MICHEAL SHERMER ~ BIASES ~ THE BELIEVING BRAIN ~ 2011

~ CG~SAFCEISO-A-EBAIORDE ~ Confirmation Bias ~ Seeking And Finding Confirmatory Evidence In Support Of Already Existing Beliefs – And – Ignoring Or Reinterpreting Disconfirming Evidence

~ A~RTHOAPROOOPOIWMD ~ Anchoring ~ Relying Too Heavily On A Past Reference Or On One Piece Of Information When Making Decisions

~ A~ADCFOOBAATTOO ~ Attribution ~ Attributing Different Causes For Our Own Beliefs And Actions Than That Of Others

~ A~VTOOAA-EITEOSWKLA ~ Authority ~ Valuing The Opinions Of An Authority – Especially In The Evaluation Of Something We Know Little About

~ A~APOPOBOETAIATU-ETTA-V/U/EC-WATGICUWCAB ~ Availability ~ Assigning Probabilities Of Potential Outcomes Based On Examples That Are Immediately Available To Us – Especially Those That Are – Vivid / Unusual / Emotionally Charged – Which Are Then Generalized Into Conclusions Upon Which Choices Are Based

~ BE~HBTOPIYSGHBOTSRP ~ Bandwagon Effect ~ Holding Beliefs That Other People In Your Social Group Hold Because Of The Social Reinforcement Provided

~ BE~TVAGDOPAHAAS ~ Barnum Effect ~ Treating Vague And General Descriptions Of Personality As Highly Accurate And Specific

~ B~ETSOAABOTBOIC ~ Believability ~ Evaluating The Strength Of An Argument Based On The Believability Of Its Conclusion

~ BB~RTPOCBIOP-B-TBBTTIUYOB ~ Bias Blindness ~ Recognizing The Power Of Cognitive Biases In Other People – But – To Be Blind To Their Influence Upon Your Own Beliefs

~ CI~SCOPT-IF-CBTROR ~ Clustering Illusion ~ Seeing Clusters Of Patterns That – In Fact – Can Be The Result Of Randomness

~ C~CMWIAOPAAOO ~ Confabulation ~ Conflating Memories With Imagination And Other People’s Accounts As One’s Own

~ C~RO-P-B-A-A-B-AR-P-B-A-A-B-MTTAD ~ Consistency ~ Recalling One’s – Past – Beliefs – Attitudes – And – Behaviors – As Resembling – Present – Beliefs – Attitudes – And – Behaviors – More Than They Actually Do

~ EE~VWWOMTWWDNO ~ Endowment Effect ~ Valuing What We Own More Than What We Do Not Own

~ E~NDTAWEFTO-A-T-NN-D-O-D-D-TATCWE ~ Expectation ~ Noticing Data That Agree With Expectations For The Outcome – And – To – Not Notice – Discard – Or – Disbelieve – Data – That Appear To Conflict With Expectations

~ F-CE~OTDTWOAWTBOTWGAWTIAB ~ False-Consensus Effect ~ Overestimating The Degree To Which Others Agree With Their Beliefs Or That Will Go Along With Them In A Behaviour

~ FE~DDCBOHDAP ~ Framing Effects ~ Drawing Different Conclusions Based On How Data Are Presented

~ HE~GOPTOAPTATOTOTP ~ Halo Effect ~ Generalizing One Positive Trait Of A Person To All The Other Traits Of That Person

~ H~ATBAFTBOTMOMIAGIOTAC ~ Herd ~ Adopting The Beliefs And Following The Behaviours Of The Majority Of Members In A Group In Order To Avoid Conflict

~ H~RTPTFWPK ~ Hindsight ~ Reconstructing The Past To Fit With Present Knowledge

~ IOC~BTOCC-O-AL-OTMPCCOI ~ Illusion Of Control ~ Believing That One Can Control – Or – At Least – Influence Outcomes That Most People Cannot Control Or Influence

~ IC~ATACC(C)EBTV ~ Illusory Correlation ~ Assuming That A Causal Connection (correlation) Exists Between Two Variables

