PRIYA PARKER ~ THE ART OF GATHERING ~ 2018

~ TWWGM ~ The Way We Gather Matters

~ ID-TFTAIOOTFRGTEI-ICDIA-OOTFTTGITRTA ~ In Democracies – The Freedom To Assemble Is One Of The Foundational Rights Granted To Every Individual – In Countries Descending Into Authoritarianism – One Of The First Things To Go Is The Right To Assemble

~ WSPLG ~ We Spend Our Lives Gathering

~ II-TW-AGIG-TDWHIIAHSII ~ It Is – The Way – A Group Is Gathered – That Determines What Happens In It And How Successful It Is

~ DWYRG ~ Decide Why You’re Really Gathering

~ ACINAP ~ A Category Is Not A Purpose

~ R-TGEO-MG ~ Routine – That Great Enemy Of – Meaningful Gathering

~ CT-AGAS-S–TMFAPAGI-TMNIFIATMPIA-U-IAI-HITM-U-? ~ Commit To – A Gathering About Something – Specificity – The More Focused And Particular A Gathering Is – The More Narrowly It Frames Itself And The More Passion It Arouses – Uniqueness – Is Another Ingredient – How Is This Meeting – Unique – ?

~ Y-P-MF-T-W-T-T-W ~ Your – Purpose – Move From – The – What – To – The – Why

~ A-W-YDI-ETYGT-A-D-R-AWA-KAWUYH-A-BOV ~ Ask – Why – You’re Doing It – Every Time You Get To – Another – Deeper – Reason – Ask Why Again – Keep Asking Why Until You Hit – A – Belief Or Value

~ FOYDOBFTAM-A-IAPTMBCAWTNTBT-E-WAMIN ~ Figuring Out Your Desired Outcome Brings Focus To A Meeting – And – It Allows People To Make Better Choices About Whether They Need To Be There – Even – Whether A Meeting Is Necessary

~ YAPTCPMPR:T-MTETCHYW-YG-A-Y-TBABTE-IWYOPAAGSOTR ~ You Are Proposing To Consume People’s Most Precious Resource: Time – Making The Effort To Consider How You Want – Your Guests – And – Yourself – To Be Altered By The Experience – Is What You Owe People As A Good Steward Of That Resource

~ HAP-YW-FIETMATDTAGR ~ Having A Purpose – You Will – Find It Easier To Make All The Decisions That A Gathering Requires

~ PIYB ~ Purpose Is Your Bouncer

~ VECWBETMW-YKWYG ~ Virtually Every Choice Will Be Easier To Make When – You Know Why You’re Gathering

~ TP-DL ~ The Purpose-Driven List

~ IPIE-EPCBH ~ Inviting People Is Easy – Excluding People Can Be Hard

~ S-W-O-I-B-WDWTDWTCOECP-ETGAMAS ~ Sometimes – We – Over-Include – Because – We Don’t Want To Deal With The Consequences Of Excluding Certain People – Especially Those Gifted At Making A Stink

~ AVOAN ~ A Venue Is A Nudge

~ TCOPIOMAT-ECBP-TC-D-TV-O-C-O-T ~ The Choice Of Place Is Often Made According To – Every Consideration But Purpose – The Cost – Determines – The Venue – Or – Convenience – Or – Traffic

~ WYCAVF-LR-YALTLO-YP-WIFTSBWFI ~ When You Choose A Venue For – Logistical Reasons – You Are Letting Those Logistics Override – Your Purpose – When In Fact They Should Be Working For It

~ E-SAST-E-TRFYC-WALI ~ Embodiment – Seek A Setting That – Embodies – The Reason For Your Convening – When A Location Inspires

~ WMHDRIT-TCOVIOOYMPLOYGB ~ What Many Hosts Don’t Realize Is That – The Choice Of Venue Is One Of Your Most Powerful Levers Over Your Guests’ Behavior

~ PAABTE-A-YSHYGIAPACTSYP ~ People Are Affected By Their Environment – And – You Should Host Your Gathering In A Place And Context That Serves Your Purpose

~ A-CS-FAGAPTR-A-IHCT-AW-TAGC-AIB-A ~ A – Contained Space – For A Gathering Allows People To Relax – And – It Helps Create The – Alternative World – That A Gathering Can – At Its Best – Achieve

~ DBACH-‘C’-ISDAK ~ Don’t Be A Chill Host – “Chill” – Is Selfishness Disguised As Kindness

~ AIAOC-IIE-JT-SAP-D-A-GR-ATTRE-A-IYDEF-OWSIAETO-P-D-A-GR ~ Authority Is An Ongoing Commitment – It Isn’t Enough – Just To – Set A Purpose – Direction – And – Ground Rules – All These Things Require Enforcement – And – If You Don’t Enforce Them – Others Will Step In And Enforce Their Own – Purposes – Directions – And – Ground Rules

~ GA-INAP-INTAOP-IIUPTAOTAG-TAFO-TAIJBTG

~ Generous Authenticity – Is Not A Pose – It’s Not The Appearance Of Power – It Is Using Power To Achieve Outcomes That Are Generous – That Are For Others – The Authority Is Justified By The Generosity

~ PYG ~ Protect Your Guests

~ TF-A-P-MIUOYA-I-TPOYG-FOA-FB-O-FTATTLIOP-VA ~ The First – And – Perhaps – Most Important Use Of Your Authority – Is – The Protection Of Your Guests – From One Another – From Boredom – Or – From The Additive Technologies That Lurk In Our Pockets – Vibrating Away

~ BBH-IYJAH-K-G-B-F-TWIO ~ Bad Behavior Happens – It’s Your Job As A Host – Kindly – Graciously – But – Firmly – To Ward It Off

~ PYG-I-IS-AETRTAGCEAARTRTE-A-IG-B-YDIFYG-ST-TDHT ~ Protecting Your Guests – Is – In Short – About Elevating The Right To A Great Collective Experience Above Anyone’s Right To Ruin That Experience – And – It’s Generous – Because – You’re Doing It For Your Guests – So That – They Don’t Have To

~ EYG ~ Equalize Your Guests

~ THMLTSTUAITOWFLC-IIITOWKHEWPOTWOMTGP ~ The Host Most Likely To Succumb To Ungenerous Authority Is The One Who Fears Losing Control – It Is In The Obsession With Knowing How Events Will Play Out That We Often Make Them Go Poorly

~ R-CCA-I-T-W-TIAMPTYEG-B-ERT-TRAT-AIT-WTOT ~ Rules – Can Create An – Imaginary – Transient – World – That Is Actually More Playful Than Your Everyday Gathering – Because – Everyone Realizes That – The Rules Are Temporary – And Is Therefore – Willing To Obey Them

~ S-AR-IUWAGWPTCIAWTNSNWD ~ Sometimes – A Rule – Is Useful When A Gatherer Wants People To Connect In A Way That Normal Social Norms Would Discourage

~ NSAFWL ~ Never Start A Funeral With Logistics

~ P-BYES-IHB-T-P-SSIGASBYWTBRATO ~ Priming – Before Your Event Starts – It Has Begun – The – Pregame – Should Sow In Guests Any Special Behaviors You Want To Blossom Right At The Outset

