EMILY ESFAHANI SMITH ~ THE POWER OF MEANING ~ 2017

~ WLHM-ITO-L-O-DQ-T-P-HEAAATA-II-TMIQOA ~ Whether Life Has Meaning – Is The Only – Life-Or-Death Question – That – Philosophy – Has Ever Asked And Attempted To Answer – It Is – The Most Important Question Of All

~ WLFREOTW-A-SOAU-B-TWI-C/D/S ~ We Long For Rational Explanations Of The World – And – Seek Order And Unity – But – The World Is – Chaotic / Disordered / Senseless

~ TFPOM:B/P/S/T ~ The Four Pillars Of Meaning: Belonging / Purpose / Storytelling / Transcendence

~ ASOB-CIA-TMIDOM ~ A Sense Of Belonging – Clocks In As – The Most Important Driver Of Meaning

~ P-NMT-FAS-T-LFAHL-TNN-LAC-TN-TBTS ~ People – Need More That – Food And Shelter – To – Live Full And Healthy Lives – They Need – Love And Care – They Need – To Belong To Someone

~ AS-PASLTWFAN-A-MTIFO-T/P/C ~ Across Society – People Are Spending Less Time With Friends And Neighbors – And – More Time In Front Of – Television / Phone / Computer

~ SE-I-ATTM ~ Social Exclusion – Is – A Threat To Meaning

~ TSMOR-CKTMOOAC-AEA-TSMOBCBIU ~ The Smallest Moment Of Rejection – Can Knock The Meaning Out Of A Connection – As Easily As – The Smallest Moment Of Belonging Can Build It Up

~ C-LATCO-B ~ Compassion – Lies At The Center Of – Belonging

~ MGT-HAT-IOFIT-LML-TMCT-S/T/C-TLWT-A-UTFTBOO ~ Many Great Thinkers – Have Argued That – In Order For Individuals To – Live Meaningful Lives – They Must Cultivate The – Strengths / Talents / Capacities – That Lie Within Them – And – Use Them For The Benefit Of Others

~ ETMTTCBMPWTBTPYL ~ Even The Most Tedious Tasks Can Be Made Purposeful When They Benefit The People You Love

~ NAOUW-FOC-B-TDMWC-FP ~ Not All Of Us Will – Find Our Calling – But – That Doesn’t Mean We Can’t – Find Purpose

~ EOUHA-COP-F/C/W-WLWCI-TALECLB ~ Each Of Us Has A – Circle Of People – Families / Communities / Work – Whose Lives We Can Improve – That’s A Legacy Everyone Can Leave Behind

~ OSIEFAD-SNAHS:TNTMSOTW-SAPEWICTDOI-UWWAAHWGTW ~ Our Storytelling Impulse Emerges From A Deep-Seated Need All Humans Share: The Need To Make Sense Of The World – Stories Are Particularly Essential When It Comes To Defining Our Identity – Understanding Who We Are And How We Got That Way

~ O-S-TTFOTM-EE-OOL-GAB-B-TATETWNTMSO-TATETSU ~ Our – Stories – Tend To Focus On The Most – Extraordinary Events – Of Our Lives – Good And Bad – Because – Those Are The Experiences That We Need To Make Sense Of – Those Are The Experiences That Shape Us

~ T-O-OA-RS-I-A-‘CS’ ~ The – Opposite – Of A – Redemptive Story – Is – A – “Contamination Story”

~ WAATAOOOSACCTCTWWTT ~ We Are All The Authors Of Our Own Stories And Can Choose To Change The Way We’re Telling Them

~ BWAFMISTBO ~ But We Also Find Meaning In Stories Told By Others

~ A-BWM-WUTS-BAGWOA-DARR-O-ITHDR-CTU ~ A – Brush With Mystery – Whether Underneath The Stars – Before A Gorgeous Work Of Art – During A Religious Ritual – Or – In The Hospital Delivery Room – Can Transform Us

~ TE-CL-D-SP-W-Y-STTCAPUTGIWTUMUWAOLMF-WDSBROTPO-B/P/S/T-ITPAS-WBATLOTWAS-B-I-TPCOFAAROAST-WCRTTBESAMR ~ Traumatic Experiences – Can Leave – Deep – Sometimes Permanent – Wounds – Yet – Struggling Through Them Can Also Push Us To Grow In Ways That Ultimately Make Us Wiser And Our Lives More Fulfilling – We Do So By Relying On The Pillars Of – Belonging / Purpose / Storytelling / Transcendence – If Those Pillars Are Strong – We’ll Be Able To Lean On Them When Adversity Strikes – But – If – The Pillars Crumble Or Fall As A Result Of A Shattering Trauma – We Can Rebuild Them To Be Even Stronger And More Resilient

~ VRE-A-FBOP-DNLT-HB-B-SAT-W-D-IHUMBO-IER-T-SD-EWIUH ~ Venting Raw Emotions – And – Falling Back On Platitudes – Does Not Lead To – Health Benefits – But – Sustained And Thoughtful – Writing – Does – It Helps Us Move Beyond Our – Initial Emotional Reactions – To – Something Deeper – Expressive Writing Is Uniquely Healing

~ COM ~ Cultures Of Meaning

~ HMIL-HBAW-L-BIF-A-MGMITB ~ Having Meaning In Life – Has Been Associated With – Longevity – Better Immune Functioning – And – More Gray Matter In The Brain

~ WT-SOD-OLPTCTT-L-A-M-ICABA-C-FTTWO-ATHNDB-TMOTL ~ While The – Specter Of Death – Often Leads People To Conclude That Their – Lives – Are – Meaningless – It Can Also Be A – Catalyst – For Them To Work Out – As They Have Never Done Before – The Meaning Of Their Lives

