DALE CARNEGIE ~ BE A LEADER ~ CHANGING YOUR PEOPLE’S ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIORS ~ HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE ~ 1936

~ BS-DNPATYCD-FATBTYACOTBTTOP ~ Be Sincere – Do Not Promise Anything That You Cannot Deliver – Forget About The Benefits To Yourself And Concentrate On The Benefits To The Other Person

~ KEWIIYWTOPTD ~ Know Exactly What It Is You Want The Other Person To Do

~ BE-AYWIITOPRW ~ Be Empathetic – Ask Yourself What It Is The Other Person Really Wants

~ CTBTPWRFDWYS-MTBTTOPW ~ Consider The Benefits That Person Will Receive From Doing What You Suggest – Match Those Benefits To The Other Person’s Wants

~ WYMYR-PIIAFTWCTTOPTIT[S/]HPWB ~ When You Make Your Request – Put It In A Form That Will Convey To The Other Person The Idea That [S/]He Personally Will Benefit

~ BWPAHA ~ Begin With Praise And Honest Appreciation

~ CATPMI ~ Call Attention To People’s Mistakes Indirectly

~ TAYOMBCTOP ~ Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person

~ AQIOGDO ~ Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders

~ LTOPSF ~ Let The Other Person Save Face

~ PTSIAPEI ~ Praise The Slightest Improvement And Praise Every Improvement

~ GTOPAFRTLUT ~ Give The Other Person A Fine Reputation To Live Up To

~ UE-MTFSETC ~ Use Encouragement – Make The Fault Seem Easy To Correct

~ MTOPHABTTYS ~ Make The Other Person Happy About Doing The Thing You Suggest

DALE CARNEGIE ~ WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING ~ HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE ~ 1936

~ TOWTGTBOAAITAI ~ The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It

~ SRFTOPO-NS-‘YW’ ~ Show Respect For The Other Person’s Opinions – Never Say – “You’re Wrong”

~ IYAW-AIQAE ~ If You Are Wrong – Admit It Quickly And Emphatically

~ BIAFW ~ Begin In A Friendly Way

~ GTOPS-‘Y-Y’-I ~ Get The Other Person Saying – “Yes – Yes” – Immediately

~ LTOPDAGDOTT ~ Let The Other Person Do A Great Deal Of The Talking

~ LTOPFTTIIHOH ~ Let The Other Person Feel That The Idea Is His Or Hers

~ THTSTFTOPPOV ~ Try Honestly To See Things From The Other Person’s Point Of View

~ BSWTOPIAD ~ Be Sympathetic With The Other Person’s Ideas And Desires

~ ATTNM ~ Appeal To The Nobler Motives

~ DYI ~ Dramatize Your Ideas

~ TDAC ~ Throw Down A Challenge

SUSAN JEFFERS ~ SEVEN WAYS TO RECLAIM YOUR POWER ~ FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY ~ 1987

~ ACBOAEFFYBFAL-NOYCCYTOYA ~ Avoid Casting Blame On An External Force For Your Bad Feelings About Life – Nothing Outside Yourself Can Control Your Thinking Or Your Actions

~ ABYFNBIC-YADTBYCAYAOTWTRYP ~ Avoid Blaming Yourself For Not Being In Control – You Are Doing The Best You Can And You Are On The Way To Reclaiming Your Power

~ BAOWAWYA-PTVR-LTCTTYTYA-NBRFWYA:B/H/D/F ~ Be Aware Of When And Where You Are – Playing The Victim Role – Learn The Clues That Tell You That You Are – Not Being Responsible For What You Are: Being / Having / Doing / Feeling

~ FYWYBE-Y-C-RIW-ALIF ~ Familiarize Yourself With Your Biggest Enemy – Your – Chatterbox – Replace It With – A Loving Internal Friend

~ FOT-P-TKY-‘S’-P-OYFT-YWPBAQTB-‘U’ ~ Figure Out The – Payoffs – That Keep You – “Stuck” – Paradoxically – Once You Find Them – You Will Probably Be Able Quickly To Become – “Unstuck”