~ AGTCTAGAOTCTPOI ~ Asking Guest To Contribute To A Gathering Ahead Of Time Changes Their Perception Of It

~ AW-P-IIOT-CAD-T-UAAAGSCRT ~ As With – Purpose – It Is Often Through – Conflict And Disgruntlement – That – Underlying Assumptions About A Gathering’s Social Contract Reveal Themselves

~ NAP-T-NAG-ATWPPI-TNSWTPOTEI-A-IAPPFTRALOEP

~ Naming As Priming – To – Name A Gathering – Affects The Way People Perceive It – The Name Signals What The Purpose Of The Event Is – And – It Also Prepares People For Their Role And Level Of Expected Participation

~ TIIJTB-TAMCATWTROTYGACTP ~ The Invitation Is Just The Beginning – There Are Many Chances Along The Way To Reach Out To Your Guests And Continue The Priming

~ TAMTWYC-CAT-AP-B-YAYGCTSLT-APTTOTPRACPAAI-TFTBTGAATO ~ There Are Many Tiny Ways You Can – Create A Threshold – A Pause – Before – You And Your Guests Cross The Starting Line Together – A Passageway That Tunes Out The Prior Reality And Captures Peoples’ Attention And Imagination – The Final Transition Between The Guests’ Arrival And The Opening

~ HAAYG ~ Honor And Awe Your Guests

~ Y-O-NTBAKO-PST-IS-GP-IMPITTPFOBTWADGTBT-TTE-WTO-TVRTYFMTBAGOHBT-TTMYGPFITFM ~ Your – Opening – Needs To Be A Kind Of – Pleasant Shock Therapy – It Should – Grab People – It Must Plant In Them The Paradoxical Feeling Of Being Totally Welcomed And Deeply Grateful To Be There – Try To Embody – With That Opening – The Very Reason That You Felt Moved To Bring A Group Of Human Beings Together – Try To Make Your Gathering’s Purpose Felt In Those First Moments

~ CGC ~ Cause Good Controversy

~ LO-C-AA-MOPAMF-EW-IACWTCTFAIYWYGTTWT-RYP-RPOWWINEWIITFP ~ Like Openings – Closings – Are A – Moment Of Power And Memory Formation – Ending Well – Is A Crucial Way To Cement The Feelings And Ideas You Want Your Guests To Take With Them – Recall Your Purpose – Remind People Of Why What Is Now Ending Was Initiated In The First Place

HUGH MACLEOD ~ IGNORE EVERYBODY ~ 2009

~ TMOYII-TLGAOPWBATGY ~ The More Original Your Ideas Is – The Less Good Advice Other People Will Be Able To Give You

~ YDKIYIIAGTMIC-NDAE-TMYCHFIASGFTII ~ You Don’t Know If Your Idea Is Any Good The Moment Its Created – Neither Does Anyone Else – The Most You Can Hope For Is A Strong Gut Feeling That It Is

~ ABIWCY ~ A Big Idea Will Change You

~ YFMLY-B-TMNWYTC ~ Your Friends May Love You – But – They May Not Want You To Change

~ GIATPBIR-TIWGIAAIR ~ Good Ideas Alter The Power Balance In Relationships – That Is Why Good Ideas Are Always Initially Resisted

~ TIDHTB-B-IJHTB-Y ~ The Idea Doesn’t Have To Be – Big – It Just Has To Be – Yours

~ TSYHOYWWIFMPTTACEW ~ The Sovereignty You Have Over Your Work Will Inspire Far More People Than The Actual Content Ever Will

~ TMTIIYA-TMFYHTDSRA ~ The More The Idea Is Yours Alone – The More Freedom You Have To Do Something Really Amazing

~ PTHI ~ Put The Hours In

~ TWIFO-HT-NS-F-M~ The World Is Full Of – Highly Talented – Network-Savy – Failed – Mediocrities

~ FTEHOTITDTBTNE-A-MIP-PTHI-DIFLE-A-M-L-T-T-H-E ~ Find That Extra Hour Or Two In The Day That Belongs To Nobody Else – And – Make It Productive – Put The Hours In – Do It For Long Enough – And – Magical – Life-Transforming – Things – Happen – Eventually

~ TBTI-TM-‘OT’-IIWSTOP-EPYLAR-STBATITBWYHT-PO-A-WOTTSYPN ~ The Better The Idea – The More – “Out There” – It Initially Will Seem To Other People – Even People You Like And Respect – So There’ll Be A Time In The Beginning When You Have To – Press On – Alone – Without One Tenth The Support You Probably Need

~ IY-BP-DOSB-“D”-B-SBS-YPWPF ~ If Your – Business Plan – Depends On Suddenly Being – “Discovered” – By – Some Big Shot – Your Plan Will Probably Fail

~ NCTYIWYDI-G-M-O-W-TMCTP-TMLII ~ Nobody Can Tell You If What You’re Doing Is – Good – Meaningful – Or – Worthwhile – The More Compelling The Path – The More Lonely It Is

~ TS&CT-TCPBHTKOJ-OI-T-S-C-K-SI-TKTPTB-S-TTAHCBB-BNO ~ The Sex & Cash Theory – The Creative Person Basically Has Two Kinds Of Jobs – One Is – The – Sexy – Creative – Kind – Second Is – The Kind That Pays The Bills – Sometimes – The Task At Hand Covers Both Bases – But Not Often

~ YPFGYWOTHTBAOATAW ~ Your Plan For Getting Your Work Out There Has To Be As Original As The Actual Work

~ AEBMAW-FANO ~ All Existing Business Models Are Wrong – Find A New One

~ EIYDEUPIO-YL-M-I-M-V-T-INDI-WYKFWYHTO-THFMTAF ~ Even If You Don’t End Up Pulling It Off – You’ll Learn – Many – Incredible – Magical – Valuable – Things – It’s Not Doing It – When You Know Full Well You Had The Opportunity – That Hurts Far More Than Any Failure

~ TMYPYC-TLYCWRWSR-A-VV-EIYPNMAMOFYC-TSWAT ~ The More You Practice Your Craft – The Less You Confuse Worldly Rewards With Spiritual Rewards – And – Vice Versa – Even If Your Path Never Makes Any Money Or Furthers Your Career – That’s Still Worth A Ton

~ MCBB-PC ~ Merit Can Be Bought – Passion Can’t

~ EMGSIAIGW ~ Every Medium’s Greatest Strength Is Also Its Greatest Weakness

~ IHTSOINHBI ~ It’s Hard To Sell Out If Nobody Has Bought In

~ NC-DIFY ~ Nobody Cares – Do It For Yourself

~ YHTFYOS ~ You Have To Find Your Own Shtick

~ TBWTGAINTNI ~ The Best Way To Get Approval Is Not To Need It

~ PING-PIT ~ Power Is Never Given – Power Is Taken

~ ACBAI-AC-THPLSITM-TI-BH ~ Anyone Can Be An Idealist – A Cynic – The Hard Part Lies Somewhere In The Middle – That Is – Being Human

~ THPOBCIGUTI ~ The Hardest Part Of Being Creative Is Getting Used To It

~ POBCILHTPYF-TITFFA ~ Part Of Being Creative Is Learning How To Protect Your Freedom – That Includes – The Freedom From Avarice

~ SOWIL ~ Savior Obscurity While It Lasts

~ MS-PD ~ Meaning Scales – People Don’t

~ WYDBR-TANL-YD ~ When Your Dreams Become Reality – They Are No Longer – Your Dreams

~ NOTIRS ~ None Of This Is Rocket Science

BARRY SCHWARTZ + KENNETH SHARPE ~ PRACTICAL WISDOM ~ 2010

~ TNFW ~ The Need For Wisdom

~ RAI-SAC-WEIT? ~ Rules And Incentives – Sticks And Carrots – What Else Is There?

