BRENE BROWN ~ THE GUIDEPOSTS FOR WHOLEHEARTED LIVING ~ THE GIFTS OF IMPERFECTION ~ 2010

CULTIVATING:

~ A:LGO-WPT ~ Authenticity: Letting Go Of – What People Think

~ S-C:LGO-P ~ Self-Compassion: Letting Go Of – Perfectionism

~ RS:LGO-NAP ~ Resilient Spirit: Letting Go Of – Numbing And Powerlessness

~ GAJ:LGO-SAFOTD ~ Gratitude And Joy: Letting Go Of – Scarcity And Fear Of The Dark

~ IATF:LGO-TNFC ~ Intuition And Trusting Faith: Letting Go Of – The Need For Certainty

~ C:LGO-C ~ Creativity: Letting Go Of – Comparison

~ PAR:LGO-EAASS-A-PAS-W ~ Play And Rest: Letting Go Of – Exhaustion As A Status Symbol – And – Productivity As Self-Worth

~CAS:LGO-AAAL ~ Calm And Stillness: Letting Go Of – Anxiety As A Lifestyle

~ MW:LGO-S-D-A-‘ST’ ~ Meaningful Work: Letting Go Of – Self-Doubt – And – “Supposed To”

~ L/S/D:LGO-BC-A-‘AIC’ ~ Laughter / Song / Dance : Letting Go Of – Being Cool – And – “Always In Control”

BRENE BROWN ~ DEBUNKING THE VULNERABILITY MYTHS ~ DARING GREATLY ~ 2012

VULNERABILITY IS WEAKNESS

~ VITCOAEAF-TFITBV-TBVIWITBTFIW-TFOOELOOAFTTCWBTH-ITWAF-TVTTGPAMTL ~ Vulnerability Is The Core Of All Emotions And Feelings – To Feel Is To Be Vulnerable – To Believe Vulnerability Is Weakness Is To Believe That Feeling Is Weakness – To Foreclose On Our Emotional Life Out Of A Fear That The Costs Will Be Too High – Is To Walk Away From – The Very Thing That Gives Purpose And Meaning To Living

I DON’T DO VULNERABILITY

~ WCOOOT-U/R/EE-TWTODE-LIV ~ We Can’t Opt Out Of The – Uncertainty / Risk / Emotional Exposure – That’s Woven Through Our Daily Experiences – Life Is Vulnerable

VULNERABILITY IS LETTING IT ALL HANG OUT

~ V-WB-LT-D/D/D-WNTFTTBV-A-WNTBVIOTT ~ Vulnerability – Without Boundaries – Leads To – Disconnection / Distrust / Disengagement – We Need To Feel Trust To Be Vulnerable – And – We Need To Be Vulnerable In Order To Trust

BRENE BROWN ~ DARING GREATLY ~ 2012

~ LAB-INO ~ Love And Belonging – Irreducible Needs

~ LALDB-C-C-A-C ~ Living A Life Defined By – Courage – Compassion – And – Connection

~ V-I-TC-TH-TC-O-MHE ~ Vulnerability – Is – The Core – The Heart – The Center – Of – Meaningful Human Experiences

~ WATMAETDOCAHDCIOB? ~ What Are The Messages And Expectations That Define Our Culture And How Does Culture Influence Our Behaviors?

~ HAOSABRTPO? ~ How Are Our Struggles And Behaviors Related To Protecting Ourselves?

~ HAO-B/T/E-RTVATNFASSOW? ~ How Are Our – Behaviors / Thoughts / Emotions – Related To Vulnerability And The Need For A Strong Sense Of Worthiness?

~ V:U/R/EE ~ Vulnerability: Uncertainty / Risk / Emotional Exposure

~ I-AC-W? ~ Is – Accepting Accountability – Weak?