CHIP HEATH + DAN HEATH ~ THE POWER OF MOMENTS ~ 2017

~ DM-ME-TSOIOM-MOTOAGDTC-MOODMJHTU-DM-SOL-B-WDHTWFTTH-WCBTAOT ~ Defining Moments – Meaningful Experiences – That Stand Out In Our Memory – Many Of Them Owe A Great Deal To Chance – Most Of Our Defining Moments Just Happen To Us – Defining Moments – Shape Our Lives – But – We Don’t Have To Wait For Them To Happen – We Can Be The Authors Of Them

~ OLAMIM ~ Our Lives Are Measured In Moments

~ IRAE-WIMOWHAFIO-AFPM-TKM-TBOWM-KAT-‘P’-A-T-E-BM-T-TWIPTTA-T-WEB-EAB ~ In Recalling An Experience – We Ignore Most Of What Happened And Focus Instead On – A Few Particular Moments – Two Key Moments – The Best Or Worst Moment – Known As The – “Peak” – And – The – Ending – Beginnings Matter – Too – That’s Why It’s Preferable To Talk About – Transitions – Which Encompass Both – Endings And Beginnings

~ WWAOE-WD-AOM-B-MS-R-WTTRFM:TP/TP/TT ~ When We Assess Our Experiences – We Don’t – Average Our Minute-By-Minute Sensations – Rather – We Tend To Remember Flagship Moments: The Peaks / The Pits / The Transitions

~ DM-ACF-OOM-OTFFE:E-ATE;I-ROUOOOTW;RS-TMIOL;P-CUAOB;C-WSTWO ~ Defining Moments – Are Created From – One Or More – Of The Following Four Elements: Elevation – Above The Everyday; Insight – Rewire Our Understanding Of Ourselves Or The World – Realize Something – That Might Influence Our Lives; Pride – Capture Us At Our Best; Connection – We Share Them With Others

~ MM-A-WAOWMWWLTTC! ~ Moments Matter – And – What An Opportunity We Miss When We Leave Them To Chance!

~ TLOAPTA-EFD-I-M-B-WA-WO-T-MANTMFIAA ~ The Lack Of Attention Paid To An – Employee’s First Day – Is – Mind-Boggling – What A – Wasted Opportunity – To – Make A New Team Member Feel Included And Appreciated

~ WMUWSMAN-WMLT-TIM-TSTOTAWOI-‘M-S’ ~ We Must Understand When Special Moments Are Needed – We Must Learn To – Think In Moments – To Spot The Occasions That Are Worthy Of Investment – “Moment-Spotting”

~ MAWWRAWWC ~ Moments Are What We Remember And What We Cherish

~ T-L-M-A-P-A-NDM ~ Transitions – Like – Milestones – And – Pits – Are – Natural Defining Moments

~ P-CSBFI-P ~ Pits – Can Sometimes Be Flipped Into – Peaks

~ B-AYMOT-O-S/C-O-C-ACT?-AY-TIM? ~ But – Are You Missing Opportunities To – Offer – Support / Congratulations – Or – Counsel – At Critical Times? – Are You – Thinking In Moments?

~ ‘FDE’ ~ “First Day Experience”

~ T-AONOP-IPGIO-W-RR-TTGTDFPTB ~ The – Absence Or Neglect Of Peaks – Is Particularly Glaring In Organizations – Where – Relentless Routines – Tend To Grind Them Down From Peaks To Bumps

~ T-CF-YN-T-R-A-TRW ~ To – Create Fans – You Need – The – Remarkable – And – That Requires Peaks

~ A-P-M-SSIH-ISLD ~ A – Peak – Means – Something Special Is Happening – It Should Look Different

~ OSD-TGWY-TTO-I-IPFTNTPOTC ~ One Simple Diagnostic – To Gauge Whether You’ve – Transcended The Ordinary – Is – If People Feel The Need To Pull Out Their Cameras

~ BTS-DPEOHAEWU-SS ~ Breaking The Script – Defying People’s Expectations Of How An Experience Will Unfold – Strategic Surprise

~ SIASBM ~ Some Insights Are Small But Meaningful

~ T-‘A’-M-SAHITMOT-A ~ The – “Aha!” – Moment – Should Always Happen In The Minds Of The – Audience

~ YCATSUYATP ~ You Can’t Appreciate The Solution Until You Appreciate The Problem

~ TPO-S-IN-S-I-L-I-S-I-TPMO-S-I-WNT-S-POINSTEUTTROF ~ The Promise Of – Stretching – Is Not – Success – It’s – Learning – It’s – Self-Insight – To Produce Moments Of – Self-Insight – We Need To – Stretch – Placing Ourselves In New Situations That Expose Us To The Risk Of Failure

~ M-CHUSFTWTWC ~ Mentors – Can Help Us Stretch Further Than We Thought We Could

~ W-RIAUE-INA-UP ~ While – Recognition Is A Universal Expectation – It’s Not A – Universal Practice

~ TSINI-WII-A:BPNP ~ The Style Is Not Important – What’s Important Is – Authenticity: Being Personal Not Programmatic

~ EG-PTROTP-OC-B-ICAHABE-ETSOTGP ~ Expressing Gratitude – Pleases The Recipient Of The Praise – Of Course – But – It Can Also Have A Boomerang Effect – Elevating The Spirits Of The Grateful Person

~ ASITYALR-TDFO-R ~ A Small Investment That Yields A Large Reward – The Defining Feature Of – Recognition