~ TINDT-BRASI-HAIRTPIITWOIP-B-RAIANE-TLO-SE-PW-WTMI-N-R(NMHDAWM)-N-I(NMHC)-WBETSTPWF ~ There Is Not Doubt That – Better Rules And Smarter Incentives – Have An Important Role To Play In Improving The Way Our Institutions Perform – But – Rules And Incentives Are Not Enough – They Leave Out – Something Essential – Practical Wisdom – Without This Missing Ingredient – Neither – Rules (No Matter How Detailed And Well Monitored) – Nor – Incentives (No Matter How Clever) – Will Be Enough To Solve The Problems We Face

~ AW-DT-WBGB-TPAOGOAPA ~ Acting Wisely – Demands That – We Be Guided By – The Proper Aims Or Goals Of A Particular Activity

~ RAI-WT-M-SAW-EW-RCKS-A-ICKW ~ Rule And Incentives – Won’t Teach – Moral – Skill And Will – Even Worse – Rules Can Kill Skill – And – Incentives Can Kill Will

~ E-TCTIWSEITAF-ICFTPTPWD ~ Empathy – The Capacity To Imagine What Someone Else Is Thinking And Feeling – Is Critical For The Perception That Practical Wisdom Demands

~ EIB-CS-TATPTSAIIPBA-A-ES-TCTUWAPIF-TMSO-B-ATO-TRAITGOLAAAREFODM-ANTTSWSO ~ Empathy Involves Both – Cognitive Skill – The Ability To Perceive The Situation As It Is Perceived By Another – And – Emotional Skill – The Capacity To Understand What Another Person Is Feeling – This May Sound Obvious – But – All Too Often – The Rules And Incentives That Govern Our Lives Are All About Removing Emotion From Our Decision Making – About Not Trusting The Signals We’re Sending Ourselves

~ PWDMTTSTBPAO-IADTCTPO-TAWOOMA-TAOF-TFOWHWONAW ~ Practical Wisdom Demands More Than The Skill To Be Perceptive About Others – It Also Demands The Capacity To Perceive Oneself – To Assess What Our Own Motives Are – To Admit Our Failures – To Figure Out What Has Worked Or Not And Why

~ AWPKHTI-BCA-A-IRAP-ILOTPOEC ~ A Wise Person Knows How To Improvise – Balancing Conflicting Aims – And – Interpreting Rules And Principles – In Light Of The Particularities Of Each Context

~ AWPKHT-MEAAOR-TROETSWASCF-A-TIJWDI ~ A Wise Person Knows How To – Make Emotion An Ally Of Reason – To Rely On Emotion To Signal What A Situation Calls For – And – To Inform Judgment Without Distorting It

~ AWPIAEP-TBHTRE ~ A Wise Person Is An Experienced Person – Trained By Having The Right Experiences

~ SRFWDNW ~ Substituting Rules For Wisdom Does Not Work

~ HILARAFTUWTAA-TANIWTAA ~ However Important Laws And Rules Are For Telling Us What To Aim At – They Always Need Interpretation When They Are Applied

~ BHWCAK ~ Balancing Honesty With Care And Kindness

~ PW-R-NT-F-C-A-EEWO ~ Practical Wisdom – Requires – Nuanced Thinking – Flexibility – Creativity – And – Empathetic Engagement With Others

~ HBABWTCTBW-TRMAT-WTBD-B-TCMBCBTRKOE ~ Human Beings Are Born With The Capacity To Be Wise – The Raw Materials Are There – Waiting To Be Developed – But – This Capacity Must Be Cultivated By The Right Kind Of Experience

~ TCOMS-P-NT-AOC-TATIIWE-A-TEE ~ The Components Of Moral Skill – Perceptiveness – Nuanced Thinking – Appreciation Of Context – Their Ability To Integrate Intellect With Emotion – And – To Experience Empathy

~ IOAL? ~ Is Oversimplification A Lie?

~ FABF-TIOCTTCWUATJWM-FTUWIIAHUEWSBCWW-TCWHTFEUTDOOTMITTPWD-DWIRAAPCOEIRTTDWF ~ Framing And Being Framed – The Importance Of Context To The Categories We Use And The Judgments We Make – Frames Tell Us What Is Important And Help Us Establish What Should Be Compared With What – The Capacity We Have To Frame Enables Us To Do One Of The Most Important Things That Practical Wisdom Demands – Discern What Is Relevant About A Particular Context Or Event In Regard To The Decision We Face

~ LTFWHMUW-IWGFAOM-A-AATI-OFWGMP ~ Learning To Frame Well Helps Make Us Wise – If We Get Feedback About Our Mistakes – And – Are Attentive To It – Our Framing Will Grow More Perspicacious

~ NC/F/N:TATTWUTOAITW-WDIN-WDIE-TEUTPTPOCTPWD ~ Natural Categories / Frames / Narratives: These Are The Tools We Use To Organize And Interpret The World – We Do It Naturally – We Do It Effortlessly – They Enable Us To Perceive The Particularities Or Context That Practical Wisdom Demands

~ TWIG-NCEUTSG-JAAAR-FHUSR-A-IEOEOITCOOLBL-NEUTALALAMSOTEBU ~ The World Is Gray – Natural Categories Enable Us To See Gray – Judgments Are Almost Always Relative – Frames Help Us See Relations – And – Isolated Events Or Episodes Occur In The Context Of Ongoing Lives Being Lived – Narratives Enable Us To Appreciate Lives As Lived And Make Sense Of The Episode Before Us

~ WLHT-CAF-A-RAR-TOOE-A-BBAMWPMACOM ~ We Learn How To – Categorize And Frame – And – Recategorize And Reframe – Through Our Own Experiences – And – By Being Around Mentors Who Provide Models And Correct Our Mistakes

~ TWF:TVOE ~ Thinking With Feeling: The Value Of Empathy

~ IOTBATFWAPIF-YNTBATSTWATOPSI-TATTTPOA-D-PAI-E-TRTIO-TAF ~ In Order To Be Able To Feel What Another Person Is Feeling – You Need To Be Able To See The World As That Other Person Sees It – This Ability To Take The Perspective Of Another – Demands – Perception And Imagination – Empathy – Thus Reflects The Integration Of – Thinking And Feeling