~ DWYWILAAOI-SWFSTGITY ~ Determine What You Want In Life And Act On It – Stop Waiting For Someone To Give It To You

~ BAOTMCYH-IB-AAF-IASTCYW-CTPTCTYGAMYFAPWYAO ~ Be Aware Of The Many Choices You Have – In Both – Actions And Feelings – In Any Situation That Comes Your Way – Choose The Path That Contributes To Your Growth And Makes You Feel At Peace With Yourself And Others

SUSAN JEFFERS ~ TAKING RESPONSIBILITY MEANS ~ FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY ~ 1987

~ NBAEFAYA-B-D-H-O-F ~ Never Blaming Anyone Else For Anything You Are – Being – Doing – Having – Or – Feeling

~ NBY ~ Not Blaming Yourself

~ BAOWAWYANTRSTYCEC ~ Being Aware Of Where And When You Are Not Taking Responsibility So That You Can Eventually Change

~ H-TC-TLVI-TVTTTDYC ~ Handling – The Chatterbox – The Little Voice Inside – The Voice That Tries To Drive You Crazy

~ BAO-P-TKY-‘S’ ~ Being Aware Of – Payoffs – That Keep You – “Stuck”

~ FOWYWIL-A-AOI ~ Figuring Out What You Want In Life – And – Acting On It

~ BAOTMOCYHIAGS ~ Being Aware Of The Multitude Of Choices You Have In Any Given Situation

SUSAN JEFFERS ~ TRUTH ~ FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY ~ 1987

~ T1:TFWNGAALAICTG ~ Truth 1: The Fear Will Never Go Away As Long As I Continue To Grow

~ T2:TOWTGROTFODSITGOADI ~ Truth 2: The Only Way To Get Rid Of The Fear Of Doing Something Is To Go Out And Do It

~ T3:TOWTFBAMIT-GOADI ~ Truth 3: The Only Way To Feel Better About Myself Is To – Go Out And Do It

~ T4:NOAIGTEFWIOUT-B-SIEE ~ Truth 4: Not Only Am I Going To Experience Fear Whenever I’m On Unfamiliar Territory – But – So Is Everyone Else

~ T5:PTFILFTLWTUFTCFAFOH ~ Truth 5: Pushing Through Fear Is Less Frightening Than Living With The Underlying Fear That Comes From A Feeling Of Helplessness

SUSAN JEFFERS ~ FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY ~ 1987

~ YCAFASAFOLRTABTS ~ You Can Accept Fear As Simply A Fact Of Life Rather Than A Barrier To Success

~ ATBOEOOYFISTFTYCHWLMBY ~ At The Bottom Of Every One Of Your Fears Is Simply The Fear That You Can’t Handle Whatever Life May Bring You

~ IYKYCHATCYW-WWYPHTF? ~ If You Knew You Could Handle Anything That Came Your Way – What Would You Possibly Have To Fear?

~ AYHTDTDYFITDMTIYATHWCYW ~ All You Have To Do To Diminish Your Fear Is To Develop More Trust In Your Ability To Handle Whatever Comes Your Way!

~ WHTM-GAS-ICHI ~ Whatever Happens To Me – Given Any Situation – I Can Handle It!

~ I-EFFWASTNIL-Y-SMAOT-‘DI’-DTF-TWMCT-FINTP ~ If – Everybody Feels Fear When Approaching Something Totally New In Life – Yet – So Many Are Out There – “Doing It” – Despite The Fear – Then We Must Conclude That – Fear Is Not The Problem

~ IAPAIAL-IAPAIAL-IAPAILI ~ I Am Powerful And I Am Loved – I Am Powerful And I Am Loving – I Am Powerful And I Love It

~ P-T-PV ~ Pain-To-Power Vocabulary

~ TTIYRAIC-ITC-YATCOY-R-TETHTY-KRTWYANTR-YPYIAPOP-AH-DYATHTFIYL ~ The Truth Is You Really Are In Control – In Total Control – You Are The Cause Of Your – Reactions – To Everything That Happens To You – Keep Remembering That Whenever You Are Not Taking Responsibility – You Put Yourself In A Position Of Pain – And Hence – Decrease Your Ability To Handle The Fear In Your Life

