislike – Disown – Or – Distance Themselves From – Another Group Of People – As A Condition Of – “Belonging” – Is Always About Control And Power – Real Belonging Doesn’t Necessitate Disdain

~ V-ITLTIWYTSIM-B-TFTILFIY ~ Vulnerability – Is The Last Thing I Want You To See In Me – But – The First Thing I Look For In You

~ W-V-W-T-C-A-MS-WWS ~ We’re – Visual – We – Trust – Consume – And – Mentally Store – What We See

~ J-CTUIM-OM ~ Joy – Comes To Us In Moments – Ordinary Moments

~ BGFWYH ~ Be Grateful For What You Have

~ DSJ-Y0IV-B-ETWAOTLIJAGITTM-WBR-A-WCH ~ Don’t Squander Joy – Yes – It’s Vulnerable – But – Every Time We Allow Ourselves To Lean Into Joy And Give In To Those Moments – We Build Resilience – And – We Cultivate Hope

~ WWSCAWPT-WLOCFC-WWBDBWPT-WLOWTBV-IWDATC-WLOOIF-B-IWSOTTH-OSGC-IAT-ATSNBITOOTPIOLWCHUR-C ~ When We Stop Caring About What People Think – We Lose Our Capacity For Connection – When We Become Defined By What People Think – We Lose Our Willingness To Be Vulnerable – If We Dismiss All The Criticism – We Lose Out On Important Feedback – But – If We Subject Ourselves To The Hatefulness – Our Spirits Get Crushed – It’s A Tightrope – And – The Safety Net Below Is The One Or Two People In Our Lives Who Can Help Us Reality-Check

~ WCGPWWDH-WWA-MIMT-WWK-O-WWWTB ~ We Can’t Give People What We Don’t Have – Who We Are – Matters Immeasurably More Than – What We Know – Or – Who We Want To Be

~ VIATHOTFP ~ Vulnerability Is At The Heart Of The Feedback Process

~ H-IAFO-S ~ Hope – Is A Function Of – Struggle