~ TFTPSTH-MI-A-M-F-A-J-DNMTAJW-IMBS-S-TMBD-B-WT-IC-TEHE-TPWWNFDJWSBI ~ The Fact That People Seem To Have – Moral Intuitions – And – Make – Fast – Automatic – Judgments – Does Not Mean They Always Judge Wisely – Intuitions May Be Self-Serving – They May Be Distorting – But – Without The – Intuitive Capacity – That Emotions Help Enable – The Practical Wisdom We Need For Daily Judgments Would Simply Be Impossible

~ A-EISI-W-AF-AN-A-ALS-EFMEACT-AN-NMHBTN-A-IIO-EAC-OE-TCUTA ~ An – Explicitly Identified Single Individual – With – A Face – A Name – And – A Life Story – Elicits Far More Empathy And Compassion Than – A Number – No Matter How Big The Number – And – It Is Our – Empathy And Compassion – Our Emotions – That Compels Us To Act

~ A-S-PWIAAAWAJ-WCBPWWTETIUTA ~ And – Since – Practical Wisdom Is About Action As Well As Judgment – We Couldn’t Be Practically Wise Without The Emotion That Impels Us To Act

~ HTECFEEDMWUI-PCBPIIS-TCDEL-E-A-EOEL-F-E-A-AAPS-TIADTOCFPWWBU-PWDTDOTMSTPTTAFOO-TWPTFDWNTBDADTOTMTDI ~ Having The Emotional Capacity For Experiencing Empathy Doesn’t Mean We’ll Use It – People Can Be Put In Institutional Settings – That Can Discourage Emotions Like – Empathy – And – Encourage Other Emotions Like – Fear – Embarrassment – And Anxiety About Pleasing Superiors – There Is A Danger That Our Capacity For Practical Wisdom Will Be Undermined – People Won’t Develop The Disposition Or The Moral Skill To Perceive The Thoughts And Feelings Of Others – This Will Prevent Them From Discerning What Needs To Be Done And Drain Them Of The Motivation To Do It

~ PCLTB-EI-TCLTBP:TDTEO-O-O-T-I-AW-ATOV-AG ~ People Can Learn To Be – Emotionally Intelligent – They Can Learn To Be Perceptive: To Detect The Emotions Of – Others – Or – Themselves – In – A Word – A Tone Of Voice – A Glance

~ PR:UAO-WMOOOTCBCTRP ~ Pattern Recognition: Unseen And Omnipresent – We Make Order Out Of The Chaos By Coming To Recognize Patterns

~ HWAMMOO-EMD:Q-A-WACROROD-MP ~ How We Actually Make Most Of Our – Everyday Moral Decisions: Quickly – And – Without A Conscious Reliance On Rules Or Decision-Making Procedures

~ AIIF-A-NFIN ~ All Information Is Framed – And – No Frame Is Neutral

~ PAOICWOAANTBB-I-RRADP-MTPWWNTIAB-WAPFCW ~ Principles Are Often In Conflict With One Another And Need To Be Balance – If – Rigid Rules And Dogmatic Principles – Marginalize The Practical Wisdom We Need To Interpret And Balance – We Are Prevented From Choosing Well

ALISON GOPNIK ~ THE PHILOSOPHICAL BABY ~ 2009

~ WUTTT-BAYCW-I-E-A-A-TTAEW-C-I-A-L ~ We Used To Think That – Babies And Young Children Were – Irrational – Egocentric – And – Amoral – Their Thinking And Experience Were – Concrete – Immediate – And – Limited

~ PAN-HDTB-NOLM-B-IM-CM-A-EMTWWEHTP-ISW-YCAA-S-MI-MC-AE-MCTAA ~ Psychologists And Neuroscientists – Have Discovered That Babies – Not Only Learn More – But – Imagine More – Care More – And – Experience More Than We Would Ever Have Thought Possible – In Some Ways – Young Children Are Actually – Smarter – More Imaginative – More Caring – And Even – More Conscious Than Adults Are

~ MTAOC-HBAATC-WG-TWAU-OP-A-O-CAC-HEHWC-A-TFTWCEWCATWTA-A-EWCEAA ~ More Than Any Other Creature – Human Beings Are Able To Change – We Change – The World Around Us – Other People – And – Ourselves – Children And Childhood – Help Explain How We Change – And – The Fact That We Change Explains Why Children Are The Way They Are – And – Even Why Childhood Exists At All

~ WCPS-A-OSCU-WAOPB-TBAO ~ We Change Our Surroundings – And – Our Surroundings Change Us – We Alter Other People’s Behavior – Their Behavior Alters Ours

~ WIC?-IADDPIWYHBAUDOA-CLCEWC ~ What Is Childhood? – It’s A Distinctive Developmental Period In Which Young Human Beings Are Uniquely Dependent On Adults – Childhood Literally Couldn’t Exist Without Caregivers

~ C-AT-R&DD-OT-HS-TB-SG-TB-A-APAM-TTU-AMNI-MU-A-WTTTOFGOAMTR ~ Children – Are The – R&D Department – Of The – Human Species – The Blue-Sky Guys – The Brainstormers – Adults – Are – Production And Marketing – They Think Up – A Million New Ideas – Mostly Useless – And – We Take The Three Or Four Good Ones And Make Them Real

~ IWFO-AA-L-TP-SAAE-RSR-TBAYCWILPP-B-IWFOO-DCFC-EIAL-TITAWLS-TCABDDTW ~ If We Focus On – Adult Abilities – Long-Term Planning – Swift And Automatic Execution – Rapid Skilful Reaction – Then Babies And Young Children Will Indeed Look Pretty Pathetic – But – If We Focus On Our – Distinctive Capacities For Change – Especially Imagination And Learning – Then It’s The Adults Who Look Slow – The Caterpillars And Butterflies Do Different Things Well

~ BBAAMHCTAB;MNPAATBTA-AWGOAEM-OB-‘PO’-TWLUPASTOTAUMO ~ Babies Brains Are Actually More Highly Connected Than Adult Brains; More Neural Pathways Are Available To Babies Than Adults – As We Grow Older And Experience More – Our Brains – “Prune Out” – The Weaker Less Used Pathways And Strengthen The Ones That Are Used More Often

~ OPIIPOBWCROTLOTPWTCOU-WCLFTDOEGBTSLCIITU ~ Our Protracted Immaturity Is Possible Only Because We Can Rely On The Love Of The People Who Take Care Of Us – We Can Learn From The Discoveries Of Earlier Generations Because Those Same Loving Caregivers Invest In Teaching Us

~ IHTCBDALC-A-A-BD-WCTOIOIAE ~ Imagining How They Could Be Different Actually Lets – Children – And – Adults – Become Different – We Can Turn Ourselves Into Our Imaginary Alter Egos

~ BAYCANTACWOT-ETYBHSCFEAA-A-ETKTRSBFBTTCBC ~ Babies And Young Children Are Not The Amoral Creatures We Once Thought – Even The Youngest Babies Have Striking Capacities For Empathy And Altruism – And – Even Toddlers Know That Rules Should Be Followed But That They Can Be Changed

~ TSSOB ~ The Spiritual Significance Of Babies

~ BATMOL ~ Babies And The Meaning Of Life

~ CRDPUITW-T-B-A-M ~ Children Really Do Put Us In Touch With – Truth – Beauty – And – Meaning

~ ETMMFOT-Y-OL-TEPP-TICTMTGIJAE-A-TISFO-TUWIMTBH ~ Even The Most Mundane Facts Of Three-Year-Old Life – The Extravagant Pretend Play – The Insatiable Curiosity That Makes Them Get Into Just About Everything – And – The Intuitive Sympathy For Others – Tell Us What It Means To Be Human

~ WDCP? ~ Who Do Children Pretend?