~ IB~MSOAGWATSSAS ~ Inattentional Blindness ~ Missing Something Obvious And General While Attending To Something Special And Specific

~ I-G~VTBAAOTWTPTBFMOTG-A-TDTBAAOTWTPTBMOADG ~ In-Group ~ Valuing The Beliefs And Attitudes Of Those Whom They Perceive To Be Fellow Members Of Their Group – And – To Discount The Beliefs And Attitudes Of Those Whom They Perceive To Be Members Of A Different Group

~ JW~SFTTTVOAUEMHDTDI ~ Just World ~ Searching For Things That The Victim Of An Unfortunate Event Might Have Done To Deserve It

~ N~PCAAGMWT-N-E-B-A-I-TT-P ~ Negativity ~ Paying Closer Attention And Giving More Weight To – Negative – Events – Beliefs – And – Information – That To – Positive

~ N~DTPOAETHNHB ~ Normalcy ~ Discounting The Possibility Of An Event That Has Never Happened Before

~ N-I-H~DTVOABOITDNCFW ~ Not-Invented-Here ~ Discounting The Value Of A Belief Or Source Of Information That Does Not Come From Within

~ PE~N-R-A-A-AMV-IEMTSE ~ Primacy Effect ~ Noticing – Remembering – And – Assessing – As More Valuable – Initial Events More Than Subsequent Events

~ P~ATOS-TSOS-B-A-A-V-A-TOTPOOBBOOOB ~ Projection ~ Assuming That Others Share – The Same Or Similar – Beliefs – Attitudes – And – Values – And – To Overestimate The Probability Of Others’ Behaviours Based On Our Own Behaviours

~ RE~N-R-A-A-AMV-REMTEE ~ Recency Effect ~ Noticing – Remembering – And – Assessing – As More Valuable – Recent Events More Than Earlier Events

~ R~AEIJPTTETIRTEFOIPPOGP ~ Representative ~ An Event Is Judged Probable To The Extent That It Represents The Essential Features Of Its Parent Population Or Generating Process

~ RI~RPEABMPTTAW ~ Rosy Retrospection ~ Remembering Past Events As Being More Positive Than They Actually Were

~ S-FP~BIIABIWTCTEFBAA ~ Self-Fulfilling Prophecy ~ Believing In Ideas And Behaving In Ways That Conform To Expectations For Beliefs And Actions

~ S-J~RDATFTCOTWWDWTBTWCHD ~ Self-Justification ~ Rationalizing Decisions After The Fact To Convince Ourselves That What We Did Was The Best Thing We Could Have Done

~ SQ~OFWWAUT ~ Status Quo ~ Opting For What We Are Used To

~ S(G)~ATAMOAGWHCCBTRTGWHAIATPM ~ Stereotyping (Generalization) ~ Assuming That A Member Of A Group Will Have Certain Characteristics Believed To Represent The Group Without Having Actual Information About That Particular Member

~ SC~BISBOTCSITB ~ Sunk Cost ~ Believing In Something Because Of The Cost Sunk Into That Belief

~ T-A~APBABAMVALDTTOO ~ Trait-Ascription ~ Assessing Personal Behaviour And Beliefs As More Variable And Less Dogmatic Than Those Of Others

JOHN GRANT ~ DENYING SCIENCE ~ 2011

~ UWT-WA ~ Unless We Think – We Aren’t

~ TPO-TTBOUT-ICTAFO-SD ~ This Pattern Of – Threatening The Bearers Of Unwelcome Truths – Is Common Throughout All Fields Of – Science Denialism

~ SPGPAVGDOMTDBS ~ Some People Get Paid A Very Great Deal Of Money To Deny Basic Science

~ AAGR-ITMO-MJ-SOTATMO-SWITRF-SA-BTS-U-SOTPSITOWA ~ As A General Rule – If The Mass Of – Mainstream Journalists – Says One Thing And The Mass Of – Scientists Working In The Relevant Field – Says Another – Believe The Scientists – Unfortunately – Swaths Of The Public See It The Other Way Round