~ TDTHMEACFPOE-B-WNSWJO-FL-B-MM-WTA-L-A-R-IOW-MI-‘FL’-AWPTEO-WEABOPAWAAJOETCTTNO ~ The Desire To Hit Milestones Elicits A Concerted Final Push Of Effort – But – We’re Not Stuck With Just One – Finish Line – By – Multiplying Milestones – We Transform A – Long – Amorphous – Race – Into One With – Many Intermediate – “Finish Lines” – As We Push Through Each One – We Experience A Burst Of Pride As Well As A Jolt Of Energy To Charge Toward The Next One

~ ‘GAGP’-ET ~ “Gradual And Graduated Practice” – Exposure Therapy

~ MF-IACPO-C ~ Managing Fear – Is A Critical Part Of – Courage

~ WPM-AMC:I-X-H-T-I-WD-Y-II-TIPIPAR ~ When People Make – Advance Mental Commitments: If – X – Happens – Then – I – Will Do – Y – Implementation Intentions – There Is Power In Preloading A Response

~ B-POKWTRTTDI-THPIAOTJ ~ But – People Often Know What The Right Thing To Do Is – The Hard Part Is Acting On That Judgment

~ B-TS-TLT-UB-A-P ~ Because – The Situations – That Lead To – Unethical Behavior – Are – Predictable

~ BLOA-P-G-T-DU-WLTA ~ Blurry Lines Of Accountability – Plus – Get-Things-Done Urgency – Will Lead To Accidents

~ AL-B/B/S-TRIA-PE-WILTA-TANA-TAP-TCBFAF ~ A Leader’s – Bias / Bigotry / Sexism – Taking Root In A – Permissive Environment – Will Inevitably Lead To Abuse – These Are Not Anomalies – They Are Probabilities – They Can Be Foreseen And Fought

~ ACFO-PC-T-I-MSTPRC! ~ A Crucial Feature Of – Practicing Courage – Then – Is – Making Sure The Practice Requires Courage!

~ PQTATCCOMIATM ~ Practice Quiets The Anxiety That Can Cloud Our Mind In A Tough Moment

~ OAOCSA ~ One Act Of Courage Supports Another

~ ONIIT-CTTMO-TGNIT-IEOPIBETDTM-WAE-WNAA ~ Our Natural Instinct Is To – Cave To The Majority Opinion – The Good News Is That – If Even One Person Is Brave Enough To Defy The Majority – We Are Emboldened – We’re Not Alone Anymore

~ CIC ~ Courage Is Contagious

~ IIHTBC-B-IEWYP-A-WYSU-OWJY ~ It Is Hard To Be Courageous – But – It’s Easier When You’ve Practiced – And – When You Stand Up – Others Will Join You

~ YMOC-MB-ADMFSE ~ Your Moment Of Courage – Might Be – A Defining Moment For Someone Else

~ TPOO-TAIISR ~ The Presence Of Others – Turns Abstract Ideas Into Social Reality

~ PW-CTS-I-TWMSTT-THSAICIO-A-ITCTPON ~ People Will – Choose To Struggle – If – The Work Means Something To Them – They Have Some Autonomy In Carrying It Out – And – It’s Their Choice To Participate Or Not

~ IYWTBPOAGTBLC-TOARDTTDM-AOYWRIFTROYL ~ If You Want To Be Part Of A Group That Bonds Like Cement – Take On A Really Demanding Task That’s Deeply Meaningful – All Of You Will Remember It For The Rest Of Your Lives

~ PII-PISPCS ~ Passion Is Individualistic – Purpose Is Something People Can Share

~ P-I-D-I-C ~ Purpose – Isn’t – Discovered – It’s – Cultivated

~ WTRKO-M-R-CCIAI ~ With The Right Kind Of – Moment – Relationships – Can Change In An Instant

~ IWWM-MOC-WNTB-MRTO ~ If We Want More – Moments Of Connection – We Need To Be – More Responsive To Others

~ IA ~ Interpersonal Alchemy

~ GBWTST-PWWASW-ITC-TGA-TMIM ~ Groups Bond When They Struggle Together – People Will Welcome A Struggle When – It’s Their Choice / They’re Given Autonomy / The Mission Is Meaningful

~ TPOSG ~ The Power Of Simple Gestures

~ TMPMAOTOTCTL ~ The Most Precious Moments Are Often The Ones That Cost The Least

~ WCBT-DOM-TD-E/I/P/C ~ We Can Be The – Designers Of Moments – That Deliver – Elevation / Insight / Pride / Connection

MARCEL MAUSS ~ THE GIFT ~ 1925

~ ATHNE-EIAEFCITTOO-OISTWLTSAA-POI-ATMRWICA’N’-E ~ Apparently There Has Never Existed – Either In An Era Fairly Close In Time To Our Own – Or In Societies That We Lump Together Somewhat Awkwardly As – Primitive Or Inferior – Anything That Might Resemble What Is Called A – “Natural” – Economy

~ TEOGATOTR ~ The Exchange Of Gifts And The Obligation To Reciprocate

~ TOTG ~ The Obligation To Give – The Obligation To Receive

~ TPMTH-A-TPMTTG ~ The Present Made To Humans – And – The Present Made To The Gods

~ E-T-G ~ Exchange-Through-Gift

~ L/H/M ~ Liberality / Honour / Money

~ ROG ~ Rules Of Generosity

~ MOO ~ Mechanisms Of Obligation

~ H&C ~ Honour And Credit

~ TTO:TG/TR/TR ~ The Three Obligations: To Give / To Receive / To Reciprocate

~ T-‘MOF’ ~ The – “Money Of Fame”