~ PAMHWADOSTB-JOOR-O-TH-JBM ~ People Are Most Unhappy When A Desirable Outcome Seems To Be – Just Out Of Reach – Or – To Have – Just Been Missed

~ BATTAPHYTIT ~ Being Able To Talk About Possibilities Helps You To Imagine Them

~ C-D-CTOTW-FAVEA ~ Children – Develop – Causal Theories Of The World – From A Very Early Age

~ IC-AN-IF-AIOEGOM ~ Imaginary Companions – Are Not – In Fact – An Indication Of Either Genius Or Madness

~ VYC-ML-B-TNVGAI ~ Very Young Children – May Lie – But – They’re Not Very Good At It

~ FOWYWMYDMI-WTASEMYDLI ~ Focusing On What You Want Makes Your Desires More Irresistible – While Thinking About Something Else Makes Your Desires Less Intense

~ TO-T-A-CLM ~ Think Of – Toddlers – As – Causal Learning Machines

~ VYBCITAOO ~ Very Young Babies Can Imitate The Actions Of Others

~ C-DJLBIYS-TLB-AYM-A-UYL-T ~ Children – Don’t Just Learn By Imitating Your Successes – They Learn By – Avoiding Your Mistakes – And – Understanding Your Limitations – Too

~ A-TBBAGMATBTIWTTATBTD ~ And – The Babies Babbled And Gestured More At The Blob That Interacted With Them Than At The Blob That Didn’t

~ TACASCBCLAATUOTMOO-AA-AMWTWCTUWIGOIOPHIBHWTS ~ There Are Consistent And Strong Correlations Between Children’s Language Abilities And Their Understanding Of The Minds Of Others – After All – A Major Way That We Come To Understand What Is Going On In Other People’s Heads Is By Hearing What They Say

~ HC-TEAOAFPOGG-P-TBOTSATSOTD? ~ How Can – The Electrical Activity Of A Few Pounds Of Grey Goo – Produce – The Blue Of The Sky And The Song Of The Dove?

~ PA-LBSPOYBASDO ~ Paying Attention – Literally Boosts Some Parts Of Your Brain And Shuts Down Others

~ S-RTDWTLAITW-BSTLTWDWTLA-A-RTDWTFAAWTID-BSTBCOMMOTWAO ~ So – Rather Than Determining What To Look At In The World – Babies Seem To Let The World Determine What They Look At – And – Rather Than Deciding Where To Focus Attention And Where To Inhibit Distractions – Babies Seem To Be Conscious Of Much More Of The World At Once

~ SITAGTSTBO ~ Sometimes It Takes A Genius To See The Blindingly Obvious

~ GRAER-DJAU-OMTO ~ Genetics Risk And Environmental Risk – Don’t Just Add Up – One Multiplies The Other

~ GD-CBM-O-CDA ~ Genetic Differences – Can Be Magnified – Or – Can Disappear Altogether

~ ATTA-TP-GOB-IOC-IDITU-EWIWHNIEOTP ~ Acknowledging The Truth About – The Past – Good Or Bad – Individually Or Collectively – Is Deeply Important To Us – Even When It Will Have No Immediate Effect On The Present

~ JACABW-TATW-B-AWPCFCTT-TSTBBW-CFMI-B-AWPCTCTMJAA ~ Just As Children Are Born With – Theories About The World – But – Also With Powerful Capacities For Changing Those Theories – They Seem To Be Born With – Certain Fundamental Moral Ideas – But – Also With Powerful Capacities To Change Their Moral Judgments And Actions

~ THCTCAFTGOTLGIOOOGEA-TADOTDHTTMAFR ~ The Human Ability To Coordinate Actions For The Good Of The Larger Group Is One Of Our Greatest Evolutionary Advantages – This Ability Depends On The Distinctively Human Tendency To Make And Follow Rules

~ CCATU-MTAE-A-TSITWMCL-OLFOC-A-OCLFU-HASQ ~ Children Can Also Tell Us – More Than Anything Else – About – The Spiritual Intuitions That We Might Call Love – Our Love For Our Children – And – Our Children’s Love For Us – Has A Special Quality

~ C-IAU-TBATSTTTCFT ~ Caregivers – Implicitly And Unconsciously – Teach Babies At The Same Time That They Care For Them

~ THCFCMTWCFOWIITBHJBLATWWAN ~ The Human Capacity For Change Means That We Can’t Figure Out What It Is To Be Human Just By Looking At The Way We Are Now

JENNY ODELL ~ HOW TO DO NOTHING ~ 2019

~ RTAE ~ Resisting The Attention Economy

~ SU ~ Surviving Usefulness

~ NIHTDTN ~ Nothing Is Harder To Do Than Nothing

~ IAWWOVIDBOP-MOUFOELM-C-O-O-AAAFRBTTWUD ~ In A World Where Our Value Is Determined By Our Productivity – Many Of Us Find Our Every Last Minute – Captured – Optimized – Or – Appropriated As A Financial Resource By The Technologies We Use Daily

~ TPODN-ITRTWRARTBMP-BR-TQWWCPAP ~ The Point Of Doing Nothing – Isn’t To Return To Work Refreshed And Ready To Be More Productive – But Rather – To Question What We Currently Perceive As Productive

~ DL ~ Deep Listening

~ TMOSTL ~ The Moment Of Stopping To Listen

~ A-P-N-S-DNFYIOFYTE-NFYTS ~ A – Public – Noncommercial – Space – Demands Nothing From You In Order For You To Enter – Nor For You To Stay

~ TMODBPSAOSITYDHTBA-O-PTWTBS-TBT ~ The Most Obvious Difference Between Public Space And Other Spaces Is That You Don’t Have To Buy Anything – Or – Pretend To Want To Buy Something – To Be There

~ TSD-CU-AAUT-SWT-‘P’-CBMOEOEEI ~ Those Spaces Deemed – Commercially Unproductive – Are Always Under Threat – Since What They – ‘Produce” – Can’t Be Measured Or Exploited Or Even Easily Identified

~ Y-IDGET-W-FA-ATT! ~ Yes – It Did Get Easier To – Work – From Anywhere – All The Time!