~ OCEO-DR-I-TAHA-A-TTOFODAPTPTWS ~ Other Common Elements Of – Denialist Rhetoric – Include – The Ad Hominem Attack – And – The Trick Of Focusing On Details And Pretending They Present The Whole Story

~ OOTDBSAP-IT-SATRIDL ~ One Of The Differences Between Science And Pseudoscience – Is That – Science Accepts The Results It Doesn’t Like

~ IIAVUTIMDC-B-TFTSC-I-DAMIW ~ Intuition Is A Very Useful Tool In Many Different Circumstances – But – The Fact That Something’s Counter-Intuitional – Doesn’t Automatically Mean It’s Wrong

~ FMCI-TUB-TIP-O-TLS-IAT-SSITCWTI ~ Far More Concerning Is – The Use By – Those In Power – Of – The Legal System – In Attempts To – Silenced Scientific Information That Conflicts With Their Ideology

~ ISASAR-NMHV-NMHFDFTDEOTIRI-OANO-DRD-BTAP-RSC ~ It Seems A Single Anecdotal Report – No Matter How Vague – No Matter How Far Distanced From The Direct Experience Of The Individual Repeating It – Outweighs Any Number Of – Deeply Researched Double-Blind Trials And Peer-Reviewed Scientific Conclusions

~ DTPO-TPE-WRDUI ~ Despite The Power Of – The Placebo Effect – We Really Don’t Understand It

~ TNT-FASTEOL-DAEE-ICTSC ~ The Notion That – Finding A Single Tangential Error Or Lacuna – Demolishes An Entire Edifice – Is Common Throughout Science Denialism

DAN ARIELY ~ THE (HONEST) TRUTH ABOUT DISHONESTY ~ 2012

~ WLTE-EO ~ We Lie To Everyone – Especially Ourselves

~ WD-CAS-AMAWWIWWPRAAOIOOS-I ~ We Don’t – Cheat And Steal – As Much As We Would If We Were Perfectly Rational And Acted Only In Our Own Self-Interest

~ TPOGCDHASIOTAOC ~ The Probability Of Getting Caught Doesn’t Have A Substantial Influence On The Amount Of Cheating

~ Rather – Our Sense Of Our Own Morality Is Connected To The Amount Of Cheating We Feel Comfortable With – Essentially – We Cheat Up To The Level That Allows Us To Retain Our Self-Image – As A Reasonably Honest Individual

~ EOUHALT-HMWCC-BIBA-‘S’ ~ Each Of Us Has A Limit To – How Much We Can Cheat – Before It Becomes Absolutely – “Sinful”

~ TFF-TDBBTCDTMAPS-IATBFC ~ The Fudge Factor – The Delicate Balance Between The Contradictory Desires To Maintain A Positive Self-Image And To Benefit From Cheating

~ AITO-PAMATBDITPONO-SAPAT-TAM ~ As It Turns Out – People Are More Apt To Be Dishonest In The Presence Of Nonmonetary Objects – Such As Pencils And Tokens – Than Actual Money

~ IST-WWASRO-ES-WBMH ~ It Seems That – When We Are Simply Reminded Of – Ethical Standards – We Behave More Honorably

~ WPSTNTSKOP-IPTIAMHD(ALT)-IPSBTEADOTF-TCL ~ When People Sign Their Names To Some Kind Of Pledge – It Puts Them Into A More Honest Disposition (At Least Temporarily) – If People Sign Before They Enter Any Data Onto The Form – They Cheat Less

~ AAFW-IDTIRQATVOTWWPM ~ After A Few Weeks – I Discovered That I Rather Quickly Adopted The Viewpoint Of Those Who Were Paying Me

~ GS-IYWDY-WP-YWHCMTRYD-A-TDCWDYHAW ~ Generally Speaking – If You Wear Down Your – Will Power – You Will Have Considerably More Trouble Regulating Your Desires – And – That Difficulty Can Wear Down Your Honesty As Well