~ TAFOE-GPAR-SBAVLPOH-DAVLTP-M-SS ~ The Archaic Form Of Exchange – Gifts Presented And Reciprocated – Shared By A Very Large Part Of Humanity – During A Very Long Transitional Phase – Moreover – Still Subsists

~ F-E-ISNW-CITO-BAS ~ Fortunately – Everything – Is Still Not Wholly – Categorized In Terms Of – Buying And Selling

~ S-W-MUOSOTHC-TRMCBTCT-F-A-AB-O-A-TFGOTFC

~ Societies – Whether – Made Up Of Savages Or The Highly Civilized – The Rich Must Come Back To Considering Themselves – Freely – And – Also By – Obligation – As – The Financial Guardians Of Their Fellow Citizens

~ ‘TS’-CTC-TSW-IAG-EEWOA-CT-MA-SOEAL-TWCFOOWWCC ~ “Total Services” – Clan To Clan – The System In Which – Individuals And Groups – Exchange Everything With One Another – Constitutes The – Most Ancient – System Of Economy And Law – That We Can Find Or Of Which We Can Conceive

~ TV-EA-FE-TM-ASW-RAM ~ The Various – Economic Activities – For Example – The Market – Are Suffused With – Rituals And Myths

~ IIB-ORTF-B-PTWTPASOOI-TPSI-S-A/G/T-F-W/I/S ~ It Is By – Opposing Reason To Feeling – By – Pitting The Will To Peace Against Sudden Outburst Of Insanity – That People Succeed In – Substituting – Alliance / Gifts / Trade – For – War / Isolation / Stagnation

~ SHPISFATT-TS-AL-T-I-IT-HSI-SR-G-R-AF-GIR ~ Societies Have Progressed In So Far As They Themselves – Their Subgroups – And Lastly – The – Individuals – In Them – Have Succeeded In – Stabilizing Relationships – Giving – Receiving – And Finally – Giving In Return

BRENE BROWN ~ DEBUNKING THE VULNERABILITY MYTHS ~ DARING GREATLY ~ 2012

VULNERABILITY IS WEAKNESS

~ VITCOAEAF-TFITBV-TBVIWITBTFIW-TFOOELOOAFTTCWBTH-ITWAF-TVTTGPAMTL ~ Vulnerability Is The Core Of All Emotions And Feelings – To Feel Is To Be Vulnerable – To Believe Vulnerability Is Weakness Is To Believe That Feeling Is Weakness – To Foreclose On Our Emotional Life Out Of A Fear That The Costs Will Be Too High – Is To Walk Away From – The Very Thing That Gives Purpose And Meaning To Living

I DON’T DO VULNERABILITY

~ WCOOOT-U/R/EE-TWTODE-LIV ~ We Can’t Opt Out Of The – Uncertainty / Risk / Emotional Exposure – That’s Woven Through Our Daily Experiences – Life Is Vulnerable

VULNERABILITY IS LETTING IT ALL HANG OUT

~ V-WB-LT-D/D/D-WNTFTTBV-A-WNTBVIOTT ~ Vulnerability – Without Boundaries – Leads To – Disconnection / Distrust / Disengagement – We Need To Feel Trust To Be Vulnerable – And – We Need To Be Vulnerable In Order To Trust

BRENE BROWN ~ DARING GREATLY ~ 2012

~ LAB-INO ~ Love And Belonging – Irreducible Needs

~ LALDB-C-C-A-C ~ Living A Life Defined By – Courage – Compassion – And – Connection

~ V-I-TC-TH-TC-O-MHE ~ Vulnerability – Is – The Core – The Heart – The Center – Of – Meaningful Human Experiences

~ WATMAETDOCAHDCIOB? ~ What Are The Messages And Expectations That Define Our Culture And How Does Culture Influence Our Behaviors?

~ HAOSABRTPO? ~ How Are Our Struggles And Behaviors Related To Protecting Ourselves?

~ HAO-B/T/E-RTVATNFASSOW? ~ How Are Our – Behaviors / Thoughts / Emotions – Related To Vulnerability And The Need For A Strong Sense Of Worthiness?

~ V:U/R/EE ~ Vulnerability: Uncertainty / Risk / Emotional Exposure

~ I-AC-W? ~ Is – Accepting Accountability – Weak?

~ TPWTTW-NSOVT-DA-W-IF-TMV ~ The Participants Who Thought They Were – Not Susceptible Or Vulnerable To – Deceptive Advertising – Were – In Fact – The Most Vulnerable

~ ASOW-IUTBV-SO-A-P-S-KU-S-R-A-A ~ A Sense Of Worthiness – Inspires Us To Be Vulnerable – Share Openly – And – Persevere – Shame – Keeps Us – Small – Resentful – And – Afraid

~ SDIPFBU ~ Shame Derives Its Power From Being Unspeakable

~ TWBFAMAC ~ There Will Be Failures And Mistakes And Criticism

~ TLWTAS-TMCIHOOL ~ The Less We Talk About Shame – The More Control It Has Over Our Lives

~ SIRP-TIOSAACIRBOBC-A-TPTRFSRADIRP ~ Shame Is Real Pain – The Importance Of Social Acceptance And Connection Is Reinforced By Our Brain Chemistry – And – The Pain That Results From Social Rejection And Disconnection Is Real Pain

~ G-IJAPA-S-B-IIIP-WSID ~ Guilt – Is Just As Powerful As – Shame – But – It’s Influence Is Positive – While Shame’s Is Destructive

~ E-ICWTETSIE-NTEOTC ~ Empathy – Is Connecting With The Emotion That Someone Is Experiencing – Not The Event Or The Circumstance

~ TSDTMIRTIWA-T-MEW ~ Shame Dissipated The Minute I Realized That I Wasn’t Alone – That – My Experience Was Human