~ WMTTROL ~ Work Metastasizing Through The Rest Of Life

~ FIPOC ~ Financially Incentivized Proliferation Of Chatter

~ NOMO ~ The Necessity Of Missing Out

~ NOSMO ~ The Necessity Of Sometimes Missing Out

~ TIIFACB-LIT-DL-BS-A-L-AI-MUYP ~ There Is In Fact A Connection Between – Listening In The – Deep Listening – Bodily Sense – And – Listening – As In – Me Understanding Your Perspective

~ PO-S-AO-T-F-N-I-N-C-AAT-FM-FC-FC ~ Protect Our – Spaces – And Our – Time – For – Non-Instrumental – Non-Commercial – Activity And Thought – For Maintenance – For Care – For Conviviality

~ DD ~ Digital Detox

~ ‘P’-IAENAF-AAWWCBE ~ “Peace” – Is An Endless Negotiation Among Free-Acting Agents Whose Wills Cannot Be Engineered

~ P-NEBETIWFW-AATRPTD-IAAATRPTMOMB ~ Politics – Necessarily Exists Between Even Two Individuals With Free Will – Any Attempt To Reduce Politics To Design – Is Also An Attempt To Reduce People To Machines Or Mechanical Beings

~ SIDWU-TVOAOP-THIFOPSRHAS-DFKFAMUWFC ~ So Instinctively Do We Understand – The Value Of An Outsider’s Perspective – That History Is Full Of People Seeking Remote Hermits And Sages – Desperate For Knowledge From A Mind Unconcerned With Familiar Comforts

~ WIA-PSOF-PCASTT-NC-COAATSTTTCBEMD ~ Whipped Into A – Permanent State Of Frenzy – People Create And Subject Themselves To – News Cycles – Complaining Of Anxiety At The Same Time That They Check Back Ever More Diligently

~ TLOAACDTME ~ The Logic Of Advertising And Clicks Dictates The Media Experience

~ FSOOF-IAVSR-TSGFWS ~ Firecrackers Setting Off Other Firecrackers – In A Very Small Room – That Soon Gets Filled With Smoke

~ TNTPSAIMBTE ~ The Need To Periodically Step Away Is More Obvious Than Ever

~ WHTBATDB:C/P-L/CB ~ We Have To Be Able To Do Both: Contemplate/Participate – Leave/Come Back

~ MJ-IRB-C-BA ~ Moral Judgement – Is Replaced By – Cost-Benefit Analysis

~ TS ~ Third Space

~ LIACSODIU ~ Living In A Constant State Of Distraction Is Unpleasant

~ HSCMEATRTO-ADOL-M ~ Historically – Some Can More Easily Afford To Refuse Than Others – A Degree Of Latitude – A Margin

~ IS-CGALWTAIT-‘A’-TR ~ Institutional Support – Can Go A Long Way Toward Allowing Individuals To – “Afford” – To Refuse

~ AOCR-AOM-‘C’-FP-ITCI ~ Acts Of Collective Refusal – Are Obviously More – “Costly” – For Participants – If They’re Considered Illegal

~ TAM-‘SA’-TB-R-ATM-OGPTSITAOOA-TBAUEOKOMR ~ There Are Many – “Systemic Abuses” – To Be – Refused – At The Moment – One Great Place To Start Is The Abuse Of Our Attention – That’s Because Attention Undergirds Every Other Kind Of Meaningful Refusal

~ II-A(DWTPAT)-TMOR-RCOICAMTDONWANWOMTT ~ If Its – Attention (Deciding What To Pay Attention To) – That Makes Our Reality – Regaining Control Of It Can Also Mean The Discovery Of New Worlds And New Ways Of Moving Through Them

~ B-IWAT-WWSFTBOHWCA-T-TIODOABATC ~ But – If We Allow That – What We See Forms The Basis Of How We Can Act – Then – The Importance Of Directing Our Attention Becomes All Too Clear

~ I-AAW-ASCL-T-WHEMRTWAAEEAIEPOOA ~ If – Attention And Will – Are So Closely Linked – Then – We Have Even More Reason To Worry About An Entire Economy And Information Ecosystem Preying On Our Attention

~ EMTDW? ~ Empower Me To Do What?

~ GFMATW? ~ Good For Me According To Whom?

~ WTPOYAHC-YRYRD-YBTMAAIADKOW ~ When The Pattern Of Your Attention Has Changed – You Render Your Reality Differently – You Begin To Move And Act In A Different Kind Of World

~ EOS ~ Ecology Of Strangers

~ WSCATAUBWABTEOIAPS ~ We Should Care About Those Around Us Because We Are Beholden To Each Other In A Practical Sense

~ WSGFBAITAR-YCEFYPBITNCICF ~ When Something Goes From Being An Idea To A Reality – You Can’t Easily Force Your Perception Back Into The Narrow Container It Came From

~ IWLO-R-LI-BCB-OFBABI-WAARTRONB-S-C-O-C-NSAOOO-IOOP ~ If We Let Our – Real-Life Interactions – Be Corralled By – Our Filter Bubbles And Branded Identities – We Are Also Running The Risk Of Never Being – Surprised – Challenged – Or – Changed – Never Seeing Anything Outside Of Ourselves – Including Our Own Privilege

~ P-POO-P-IDF-D-P-A-E ~ Politics – Play Out On – Platforms – Ill Designed For – Difference – Plurality – And – Encounter

~ T-WWATNOW-BD-B-CD-WHSMTLFTBOE ~ Today – When We Are Threatened Not Only With – Biological Desertification – But – Cultural Desertification – We Have So Much To Learn From The Basics Of Ecology

~ IIW-AOA-TWD-WTH-WTS-A-WIOWHA-ITW-AFTG-NJF-L-B-F-E ~ It Is With – Acts Of Attention – That We Decide – Who To Hear – Who To See – And – Who In Our World Has Agency – In This Way – Attention Forms The Ground – Not Just For – Love – But – For – Ethics

~ APB-WALOTTW-SESWAFSE;ASB-WAEDBOC ~ As Physical Beings – We Are Literally Open To The World – Suffused Every Second With Air From Somewhere Else; As Social Beings – We Are Equally Determined By Our Contexts

~ HAO-B-TSCIATATYDHTWS ~ Humility And Openness – Because – To Seek Context Is Already To Acknowledge That You Don’t Have The Whole Story

~ C-IWAWYHYAOFLE;TLYHI-TMCA ~ Context – Is What Appears When You Hold Your Attention Open For Long Enough; The Longer You Hold It – The More Context Appears

~ ARTTMB ~ A Race To The Mediocre Bottom

~ B-B-AACOMOISOFAAW-WEHOTORR ~ But – Because – Apologizing And Changing Our Minds Online Is So Often Framed As A Weakness – We Either Hold Our Tongues Or Risk Ridicule

~ TCCOSAFWIETBAMATAAB ~ The Crowd Can Only See A Figure Who Is Expected To Be As Monolithic And Timeless As A Brand

~ GTAOTITFUDAUO-C-I-A-N-TAT-SAU-C-INLTA-CSS ~ Given That All Of The Issues That Face Us Demand An Understanding Of – Complexity – Interrelationship – And – Nuance – The Ability To – Seek And Understand – Context – Is Nothing Less Than A – Collective Survival Skill

~ DASOPBEAARI-TI-IWWTRHTCAEO-WWAHTRHTCAP ~ Developing A Sense Of Place Both Enables Attention And Requires It – That Is – If We Want To Relearn How To Care About Each Other – We Will Also Have To Relearn How To Care About Place