JULIA ANGWIN ~ DRAGNET NATION ~ 2014

~ DN ~ Dragnet Nation

~ AQF-P-S-A-F-IAWORS ~ A Quest For – Privacy – Security – And – Freedom – In A World Of Relentless Surveillance

~ WALIADN ~ We Are Living In A Dragnet Nation

~ AWOIT ~ A World Of Indiscriminate Tracking

~ CARPFLCD ~ Companies Are Rarely Penalized For Losing Customer Data

~ PL-DTATPTTEAAS ~ Police Lineup – Dragnets That Allow The Police To Treat Everyone As A Suspect

~ IUPQ ~ Innocent Until Proven Guilty

~ IWTTBRI-TDW-FLSWHW ~ I Want There To Be Room In – The Digital World For – Letters Sealed With Hot Wax

~ DWWTLIAWWWAAAROBH? ~ Do We Want To Live In A World Where We Are Always At Risk Of Being Hacked?

~ PS ~ Public Space

~ TPD ~ Third-Party Doctrine

~ MD ~ MetaData

~ ATT-ISLA-UEM ~ At The Time – It Seemed Like An – Understandable Emergency Measure

~ SD-HB-TNN ~ Suspicionless Dragnets – Had Become – The New Normal

~ F-SVHABM:T ~ Finally – Silicon Valley Had A Business Model: Tracking

~ ‘DDC’ ~ “Dark Data Circle”

~ TGRCTCD-AT-SITCE-WLTDASIBTTG ~ The Government Requires Citizens To Create Data – And Then – Sells It To Commercial Entities – Which Launder The Data And Sell It Back To The Government

~ TRITCAGDAIL;NCEWTO ~ The Reality Is That Corporate And Government Dragnets Are Inextricably Linked; Neither Can Exist Without The Other

~ PCWSAMBCTBATIA ~ People Cope With Surveillance As Much By Changing Their Behavior As Through Increased Anxiety

~ FOA ~ Freedom Of Association

~ CPBTAIAFTORR ~ Categorizing People By Their Associations Is A Favorite Tactic Of Repressive Regimes

~ PSNB-PFJG-O-A-CIJG ~ People Should Not Be – Prevented From Joining Groups – Or – Alternatively – Coerced Into Joining Groups

~ ITW-ECWMAUW-AP-AP-O-AI ~ In Today’s World – Every Choice We Make Associates Us With – A Person – A Place – Or – An Idea

~ DTAIQLPIDD? ~ Does The Activity In Question Limit Participation In Democratic Debate?

~ TM ~ Threat Model

~ TROIT ~ The Rise Of Indiscriminate Tracking

~ IT-CETCOA-TSS ~ Indiscriminate Tracking – Could Enable The Creation Of A – Totalitarian Surveillance State

~ SV ~ Surveillance Vegan

~ LB ~ Lookup Business

~ TOIWTOOTNTTSQWETC ~ Turns Out I Wasn’t The Only One To Notice That The Security Questions Were Easy To Circumvent

~ PNR ~ Passenger Name Records

~ N-VIP ~ NOT – VIP

~ BIHACTLM-PP-IWH ~ Before I Had A Chance To Launch My – Privacy Project – I Was Hacked

~ ‘PUITW’ ~ “Password Use In The Wild”

~ ATGGO ~ Appealing The Government’s Gag Order

~ U-TQITSAFAD-WTDBAE? ~ Ultimately – The Question Is The Same As For All Dragnets – Will The Data Be Abused Eventually?

~ IWCTTAJFM ~ It Was Clearly Too Technical A Job For Me

~ UAU-CIMA ~ Unloved And Untrendy – Cash It Mostly Anonymous

~ WWHIEOIYSL? ~ What Would Happen If Every One In Your Situation Lied?