~ IIAE-THTSOA-S-M-A-I-GOP ~ It Is Amazingly Empowering – To Have The Support Of A – Strong – Motivated – And – Inspirational – Group Of People

~ WPILWMYG?-TITPTT ~ Which Path In Life Will Make You Grow? – That Is The Path To Take

~ N-W-M ~ No-Win – Model

~ N-L-M ~ No-Lose – Model

~ TKT-YCHATCYW-ITKTAYTT-H-L-A-R ~ The Knowledge That – You Can Handle Anything That Comes Your Way – Is The Key To Allowing Yourself To Take – Healthy – Life-Affirming – Risks

~ YNAFIYDMI;YASBYT ~ You’re Not A Failure If You Don’t Make It; You’re A Success Because You Try

~ A-ITKTYS ~ Action – Is The Key To Your Success

~ AO-P-IVI-DID ~ Acknowledgement Of – Pain – Is Very Important – Denial Is Deadly

~ S-Y-MGUAAOYBTYCCMAPIWLHY ~ Saying – Yes – Means Getting Up And Acting On Your Belief That You Can Create Meaning And Purpose In Whatever Life Hands You

~ TWIFWPWHBH-T-W-LHTO-A-THCOW! ~ The World Is Filled With People Who Have Been Handed – The – “Worst” – Life Has To Offer – And – They Have Come Out Winners!

~ IAY-‘G’-IA-‘G’-THFYWB ~ If All Your – “Giving” – Is About – “Getting” – Think How Fearful You Will Become

~ GGINOA;IAMUFB ~ Genuine Giving Is Not Only Altruistic; It Also Makes Us Feel Better

~ WWGFAPOL-RT-FAPOE-MUCBTUTWCEHI ~ When We Give From A Place Of Love – Rather Than – From A Place Of Expectation – More Usually Comes Back To Us Than We Could Ever Have Imagined

~ GAT ~ Give Away Thanks

~ GAI ~ Give Away Information

~ GAP ~ Give Away Praise

~ YMBWYWTA-BTKOPWWWTSYW ~ You Must Become What You Want To Attract – Be The Kind Of Person You Would Want To Surround Yourself With

~ GAT ~ Give Away Time

~ GAM ~ Give Away Money

~ GAL ~ Give Away Love

~ TLITBATG-A-NITTTB ~ To Love Is To Be Able To Give – And – Now Is The Time To Begin

~ YLIA-A-YC! ~ Your Life Is Abundant – And – You Count!

~ IWDNCACFOTSPOO-WWNETKO-J-S-S-A-C-WAAS ~ If We Do Not Consciously And Consistently Focus On The Spiritual Part Of Ourselves – We Will Never Experience The Kind Of – Joy – Satisfaction – Safety – And – Connectedness – We Are All Seeking

~ WCTBRIOHWTINWTBR? ~ Why Choose To Be Right Instead Of Happy When There Is No Way To Be Right?

~ TIPOT ~ There Is Plenty Of Time

DANIEL PINK ~ WHEN ~ RIVERHEAD BOOKS ~ 2018

~ WAKT-TIE-TI-WDKMAT ~ We All Know That – Timing Is Everything – Trouble Is – We Don’t Know Much About Timing

~ OCADNRSOTCOAD-WA-S/F/S/MC/LC-ISPOTDTO-TDFAMETWR ~ Our Cognitive Abilities Do Not Remain Static Over The Course Of A Day – We Are – Smarter / Faster / Dimmer / Slower / More Creative / Less Creative – In Some Parts Of The Day Than Others – These Daily Fluctuations Are More Extreme Than We Realize

~ WWWUOBTSR-T-GBO-ELAA-A-T-EOEF-OATC-OPOD ~ When We Wake Up Our Body Temperature Slowly Rises – That – Gradually Boosts Our – Energy Levels And Alertness – And That – Enhances Our Executive Functioning – Our Ability To Concentrate – Our Powers Of Deduction