~ MD ~ Manifest Dismantling

~ TPOTAECJBABLOARTIOPDT;TAEATIOIO-PS-EP-C-A-R ~ The Pitfalls Of The Attention Economy Can’t Just Be Avoided By Logging Off And Refusing The Influence Of Persuasive Design Techniques; They Also Emerge At The Intersection Of Issues Of – Public Space – Environmental Politics – Class – And – Race

MICHAEL POLLAN ~ HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MIND ~ 2018

~ P-‘MM’ ~ Psychedelic – “Mind Manifesting”

~ TEOPIPIBOE ~ The Experience Of Psychedelics Is Powerfully Influenced By One’s Expectation

~ I-IOCAHO-TME-B-AWT-FOI-TCTSPOTHBDTYIAHOTME-ROWIHBOB-AD-M-F-F-O-SD-PFTHBLIOADSOTU-A-TCBSFTC-‘ND’ ~ Ineffability – Is Of Course A Hallmark Of – The Mystical Experience – But – Along With The – Feeling Of Ineffability – The Conviction That Some Profound Objective Truth Has Been Disclosed To You Is A Hallmark Of The Mystical Experience – Regardless Of Whether It Has Been Occasioned By – A Drug – Meditation – Fasting – Flagellation – Or – Sensory Deprivation – People Feel They Have Been Let In On A Deep Secret Of The Universe – And – They Cannot Be Shaken From That Conviction – “No Doubt”

~ TMJ-STO-AGEITO-YPCOOTEUTPIANW:WWMKINF-TOTAOADRC-A-MOTN-TCCTSIOL ~ The Mystical Journey – Seems To Offer – A Graduate Education In The Obvious – Yet People Come Out Of The Experience Understanding These Platitudes In A New Way: What Was Merely Known Is Now Felt – Takes On The Authority Of A Deeply Rooted Conviction – And – More Often Than Not – That Conviction Concerns The Supreme Importance Of Love

~ HSMHAAOOTPOCTCFSMABD ~ Homo Sapiens Might Have Arrived At One Of Those Periods Of Crisis That Calls For Some Mental And Behavioral Depatterning

~ OP-‘D’-CBA-‘SOO’-IWAAMOPAV ~ One Person’s – “Depersonalization” – Could Be Another’s – “Sense Of Oneness” – It Was All A Matter Of Perspective And Vocabulary

~ ‘MF’ ~ “Microdosing Fridays”

~ PCMETMCOUIFEOTO ~ Psychedelics Can Make Even The Most Cynical Of Us Into Fervent Evangelists Of The Obvious

~ RAFD ~ Relax And Float Downstream

~ MEQ ~ Mystical Experience Questionnaires

~ 5-HT2A ~ 5-HT2A

GEORGE LOIS ~ DAMN GOOD ADVICE ~ 2012

~ BTTYAYRTTTW ~ Be True To Yourself And You’ll Ring True To The World

~ FYB-TWYL-YMSYLD-APAAPAY-H-M-A-I-A-A-TSYITB-WSRITSOMHB-TGYCOATSL ~ Follow Your Bliss – That Which You Love – You Must Spend Your Life Doing – As Passionately And As Perfectly As Your – Heart – Mind – And – Instincts – Allow – And – The Sooner You Identify That Bliss – Which Surely Resides In The Soul Of Most Human Beings – The Greater Your Chance Of A Truly Successful Life

~ ATTITWAMWAEI ~ All The Tools In The World Are Meaningless Without An Essential Idea

~ AGFTBI ~ Always Go For The Big Idea

~ ACSCIAN ~ All Creativity Should Communicate In A Nanosecond

~ TWCF-TTV ~ The Word Comes First – Then The Visual

~ INHSYMI-IHYMIS ~ It’s Not How Short You Make It – It’s How You Make It Short

~ IYCPASEYCI-F ~ If You Can’t Passionately And Succinctly Explain Your Creative Ideas – Fuggedaboutit!

~ ATIAAT ~ A Trend Is Always A Trap

~ CINC-IITFUTF-IIAAOD ~ Creativity Is Not Created – It Is There For Us To Find – It Is An Act Of Discovery

~ WJBA-CT-WYCBA-CP ~ Why Just Be A – Creative Thinker – When You Can Be A – Cultural Provocateur!

~ ABICCWC ~ A Big Idea Can Change World Culture

~ GA-BI-INAAOI-BR-OOD ~ Getting A – Big Idea – Is Not An Act Of Inspiration – But Rather – One Of Discovery

~ YCB-C-O-YCB-C-B-TNSTAA-CC ~ You Can Be – Cautious – Or – You Can Be – Creative – But – There’s No Such Thing As A – Cautious Creative

~ RGG-TAT:D-B-CD-M-IAAMB-O-T-OP-T-MWIU ~ Reject Group Grope – Think About This: Decisive – Breakthrough – Creative Decision-Making – Is Almost Always Made By – One – Two – Or Possibly – Three – Minds Working In Unison

~ BCOY-O-E-S-T ~ Be Confident Of Your – Own – Edgy – Solo – Talent

~ TGTFBB-YCJBTY’G’~ To Get That First Big Break – You Can’t Just Brag That You’re “Great”

~ Y-P-S-I-P-S-KA ~ Your – Portfolio – Should – Ignite – Provoke – Shock – Kick Ass

~ WIW ~ Work Is Worship

~ M-OMD-LL-TMD ~ Make – One Million Dollars – Look Like – Ten Million Dollars!

~ NMWKOWYI-DI-F-O-T-A-DI-P ~ No Matter What Kind Of Work You’re In – Do It – Fast – On-Time – And – Do It – Perfectly

~ Even A Brilliant Idea Won’t Sell Itself

~ ADTTWYPABI:TTWTAGTS;SITT;TT-D-WTJS ~ Always Do Three Things When You Present A Big Idea: Tell Them What They Are Going To See; Show It To Them; Tell Them – Dramatically – What They Just Saw

~ WYPA-BI-BPT-ADQ ~ When You’re Presenting A – Big Idea – Be Prepared To – Answer Dumb Questions

~ TCOATGBNCBAB-DI! ~ The Creation Of A Truly Great Brand Name Can Become A Billion-Dollar Idea!

~ GW-MBPT-TP-TH-TPTAYC-U-CAS-‘N’-B-HNPTS-‘Y’ ~ Great Work – Must Be Presented To – The Person – That Has – The Power To Accept Your Creations – Underlings – Can Always Say – “No” – But – Have No Power To Say – “Yes”

~ WYPAEI-IITMT-TS-TEITTMG-INABI! ~ When You Present An Entrepreneurial Idea – If It Takes More Than – Three Sentences – To Explain It To The Money Guys – It’s Not A Big Idea!

~ DE-K-WF-BP ~ Don’t Ever – Knowingly – Work For – Bad People

~ ATG-AC-IDB-ABI-TC:AMS!;AMV! ~ A Truly Great – Ad Campaign – Is Driven By – A Big Idea – That Contains: A Memorable Slogan!; A Memorable Visual!