~ TA ~ “Traffic Analysis”

~ PIKTOOP ~ “Pseudonymity Is Key To Our Online Privacy”

~ THOM ~ The Hall Of Mirrors

~ TICBATCIED ~ The Information Collected By Ad-Tracking Companies Is Extremely Detailed

~’PC’~ “Perceived Control”

~ DARBAC ~ Data About Readers Became A Commodity

~ IAAKEAYEYN-DTNRM? ~ If An Advertiser Knows Everything About You Except Your Name – Does The Name Really Matter?

~ ‘THYD-HT-W-LT’ ~ “That’s How You Defeat – High-Tech – With – Low-Tech”

~ AUD ~ An Unfairness Doctrine

~ “SousVeillance”

~ OWT-ETPF-WBFETBI-TSB-‘SV’-CMTGFB-AAA-TGMTFA ~ One Way To – Even The Playing Field – Would Be For Everyone To Be In – The Surveillance Business – “SousVeillance” – Citizens Monitor The Government From Below – As Aggressively As – The Government Monitors Them From Above

~ NAC ~ New Asset Class

~ PLTGPTRTSTDTIUAT-SLAGI ~ Privacy Laws That Give People The Right To See The Data That Is Used Against Them – Seem Like A Good Idea

~ GDMNBC-TMBSBEALBOAC ~ Government Dragnets Must Not Be Covert – They Must Be Scrutinized By Either A Legislative Body Or A Court

~ O-SLIU-TQ-HUIA? ~ Okay – So Life Is Unfair – The Question – How Unfair Is Acceptable?

~ D-TD-PIWLRT-A-C-A-D-TD? ~ Does – The Dragnet – Provide Individuals With Legal Right To – Access – Correct – And – Dispute The Data?

~ ATDOHAFTWTDAU? ~ Are The Dragnet Operators Held Accountable For The Way The Data Are Used?

~ I-TD-TIFIP?-DIBS?-CIWPS? ~ Is – The Dragnet – Too Intrusive For Its Purpose? – Does It Benefit Society? – Can It Withstand Public Scrutiny?

LI PARISER ~ THE FILTER BUBBLE ~ 2011

~ D-RCTSTFOAPOV-B-I-WMAMEI-OOB ~ Democracy – Requires Citizens To See Things From One Another’s Point Of View – But – Instead – We’re More And More Enclosed In – Our Own Bubbles

~ T-NI-DJKYAD;IKYBAWTSYABOPK ~ The – New Internet – Doesn’t Just Know You’re A Dog; It Knows Your Breed And Wants To Sell You A Bowl Of Premium Kibble

~ I-P-ITA-ICPUFCICW-T-M-B-P-S-E-A-I-TCHWTATWAO ~ If – Personalization – Is Too Acute – It Could Prevent Us From Coming Into Contact With – The – Mind-Blowing – Preconception-Shattering – Experiences – And – Ideas – That Change How We Think About The World And Ourselves

~ T-U-I-T-C ~ The – User – Is – The – Content

~ WHATTB-T-TWIAIATB ~ We Have A Tendency To Believe – That – The World Is As It Appears To Be

~ LAL-T-FB-ITTWWE-BC-WWSADS ~ Like A Lens – The – Filter Bubble – Invisibly Transforms The World We Experience – By Controlling – What We See And Don’t See

~ IWWTKWTWRLL-WHTUHFSASOVOI ~ If We Want To Know What The World Really Looks Like – We Have To Understand How Filters Shape And Skew Our View Of It

~ PF-CU-CB-B-SOEIAANO-F-TFB-SUWIWWWAF(AAA)-MUOIOMF-S-IRFOESOTKPTMUWTL ~ Personalized Filters – Can Upset – Cognitive Balance – Between – Strengthening Our Existing Ideas And Acquiring New Ones – First – The Filter Bubble – Surrounds Us With Ideas With Which We’re Already Familiar (And Already Agree) – Making Us Overconfident In Our Mental Frameworks – Second – It Removes From Our Environment Some Of The Key Prompts That Make Us Want To Learn

~ E-HALIITTTDTETW-A-AAFYOWOT-TTTSTE ~ Experts – Have A Lot Invested In The Theories They’ve Developed To Explain The World – And – After A Few Years Of Working On Them – They Tend To See Them Everywhere