~ TAO-WATE-FALA-FOTWAD-F-TOFD-CPMCIPAMH ~ The Act Of – Writing About Traumatic Experience – For As Little As – Fifteen Or Twenty Minutes A Day – For – Three Or Four Days – Can Produce Measurable Changes In Physical And Mental Health

~ TINIWV-YAPEOVAC ~ There Is No Intimacy Without Vulnerability – Yet Another Powerful Example Of Vulnerability As Courage

~ AMT-D-D-O-DTF-AGOP-AACO-‘B’-IAACAP-RBDND ~ Asking Members To – Dislike – Disown – Or – Distance Themselves From – Another Group Of People – As A Condition Of – “Belonging” – Is Always About Control And Power – Real Belonging Doesn’t Necessitate Disdain

~ V-ITLTIWYTSIM-B-TFTILFIY ~ Vulnerability – Is The Last Thing I Want You To See In Me – But – The First Thing I Look For In You

~ W-V-W-T-C-A-MS-WWS ~ We’re – Visual – We – Trust – Consume – And – Mentally Store – What We See

~ J-CTUIM-OM ~ Joy – Comes To Us In Moments – Ordinary Moments

~ BGFWYH ~ Be Grateful For What You Have

~ DSJ-Y0IV-B-ETWAOTLIJAGITTM-WBR-A-WCH ~ Don’t Squander Joy – Yes – It’s Vulnerable – But – Every Time We Allow Ourselves To Lean Into Joy And Give In To Those Moments – We Build Resilience – And – We Cultivate Hope

~ WWSCAWPT-WLOCFC-WWBDBWPT-WLOWTBV-IWDATC-WLOOIF-B-IWSOTTH-OSGC-IAT-ATSNBITOOTPIOLWCHUR-C ~ When We Stop Caring About What People Think – We Lose Our Capacity For Connection – When We Become Defined By What People Think – We Lose Our Willingness To Be Vulnerable – If We Dismiss All The Criticism – We Lose Out On Important Feedback – But – If We Subject Ourselves To The Hatefulness – Our Spirits Get Crushed – It’s A Tightrope – And – The Safety Net Below Is The One Or Two People In Our Lives Who Can Help Us Reality-Check

~ WCGPWWDH-WWA-MIMT-WWK-O-WWWTB ~ We Can’t Give People What We Don’t Have – Who We Are – Matters Immeasurably More Than – What We Know – Or – Who We Want To Be

~ VIATHOTFP ~ Vulnerability Is At The Heart Of The Feedback Process

~ H-IAFO-S ~ Hope – Is A Function Of – Struggle

CHERYL RILLY ~ ILIA-LY SPEAKING ~ GREAT MOMENTS IN SEX ~ 1999

~ A:ABS ~ Acousticphilia: Arousal By Sounds

~ A:ABH ~ Acrophilia: Arousal By Heights

~ A:ABTTOHSWAA ~ Acrotomphilia: Arousal By The Thought Of Having Sex With An Amputee

~ A:ABASOM ~ Agalmatophilia: Arousal By A Statue Or Mannequin

~ A:ABBIPPOO ~ Agoraphilia: Arousal By Being In Public Places Or Outdoors

~ A:AWOCHOL ~ Agrexophilia: Arousal When Others Can Hear One’s Lovemaking

~ C:ABD ~ Choreophilia: Arousal By Dancing

~ C:ABBCTSS ~ Clastrophilia: Arousal By Being Confined To Small Spaces

~ C:ABF ~ Coprophilia: Arousal By Feces

~ G:ATSOP ~ Gerontophilia: Attraction To Significantly Older People

~ R:ABF ~ Rhabdophilia: Arousal By Flagellation

~ S:UOFFSP ~ Sitophilia: Use Of Food For Sexual Purposes

~ S:ABHSWASP ~ Somnophilia: Arousal By Having Sex With A Sleeping Person

~ U:AFSAIU ~ Urophilia: Arousal From Sex Acts Involving Urine

~ X:ABS ~ Xenophilia: Arousal By Strangers

JAY SHETTY ~ THINK LIKE A MONK ~ 2020

~ OIIWUIWOTOF-O-MA-WWTOTOU ~ Our Identity Is Wrapped Up In What Others Think Of Us – Or – More Accurately – What We Think Others Think Of Us

~ WWABIN-WLTOWITS ~ When We Are Buried In Nonessentials – We Lose Track Of What Is Truly Significant

~ WWTO-T-O/E/O-OTWAU-WBTHO ~ When We Tune Out – The – Opinions / Expectations / Obligations – Of The World Around Us – We Begin To Hear Ourselves

~ AYL-NMWY-T-YVA-YATTRS-TVTHCIYL-TNSIT-DWYVAAWYCAIAWT ~ Audit Your Life – No Matter What You – Think – Your Values Are – Your Actions Tell The Real Story – The Values That Have Crept Into Your Life – The Next Step Is To – Decide What Your Values Are And Whether Your Choices Are In Alignment With Them

~ WYSYWHYSTYV ~ Who You Surround Yourself With Helps You Stick To Your Values

~ IYV-A-LTGY-WHYFEI ~ Identifying Your Values – And – Letting Them Guide You – Will Help You Filter External Influences

~ NIC ~ Negativity Is Contagious

~ S-S-S ~ Spot – Stop – Swap

~ CSWEWEDMYWH ~ Criticizing Someone Else’s Work Ethic Doesn’t Make You Work Harder