~ MTE-ITAO-IT-M-CAUSBSIATW ~ More Than Ever – In This Age Of – Internet Technology – Misinformation – Comes At Us Second By Second In A Tidal Wave

~ A-TP-M-R-S-Q-E-A-NLTBBY ~ A – Thinking Person – Must – Read – Study – Question – Evaluate – And – Not Let The Bullshiters Bullshit You

~ NMWSYAIYC-UYCTSUFOHAPYCATV ~ No Matter What Stage You Are In Your Career – Use Your Creativity To Stand Up For Our Heroes And Protect Your Culture Against The Villains

~ DTRT-SYCBPOY-TTDYD ~ Do The Right Thing – So You Can Be Proud Of Yourself – Till The Day You Die

~ HAM-WUACMTYEOLAW-IABBM ~ Having A Mate – Who Understands And Contributes Mightily To Your Ethos Of Life And Work – Is A Blessing Beyond Measure

~ AEDAIIYL ~ Attack Every Day As If It’s Your Last

~ EAPSDHCAI-IYCD-L-IWNOMYAPBCOYI-IWAMJTTWYS ~ Even A Passable Sketch Dramatically Helps Crystallize An Idea – If You Can’t Draw – Learn – It Will Not Only Make You A Profoundly Better Communicator Of Your Ideas – It Will Add More Joy To The Way You See

~ YCTACTWS ~ You Cannot Teach A Crab To Walk Straight

~ DLYTDYFYD-IYKCIO-TW-YL-DLSOWYH! ~ Don’t Let Your Tormentors Distract You From Your Destiny – If You Keep Chewing It Over – They Win – You Lose – Don’t Lose Sight Of Where You’re Headed!

~ MYSAMFWYA ~ Make Your Surroundings A Metaphor For Who You Are

~ EYM ~ Extoll Your Mentors

~ IYDBTACB-I-RT-C-YNUTPOGC ~ If You Don’t Believe That Advertising Can Be – Icon – Rather Than – Con – You’ll Never Understand The Potential Of Great Creativity

~ IWWDA? ~ Is What We Do Art?

~ I-Y-TAP-E-YTWC-A! ~ If – You’re – Talented And Passionate – Enough – You Too Will Create – Art!

~ YAYHWYC ~ You’re At Your Happiest When You’re Creating

~ W-S-E-N-K-THS ~ Work – Should – Ennoble – Not – Kill – The Human Spirit

~ YNBTCPYATBIYDKWIACF-YCCTFWKWCBI ~ You’ll Never Be The Creative Person You Aspire To Be If You Don’t Know Where It All Came From – You Can’t Create The Future Without Knowing What Came Before It

DALE CARNEGIE ~ BE A LEADER ~ CHANGING YOUR PEOPLE’S ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIORS ~ HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE ~ 1936

~ BS-DNPATYCD-FATBTYACOTBTTOP ~ Be Sincere – Do Not Promise Anything That You Cannot Deliver – Forget About The Benefits To Yourself And Concentrate On The Benefits To The Other Person

~ KEWIIYWTOPTD ~ Know Exactly What It Is You Want The Other Person To Do

~ BE-AYWIITOPRW ~ Be Empathetic – Ask Yourself What It Is The Other Person Really Wants

~ CTBTPWRFDWYS-MTBTTOPW ~ Consider The Benefits That Person Will Receive From Doing What You Suggest – Match Those Benefits To The Other Person’s Wants

~ WYMYR-PIIAFTWCTTOPTIT[S/]HPWB ~ When You Make Your Request – Put It In A Form That Will Convey To The Other Person The Idea That [S/]He Personally Will Benefit

~ BWPAHA ~ Begin With Praise And Honest Appreciation

~ CATPMI ~ Call Attention To People’s Mistakes Indirectly

~ TAYOMBCTOP ~ Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person

~ AQIOGDO ~ Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders

~ LTOPSF ~ Let The Other Person Save Face

~ PTSIAPEI ~ Praise The Slightest Improvement And Praise Every Improvement

~ GTOPAFRTLUT ~ Give The Other Person A Fine Reputation To Live Up To

~ UE-MTFSETC ~ Use Encouragement – Make The Fault Seem Easy To Correct

~ MTOPHABTTYS ~ Make The Other Person Happy About Doing The Thing You Suggest

DALE CARNEGIE ~ WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING ~ HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE ~ 1936

~ TOWTGTBOAAITAI ~ The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It

~ SRFTOPO-NS-‘YW’ ~ Show Respect For The Other Person’s Opinions – Never Say – “You’re Wrong”

~ IYAW-AIQAE ~ If You Are Wrong – Admit It Quickly And Emphatically

~ BIAFW ~ Begin In A Friendly Way

~ GTOPS-‘Y-Y’-I ~ Get The Other Person Saying – “Yes – Yes” – Immediately

~ LTOPDAGDOTT ~ Let The Other Person Do A Great Deal Of The Talking

~ LTOPFTTIIHOH ~ Let The Other Person Feel That The Idea Is His Or Hers

~ THTSTFTOPPOV ~ Try Honestly To See Things From The Other Person’s Point Of View

~ BSWTOPIAD ~ Be Sympathetic With The Other Person’s Ideas And Desires

~ ATTNM ~ Appeal To The Nobler Motives

~ DYI ~ Dramatize Your Ideas

~ TDAC ~ Throw Down A Challenge

SUSAN JEFFERS ~ SEVEN WAYS TO RECLAIM YOUR POWER ~ FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY ~ 1987

~ ACBOAEFFYBFAL-NOYCCYTOYA ~ Avoid Casting Blame On An External Force For Your Bad Feelings About Life – Nothing Outside Yourself Can Control Your Thinking Or Your Actions

~ ABYFNBIC-YADTBYCAYAOTWTRYP ~ Avoid Blaming Yourself For Not Being In Control – You Are Doing The Best You Can And You Are On The Way To Reclaiming Your Power

~ BAOWAWYA-PTVR-LTCTTYTYA-NBRFWYA:B/H/D/F ~ Be Aware Of When And Where You Are – Playing The Victim Role – Learn The Clues That Tell You That You Are – Not Being Responsible For What You Are: Being / Having / Doing / Feeling

~ FYWYBE-Y-C-RIW-ALIF ~ Familiarize Yourself With Your Biggest Enemy – Your – Chatterbox – Replace It With – A Loving Internal Friend

~ FOT-P-TKY-‘S’-P-OYFT-YWPBAQTB-‘U’ ~ Figure Out The – Payoffs – That Keep You – “Stuck” – Paradoxically – Once You Find Them – You Will Probably Be Able Quickly To Become – “Unstuck”

~ DWYWILAAOI-SWFSTGITY ~ Determine What You Want In Life And Act On It – Stop Waiting For Someone To Give It To You

~ BAOTMCYH-IB-AAF-IASTCYW-CTPTCTYGAMYFAPWYAO ~ Be Aware Of The Many Choices You Have – In Both – Actions And Feelings – In Any Situation That Comes Your Way – Choose The Path That Contributes To Your Growth And Makes You Feel At Peace With Yourself And Others