~ TFB-TT-DA-CB-CITCTOIOTWIEAP;CITCUTTINWOQOAIFAD ~ The Filter Bubble – Tends To – Dramatically Amplify – Confirmation Bias – Consuming Information That Conforms To Our Ideas Of The World Is Easy And Pleasurable; Consuming Information That Challenges Us To Think In New Ways Or Question Our Assumptions Is Frustrating And Difficult

~ ITB-TPOCTVWYKGWU ~ In The Bubble – The Proportion Of Content That Validates What You Know Goes Way Up

~ SOTMICB-ASB-TIOTERITFADTRO ~ Some Of The Most Important Creative Breakthroughs – Are Spurred By – The Introduction Of The Entirely Random Ideas That Filters Are Designed To Rule Out

~ ITFB-TLD-YDSTTTDIYAA-YNELATTAMEAIYM ~ In The Filter Bubble – Things Look Different – You Don’t See The Things That Don’t Interest You At All – You’re Not Even Latently Aware That There Are Major Events And Ideas You’re Missing

~ ABTOY ~ A Bad Theory of You

~ HWB-IABAB-OFAPS ~ How We Behave – Is A Balancing Act Between – Our Future And Present Selves

~ WIAWF-WAWWC ~ With Information As With Food – We Are What We Consume

~ TIAYL ~ Trapped In A You Loop

~ SWHWTITYD? ~ So What Happens When The Internet Thinks Your Dumb?

~ RT-DP-AIEPP-ISW-TI-I-CI ~ Rather Than – Decentralizing Power – As Its Early Proponents Predicted – In Some Ways – The Internet – Is – Concentrating It

~ LOTC ~ Lords Of The Cloud

~ PD-S-ITC-I-MEFTGTS-T-IOAHC ~ Personal Data – Stored – In The Cloud – Is – Much Easier For The Government To Search – Than – Information On A Home Computer

~ I-KIP-T-AIKAAIP ~ If – Knowledge Is Power – Then – Asymmetries In Knowledge Are Asymmetries In Power

~ FWS-TFBWOBOTTIOSTAIBCOU ~ Friendly World Syndrome – The Filter Bubble Will Often Block Out The Things In Our Society That Are Important But Complex Or Unpleasant

~ IIBTH-SBFT-TNAA ~ It Is Better To Have – Some Bar For Truthfulness – Than None At All

~ WWCLSOOSP-TDLSOU ~ While We Can Lose Sight Of Our Shared Problems – They Don’t Lose Sight Of Us

~ U-DW-OI-WCACOTBONS-I ~ Ultimately – Democracy Works – Only If – We Citizens Are Capable Of Thinking Beyond Our Narrow Self-Interest

~ ‘CIL’ ~ “Code Is Law”

~ MOTT-E-RTITTWH-MOPC-AA ~ Much Of The Time – Engineers – Resist The Idea That Their Work Has – Moral Or Political Consequences – At All

~ $50BSC ~ $50 Billion Sand Castle

~ I-P-ROI-CT-TNFCB-SAMP-TMOUWI ~ If – Personalization – Remains On Its – Current Trajectory – The Near Future Could Be – Stranger And More Problematic – Than Many Of Us Would Imagine

~ A-A-VB-WA-CP ~ Advertar – A – Virtual Being – With A – Commercial Purpose

~ NSTA-AFVL ~ No Such Thing As – A Free Virtual Lunch

~ ‘AFM’ ~ “Advertiser-Funded Media”

~ A-T-GBABADOA-WNTWC-WIIDOAT ~ As – Technology – Gets Better And Better At Directing Our Attention – We Need To Watch Closely – What It Is Directing Our Attention Toward

~ SIASTJ ~ Serendipity Is A Shortcut To Joy

~ TNF-CSB-MT-FS-M-T-TTP-STIPTHADAHTETRITFP ~ The New Filterers – Can Start By – Making Their – Filtering Systems – More – Transparent – To The Public – So That It’s Possible To Have A Discussion About How They’re Exercising Their Responsibilities In The First Place