~ TPWTTW-NSOVT-DA-W-IF-TMV ~ The Participants Who Thought They Were – Not Susceptible Or Vulnerable To – Deceptive Advertising – Were – In Fact – The Most Vulnerable

~ ASOW-IUTBV-SO-A-P-S-KU-S-R-A-A ~ A Sense Of Worthiness – Inspires Us To Be Vulnerable – Share Openly – And – Persevere – Shame – Keeps Us – Small – Resentful – And – Afraid

~ SDIPFBU ~ Shame Derives Its Power From Being Unspeakable

~ TWBFAMAC ~ There Will Be Failures And Mistakes And Criticism

~ TLWTAS-TMCIHOOL ~ The Less We Talk About Shame – The More Control It Has Over Our Lives

~ SIRP-TIOSAACIRBOBC-A-TPTRFSRADIRP ~ Shame Is Real Pain – The Importance Of Social Acceptance And Connection Is Reinforced By Our Brain Chemistry – And – The Pain That Results From Social Rejection And Disconnection Is Real Pain

~ G-IJAPA-S-B-IIIP-WSID ~ Guilt – Is Just As Powerful As – Shame – But – It’s Influence Is Positive – While Shame’s Is Destructive

~ E-ICWTETSIE-NTEOTC ~ Empathy – Is Connecting With The Emotion That Someone Is Experiencing – Not The Event Or The Circumstance

~ TSDTMIRTIWA-T-MEW ~ Shame Dissipated The Minute I Realized That I Wasn’t Alone – That – My Experience Was Human

~ TAO-WATE-FALA-FOTWAD-F-TOFD-CPMCIPAMH ~ The Act Of – Writing About Traumatic Experience – For As Little As – Fifteen Or Twenty Minutes A Day – For – Three Or Four Days – Can Produce Measurable Changes In Physical And Mental Health

~ TINIWV-YAPEOVAC ~ There Is No Intimacy Without Vulnerability – Yet Another Powerful Example Of Vulnerability As Courage

~ AMT-D-D-O-DTF-AGOP-AACO-‘B’-IAACAP-RBDND ~ Asking Members To – Dislike – Disown – Or – Distance Themselves From – Another Group Of People – As A Condition Of – “Belonging” – Is Always About Control And Power – Real Belonging Doesn’t Necessitate Disdain

~ V-ITLTIWYTSIM-B-TFTILFIY ~ Vulnerability – Is The Last Thing I Want You To See In Me – But – The First Thing I Look For In You

~ W-V-W-T-C-A-MS-WWS ~ We’re – Visual – We – Trust – Consume – And – Mentally Store – What We See

~ J-CTUIM-OM ~ Joy – Comes To Us In Moments – Ordinary Moments

~ BGFWYH ~ Be Grateful For What You Have

~ DSJ-Y0IV-B-ETWAOTLIJAGITTM-WBR-A-WCH ~ Don’t Squander Joy – Yes – It’s Vulnerable – But – Every Time We Allow Ourselves To Lean Into Joy And Give In To Those Moments – We Build Resilience – And – We Cultivate Hope

~ WWSCAWPT-WLOCFC-WWBDBWPT-WLOWTBV-IWDATC-WLOOIF-B-IWSOTTH-OSGC-IAT-ATSNBITOOTPIOLWCHUR-C ~ When We Stop Caring About What People Think – We Lose Our Capacity For Connection – When We Become Defined By What People Think – We Lose Our Willingness To Be Vulnerable – If We Dismiss All The Criticism – We Lose Out On Important Feedback – But – If We Subject Ourselves To The Hatefulness – Our Spirits Get Crushed – It’s A Tightrope – And – The Safety Net Below Is The One Or Two People In Our Lives Who Can Help Us Reality-Check

~ WCGPWWDH-WWA-MIMT-WWK-O-WWWTB ~ We Can’t Give People What We Don’t Have – Who We Are – Matters Immeasurably More Than – What We Know – Or – Who We Want To Be

~ VIATHOTFP ~ Vulnerability Is At The Heart Of The Feedback Process

~ H-IAFO-S ~ Hope – Is A Function Of – Struggle