~ CWC-A-UTWP ~ Choose Words Carefully – And – Use Them With Purpose

~ TF-TSAC-TF-WEAAOAEIR ~ Transformational Forgiveness – The Strength And Calmness – To Forgive – Without Expecting An Apology Or Anything Else In Return

~ AFARF ~ Ask For And Receive Forgiveness

~ TLTYFOEETMTYHTFOY ~ The Less Time You Fixate On Everyone Else – The More Time You Have To Focus On Yourself

~ O-WN-FW-B-IIG ~ Often – We Notice – Fear’s Warning – But – Ignore Its Guidance

~ WWTOFBTTS-MOUFTTCRT-A-ONTWACT-WWATTNOEIOL-WCFGFTGFOGTBTFAT ~ When We Track Our Fears Back To Their Source – Most Of Us Find That They’re Closely Related To – Attachment – Our Need To Own And Control Things – When We Accept The Temporary Nature Of Everything In Our Lives – We Can Feel Gratitude For The Good Fortune Of Getting To Borrow Them For A Time

~ A-UF-AUTASWCC ~ A – Useful Fear – Alerts Us To A Situation We Can Change

~ CTTT-GTPOU-A-TBSOPAF ~ Clinging To Temporary Things – Gives Them Power Over Us – And – They Become – Sources Of Pain And Fear

~ D-ITUPI-MF ~ Detachment – Is The Ultimate Practice In – Minimizing Fear

~ STWS ~ See The Whole Story

~ WAEF-P-DMU-PA ~ When All Else Fails – Pain – Does Make Us – Pay Attention

~ DIYF ~ Dive Into Your Fears

~ SDGH-A-HDRS ~ Success Doesn’t Doesn’t Guarantee Happiness – And – Happiness Doesn’t Require Success

~ B-WCS-TWT-BLF-M-ITL ~ But – We Can Survive – The Worst Tragedies – By Looking For – Meaning – In The Loss

~ Purpose And Meaning – Not – Success – Lead To True Contentment

~ WWP-W-WTCTWWDM-WCLI ~ When We Perform – Work – With The Conviction That What We Do Matters – We Can Live Intensely

~ TWL-W!W?W?!W?-DTTD-W-BT-W ~ The Why Ladder – Why! Why? Why?! Why? – Dig To The Deepest – Why – Behind The – Want

~ WTWIBYASOF-EIYD-SQ-O-E-?~ Will The Work Itself Bring You A Sense Of Fulfillment – Even If You Don’t – Succeed Quickly – Or – Ever – ?

~ P+E+U=D ~ Passion + Expertise + Usefulness = Dharma

~ LFOTDWYLITLYAH-YNKWIML ~ Look For Opportunities To Do What You Love In The Life You Already Have – You Never Know Where It Might Lead

~ YPBAPWYUITSO ~ Your Passion Becomes A Purpose When You Use It To Serve Others

~ LHE;THM ~ Location Has Energy; Time Has Memory

~ TTM ~ Transform The Mundane

~ TGRUTM ~ True Growth Requires Understanding The Mind

~ OTALCPB-WANOM ~ Our Thoughts Are Like Clouds Passing By – We Are Not Our Minds

~ TYWTSLARYWTSTO ~ Treat Yourself With The Same Love And Respect You Want To Show To Others

~ SP ~ Stay Present

~ NOY-OB-D-CWT-GCOTM ~ Nothing Owns You – Only By – Detaching – Can We Truly – Gain Control Of The Mind

~ ROT-Y-WEWNEIA-NOTI-NOWSTOY ~ Reflect On The – You – Who Emerges When Nobody Else Is Around – No One To Impress – No One With Something To Offer You

~ AI-FF-IOTD-MOO-F-MOI?-AIPMOW-? ~ Am I – Finding Fault – In Order To Distract – Myself Or Others – From – My Own Insecurities? – Am I Projecting My Own Weakness – ?

~ TEIAOTG ~ The Ego Is An Obstacle To Growth

~ B-C-N-E ~ Build – Confidence – Not – Ego

~ SW ~ Small Wins

~ TEWTBIKB-S-IIQTWOFAC ~ The Ego Wants To Believe It Knows Best – So – It Is Quick To Write Off Feedback As Criticism

~ RIOJ ~ Reflect Instead Of Judging

~ ACQ ~ Ask Clarifying Questions

~ DBIYOH ~ Don’t Buy Into Your Own Hype

~ YANSOYF ~ You Are Not Your Success Or Your Failure

~ OYE-IA-P-N-A-A ~ Overcoming Your Ego – Is A – Practice – Not – An – Accomplishment

~ IOTCS-WHTII-WWBICBBE ~ In Order To Create Something – We Have To Imagine It – Whatever We Build Internally Can Be Built Externally

~ G-HBLT-B-MH/S-A/R-A-ASOF ~ Gratitude – Has Been Linked To – Better – Mental Health / Self-Awareness / Relationships – And – A Sense Of Fulfillment

~ WYPIG-YCBAE ~ When You’re Present In Gratitude – You Can’t Be Anywhere Else

~ EG ~ Everyday Gratitude

~ TPOG-TI-N-IW-S-OT ~ The Practice Of Gratitude – Train It – Now – It Will – Strengthen – Over Time

~ EG ~ Expressing Gratitude

~ GTS-HUTNE-B-GUP ~ Gratitude Through Service – Helps Us Transform Negative Emotions – By – Giving Us Perspective

~ FC-ASL-TAOH-CB-PT ~ Feeling Connected – At Some Level – To All Of Humanity – Can Be – Positively Therapeutic

~ LIOOTMTGWCG ~ Listening Is One Of The Most Thoughtful Gifts We Can Give

~ AFWYW ~ Ask For What You Want

~ Y-NTBS-W-MYH ~ You – Need To Be Someone – Who – Makes You Happy

~ SHTS ~ Selflessness Heals The Self

~ TTLAM-UM-TS ~ To Think Like A Monk – Ultimately Means – To Serve

~ S-ITDPT-AML ~ Service – Is The Direct Path To – A Meaningful Life

JOHN MCMURTRY ~ VALUE WARS ~ 2002

~ TGM-V-TLE ~ The Global Market – Versus – The Life Economy

~ WGATGOC-IEA-NC-O-A-AHA ~ What Goes Against The Grain Of Conditioning – Is Experienced As – Not Credible – Or – As – A Hostile Act

~ WB? ~ Who Benefits?