~ AAEL-PDTA-WTDCAC-FIOATRF-A-COI ~ Alertness And Energy Levels – Plummet During The Afternoons – With That Drop Comes A Corresponding – Fall In Our Ability To Remain Focused – And – Constrain Our Inhibitions

~ B-IPAD-TRLVAFI-ATLM-AFDCHUSCWMHMWOFWT-FAP-LOIC-IAB-FIP-IAF ~ But – Insight Problems Are Different – They Require Less Vigilance And Fewer Inhibitions – At Those Looser Moments – A Few Distractions Can Help Us Spot Connections We Might Have Missed When Our Filters Were Tighter – For Analytic Problems – Lack Of Inhibitory Control – Is A Bug – For Insight Problems – It’s A Feature

~ AOUETDITS-AP-AT-A-AR-WYD-DNLMTCIYPP ~ All Of Us Experience The Day In Three Stages – A Peak – A Trough – And – A Rebound – Whatever You Do – Do Not Let Mundane Tasks Creep Into Your Peak Period

~ TMPLBHTKI-A-A-D-BPAP ~ The Most Powerful Lunch Breaks Have Two Key Ingredients – Autonomy – And – Detachment – Both Psychological And Physical

~ LITMIMOTD ~ Lunch Is The Most Important Meal Of The Day

~ N-CTKB-TICP-A-TBMAPH ~ Naps – Confer Two Key Benefits – They Improve Cognitive Performance – And – They Boost Mental And Physical Health

~ SAANCRBP ~ Simply Anticipating A Nap Can Reduce Blood Pressure

~ BHAFGITMOUU-B-IF-CMTTE ~ Beginnings Have A Far Greater Impact Than Most Of Us Understand – Beginnings – In Fact – Can Matter To The End

~ IME-WSBATTPOBAATMASS-ITF-MAFS-A-ITBIBYC-WCEOTAAGS ~ In Most Endeavors – We Should Be Awake To The Power Of Beginnings And Aim To Make A Strong Start – If That Fails – Make A Fresh Start – And – If The Beginning Is Beyond Our Control – We Can Enlist Others To Attempt A Group Start

~ BSWUFLTWK-TELTTE ~ Beginnings Stay With Us Far Longer Than We Know – Their Effects Linger To The End

~ WWRA-M-SWS-B-OTWJ-AMSAUTWSHOOT-U-O-WROOT ~ When We Reach A – Midpoint – Sometimes We Slump – But – Other Times We Jump – A Mental Siren Alerts Us That We’ve Squandered Half Of Our Time – Uh-Oh – We’re Running Out Of Time

~ TEPOESMOOOASD-NBTFE-B-BCM-EATE ~ The Encoding Power Of Endings Shapes Many Of Our Opinions And Subsequent Decisions – Not By The Full Experience – But – By Certain Moments – Especially At The End

~ Y-WEBS-WWEA-AT-OAK-WSO-ERP-A-SO-AOA-N-WB-TCF-WE ~ Yet – When Endings Become Salient – Whenever We Enter An – Act Three – Of Any Kind – We Sharpen Our – Existential Red Pencils – And – Scratch Out – Anyone Or Anything – Nonessential – Well Before – The Curtain Falls – We Edit

~ PITACW-L-RLTCMMTTPWKIWS-N ~ People Informed That A Chocolate Was – Last – Reported Liking That Chocolate Much More Than The People Who Knew It Was Simply – Next

~ TBEDLU-H-I-TP-AROUI-AFMOT ~ The Best Endings Don’t Leave Us – Happy – Instead – They Produce – A Rush Of Unexpected Insight – A Fleeting Moment Of Transcendence

~ C/C/C-ITE-WSM ~ Closings / Conclusions / Culminations – In The End – We Seek Meaning

~ B-PSOTAE-IALTIE-IPTHAS ~ Belongingness – Profoundly Shapes Our Thoughts And Emotions – Its Absence Leads To Ill Effects – Its Presence To Health And Satisfaction

~ IUTBT-TWE-N-IBT-EIT ~ I Used To Believe That – Timing Was Everything – Now – I Believe That – Everything Is Timing