~ YSKWHYPD-WDTH-A-HIU ~ You Should Know Who Has Your Personal Data – What Data They Have – And – How It’s Used

~ YSBATPICAYFOPFBUFO ~ You Should Be Able To Prevent Information Collected About You For One Purpose From Being Used For Others

~ YSBATCIIAY ~ You Should Be Able To Correct Inaccurate Information About You

~ YDSBS ~ Your Data Should Be Secure

DANIEL GOLEMAN ~ SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE ~ 2006

~ TSB ~ The Social Brain

~ SC ~ Social Corrosion

~ CD ~ Creeping Disconnection

~ SN ~ Social Neuroscience

~ AW ~ Acting Wisely

~ TEE ~ The Emotional Economy

~ CE ~ Catching Emotions

~ RFI ~ Radar For Insincerity

~ F-IT-BDR-O-NW-T-O-EMM-O-TMOOF-MOFIV-TDOEI-AAU-A-SISDCE-BDAWWF-TTHOFOA-DAE-A-RSP ~ Forthrightness – Is The – Brain’s Default Response – Our – Neural Wiring – Transmits – Our – Every Minor Mood – Onto – The Muscles Of Our Face – Making Our Feelings Instantly Visible – The Display Of Emotion Is – Automatic And Unconscious – And – So Its Suppression Demands Conscious Effort – Being Devious About What We Feel – Trying To Hide Our Fear Or Anger – Demands Active Effort – And – Rarely Succeeds Perfectly

~ TGOS ~ The Glow Of Simpatico

~ WOAIS-WTOAB-M-CD-E-EO ~ When Our Attention Is Split – We Tune Out A Bit – Missing – Crucial Details – Especially – Emotional Ones

~ IS ~ In Synch

~ NM-‘MN’-DJT-RB-AAWOISE-MU-MTA-O-HTITDS ~ Neural Mirrors – “Mirror Neurons” – Do Just That – They – Reflect Back – An Action We Observe In Someone Else – Making Us – Mimic That Action – Or – Have The Impulse To Do So

~ THBHM-MNS-NJF-MA-BA-FRI-FETSI-FWSD ~ The Human Brain Harbors Multiple – Mirror Neuron Systems – Not Just For – Mimicking Actions – But Also – For Reading Intentions – For Extracting The Social Implications – From What Someone Does

~ THFA ~ The Happy Face Advantage

~ S-HAEOAOEE:T-HB-P-HF ~ Smiles – Have An Edge Over All Other Emotional Expressions: The – Human Brain – Prefers – Happy Faces

~ L-MBTSDBTB-A-UIS-TBA-ISB ~ Laughter – May Be The Shortest Distance Between Two Brains – An – Unstoppable Infectious Spread – That Builds An – Instant Social Bond

~ MW ~ Meme Wars

~ APCA-ISIN-TC-HSTSA-MP-A-I-TAAID ~ Although People Can Also – Ignore Someone In Need – That Cold-Heartedness Seems To Suppress A – More Primal – Automatic – Impulse – To Aid Another In Distress

~ TB-A-E-B-FTSN-WB-PAP-AA ~ The Brain – Achieves – Efficiency – By – Firing The Same Neurons – While Both – Perceiving And Performing – An Action

~ IOTTEA-SA-P-MCTCO-TITTCAAA ~ Instead Of Trying To Explain Away – Selfless Acts – Philosophers – Might Contemplate The Conundrum Of – The Innumerable Times That Cruel Acts Are Absent

~ ETWC-ST-WCSSS-OTOV-OFE-AWWF-EWPTTSASOTE-FHAWOLA-ITS-WICTE-WCNC ~ Even Though We Can Stop Talking – We Cannot Stop Sending Signals – Our Tone Of Voice – Our Fleeting Expressions – About What We Feel – Even When People Try To Suppress All Signs Of Their Emotions – Feelings Have A Way Of Leaking Anyway – In This Sense – When It Comes To Emotions – We Cannot Not Communicate