~ ASO-MA-IEDIFCGWWDNB ~ A Structure Of – Mindless Absolutism – Is Easily Detectable In Fanatical Cults To Which We Do Not Belong

~ ED ~ Economic Determinism

~ TCOFIRBTEROCASAFVOWTCT ~ The Closure Of Fanaticism Is Revealed By – Repetition Of Certitudes – And – Simultaneous Abolition From View Of Whatever Truth Contradicts Them

~ S-SFF-W-TIROT ~ Slogans – Substitute For Fact – Without – The Inhibiting Reflection Of Thought

~ UIIPAF ~ Universal Insecurity Is Proclaimed As Freedom

~ FINCOS-R ~ Fanaticism Is Not Capable Of Self-Recognition

~ WO-URBF-PCATFI-I-MAPFE-AAMOCDF ~ Whatever Obstructs – Universal Rule By For-Profit Corporations And Transnational Financial Institutions – Is – Marked And Pursued For Extinction – As A Matter Of Consistent Documentable Fact

~ ITE-TETOTM-I-TSOIAWO ~ In The End – The Economic Theology Of The Market – Is – The Soul Of Its Absolutist World Order

~ WOTPHBPLAO-WVG ~ War On The Poor Has Been Packaged Like A One-Way Video Game

~ SO-SD-F-SLD-I-TOMOTGCS ~ Severance Of – Strategic Decision – From – Systematic Life Devastation – Is – The Organising Meaning Of The Global Corporate System

~ F-T-OI-FO ~ Free Trade – Oligopolist Intra-Firm Operations

~ G-TC ~ Globalisation – Transnational Corporatisation

~ D-SOELS ~ Development – Stripping Of Evolved Life Systems

~ SMRTTCAN-OE ~ Still More Rights To Transnational Corporations And No-One Else

~ TRTKAMPPTPRPP ~ The Right To Kill And Maim Poor People To Protect Rich People’s Property

~ TPW-MF-TDTOOT-IT-IIDFSLC ~ The Problem With – Market Fundamentalism – The Dominant Theology Of Our Time – Is That – It Is Decoupled From Society’s Life Conditions

~ FOPBF ~ Fear Of People Being Free

~ US-CRATMM-CMUPBA ~ Upbeat Slogans – Ceaselessly Repeated Across The Mass Media – Can Make Unthinking People Believe Anything

~ TBL-DNS-SLAIINO ~ The Big Lie – Does Not Stop – So Long As It Is Not Opposed

~ BL-GBATAITT-A-OBL-BOTN-RTCFAATOL ~ Big Lies – Grow Bigger As They Are Instituted Through Time – And – One Big Lie – Builds Onto The Next – Restructuring The Cultural Fabric As A Tissue Of Lies

~ WPE-WWOABFBBRAAAOET ~ Without Public Exposure – What Was Once A Breathtaking Falsehood Becomes By Repetition An Accepted Assumption Of Everyday Thought

~ EIIAS-I-TIAN-AS ~ Every Issue Is Already Settled – In – The Inevitable And No-Alternative System

~ TCOTM ~ The Cult Of Technological Miracles

~ TPVTG-NOPATCO-IAPTCFPBAFI-TAEUPCIDTTPBTPTVC-A-CP-WTBH-IE-SFTSAOGBPN-TSOPPHBS-A-PBTIBDTGCACCAA-‘IITE’-A-HPCO-‘I’ ~ The Public Via Their Governments – Not Only Pay All The Costs Of – Instituting And Protecting The Currency For Private Banks And Financial Institutions – They Also End Up Paying Compounding Interest Debts To These Private Banks To Provide The Very Currency-And-Credit Powers – Which These Banks Have – In Effect – Stolen From The Sovereign Authority Of Governments Beneath Public Notice – The Surrender Of Public Power Has Been Silent – And – Pushed By The Incoherent Banker Dogma That Government Currency And Credit Creation Are An – “interference In The Economy” – And – Have Perilous Consequences Of – “Inflation”

~ LMTYDHTO-A-CCIOWYDHTLIOO-SAWODTSTADOSF-WBAMCCFAOAITM-B-PBCSCCPBPTM ~ Loaning Money That You Don’t Have To Others – And – Collecting Compounded Interest On What You Don’t Have To Lend In Organised Off-Set Arrangements With Others Doing The Same To Avoid Detection Of Short Funds – Would Be A Major Criminal Conspiracy For All Other Agents In The Market – But – Private Banks Control Society’s Currency Creation Powers By Precisely This Method

~ IINCHALT-100%-CR-F-PLMFP-IRFAMS-LTOBSOHOHBEWFIINARTOCDIACOLPR ~ It Is Not Clear How Any Less Than – 100 Per Cent – Cash Reserve – For – Privately Loaned Money For Profit – Is Reasonable From A Market Standpoint – Lending To Others Beyond Savings One Has Or Has Been Entrusted With For Investment Is Not A Right That One Can Discover In Any Constitution Or Legal Property Right

~ TINFIHTRA-TMEBPBOTPPOMCAD ~ There Is No Fraud In History That Remotely Approaches – The Monopoly Expropriation By Private Banks Of The Public Power Of Money Creation And Dissolution

~ T-MP-BW-GTIIR-I-T-MTFWL-A-T-MTFMC ~ The – Master Principle – By Which – Government Taxation Is Increasingly Ruled – Is – To – Maximise Taxation For Working Lives – And – To – Minimise Taxation For Money Capital

~ ROAWPBCAACOTSOTP-ITSMTHT-I-A-AGPWFF-LES-II-IF-AROASC-ICUTW-A-RWM ~ Recycling Of All Waste Produced By Corporations As A Condition Of The Sale Of Their Products – In The Society’s Market That Hosts Them – Is – Again – A Generalisable Principle Which Follows From – Life Economy Standards – It Is – In Fact – A Requirement Of Any Sustainable Civilization – It Cleans Up The Waste – And – Recovers Wasted Materials

~ N-FM-HEEOCEW-CGRASR-T-I/C/P-PR-T-GIMOE-AT-PISIASOA-P/A/P ~ No – Free Market – Has Ever Existed Or Can Exist Without – Continuous Government Regulation And Subsidising Resources – To – Institute / Codify / Protect – Property Relations – To – Guarantee Its Medium Of Exchange – And To – Provide Its Social Infrastructure And Security Of Agents – Police / Armies / Prisons

~ TRWIBH-B-S-OSAMMT-R ~ The Reality Wall Is Being Hit – But – Still – Only Slogans And Magical Market Thinking – Rule

~ ST-TFS-ISRF-OSDAA-WDCEAITATER-ATINA-A-L-A-DPFTW ~ Since The – Transnational Financial System – Is Systematically Responsible For – One Structural Disaster After Another – With Deepening Catastrophic Effects And Incapacity To Adapt To Economic Reality – A Turnaround Is Needed As – A – Life-And-Death Priority For The World

~ ‘OD’-A-TPO-NS-I-JTLRODCUOOATWOTCOTPI ~ “Odious Debt” – And – The Principles Of – National Sovereignty – Itself – Justify The Legitimate Repudiation Of Debt Contracted Under Oppression Or Against The Will Or The Consent Of The People Indebted

~ IFI-WNABT-TDBI-S-TEOMAVTATS-WNCTANPFOAPFAA ~ International Financial Instrument – With No Accountability Beyond Themselves – Their Defining Behaviour Is – Short-Term Exploitation Of Margins And Vulnerable Takeover Assets To Strip – With No Commitment To Any New Productive Function Or Any Productive Function At All

~ FCTR-WDT-L-PR-MBTSMICAOA-‘IR-BE’-W-OWS-ATPO-IT-TCBNDO-CEC ~ Few Still Connected To Reality – Would Disagree That – Life-Protective Regulation – May Be The Single Most Important Constructive Achievement Of Any – “International Rules-Based Economy” – Without – Obligatory World Standards – As The Priority Of – International Trade – There Can Be No Doubt Of – Cumulative Ecological Catastrophe

~ IR-TFC-T-TCM-P-I-NB-TDOATO-A-PLONO-DMS-A-NRC ~ In Reality – The Free Competition – That – The Classical Market – Prescribes – Is – Nullified By – The Dominance Of A Transnational Oligopoly – Against – Prior Laws Of National Ownership – Domestic Market Share – And – Natural Resource Control

~ LS-I-LE ~ Life Standards – In – Life Economy

~ TPO-OTTP-IRF-RFTF-IA-GP ~ The Principle Of – Obligation To The Public – In Return For – Rights From The Public – Is A – Generalisable Principle

JOHN MCMURTRY ~ THE LIFE ECONOMY MANIFESTO ~ VALUE WARS ~ 2002

~ PA-O-CACC-B-100%-RFPI-BL ~ Public Accountability – Of – Currency And Credit Creation – By – 100 Per Cent – Reserves For Private Interest-Bearing Loans

~ PAA-O-IF-LC-IR-A-TL-TSF-LCF ~ Public Authority’s Allocation – Of – Investment Funds – Loan Credits – Interest Rates – And – Taxation Levels – To Select For – Life Capital Formation

~ IRTE-O-COCCC ~ Internalisation Rather Than Externalisation – Of – Costs Of Corporate Commodity Cycles

~ NCI-A-W-B/I-B-I-T-MAATTEOE ~ Natural Capital Inventories – And – Well-Being/Ill-Being – Indexes – To – Measure And Achieve The True Efficiencies Of Economies

~ IOAICCH-T-PAOTNOEOSN ~ Institution Of An International Currency Clearing House – To – Prevent Attacks On The Means Of Exchange Of Sovereign Nations

~ ROATTAIRWAROSN ~ Repeal Of All Transnational Trade And Investment Rules Which Abolish Rights Of Sovereign Nations

~ BE-PS ~ Binding Environmental-Protection Standards

~ ICC-BAPSOIAC-T-CW-MLASSS-CCEP-ISOPCAB-MLOCT-MLOMS-A-ICL ~ International Corporate Charters – Binding All Parties Selling Or Investing Across Borders – To – Comply With – Minimum Labour And Social Security Standards – Commodity Cycle Environmental Protections – International Standards Of Public Communications Across Borders – Minimum Levels Of Corporate Taxation – Maximum Levels Of Market Share – And – International Criminal Law

~ ALANB-SBH-CR-IAW-ISOL-CSAD ~ All Loans Across National Borders – Secured By Hard-Currency Reserves – In Accordance With – International Standards Of Life-Capital Security And Development