~ ‘PONS’ ~ “The Profile Of Nonverbal Sensitivity”

~ FL-M-PS-STEA-LC-W-UA-OONCFC-PU-OTSW ~ Full Listening – Maximizes – Physiological Synchrony – So That Emotions Align – Listening Carefully – With – Undivided Attention – Orients Our Neural Circuits For Connectivity – Putting Us – On The Same Wavelength

~ K-A-H-TSW-AW ~ Knowledge – About – How – The Social World – Actually Works

~ ME-ES-TFATFILTATOAS-TSOAF-SAMU-TOACATHAPAFATM ~ MicroExpressions – Emotional Signals – That Flit Across The Face In Less Than A Third Of A Second – The Snap Of A Finger – Spontaneous And Made Unconsciously – They Offer A Clue As To How A Person Actually Feels At That Moment

~ Y-A-I ~ You – And – It

~ I-Y ~ I – You

~ I-I-OP-A-MTSOE ~ I – It – Other People – As – Means To Some Other End

~ I-Y-R-AEII ~ I – You – Relationship – An End In Itself

~ ‘FF’ ~ “Feeling Felt”

~ GAND ~ Genes Are Not Destiny

~ TRE ~ The Reparative Experience

~ TSPFH ~ The Set Point For Happiness

~ EIACD-OAM-FBOFW-O-HTHS ~ Everyone In A Child’s Day – Offers A Model – For Better Or For Worse – Of – How To Handle Stress

~ O-R-T-F-E-TCTCGOOO-TIWOD-B-SBC ~ Our – Relationships – Themselves – Form – Environments – That Can Turn Certain Genes On Or Off – The Invisible Web Of Disconnectedness – Bestows – Surprising Biological Consequences

~ HC ~ Healthy Connections

~ R-CTW:TCEBUFI-O-ITROAAD ~ Relationships – Cut Two Ways: They Can Either Buffer Us From Illness – Or – Intensify The Ravages Of Aging And Disease

~ TAO-T-LA-S-AW-TM-PT-TVF ~ The Aftereffects Of – Trauma – Like All – Stress – Are Worse – The More – Personally Targeted – The Victim Feels

~ SE-TEO-CS-RATWDTTLO-GE-IT-IC-EFFIAHW ~ Social Epigenetics – The Effects Of – Continual Stress – Reach All The Way Down To The Level Of – Gene Expression – In The – Immune Cells – Essential For Fighting Infections And Healing Wounds

~ D-UST-MBAPMT-MOOESFTB ~ Dropping – Unrewarding Social Ties – May Be A Preemptive Move To – Manage Our Own Emotional States For The Better

~ ER ~ Emotional Rescuers

~ PC ~ Positive Contagion

~ AHP ~ A Healing Presence

~ EI-WFAALFW-WCAO-TGOALP ~ Even If – We Feel At A Loss For Words – We Can Always Offer – The Gift Of A Loving Presence

~ M-P-CMS-ETP-W-SBD-WSUUOWPSTT ~ Mere – Presence – Can Matter Surprisingly – Even To Patients – With – Severe Brain Damage – Who Seem Utterly Unaware Of What People Say To Them

~ APP ~ A People Prescription

~ OL ~ Organized Lovelessness

~ RTHB ~ Recognizing The Human Being

~ HH ~ Healing Healers

~ HR ~ Healing Relationships

~ SC ~ Social Consequence

~ T-SS-F-A ~ The – Sweet Spot – For – Achievement

~ AOS ~ An Optimal State

~ DKL ~ Distress Kills Learning

~ TSIL ~ The Socially Intelligent Leader

~ SIL-SW-BFP-A-GIS ~ Socially Intelligent Leadership – Starts With – Being Fully Present – And – Getting In Synch

~ ASC ~ A Special Connection

~ CC ~ Connected Communities

~ SC ~ Strengthening Connections

~ H-OLTBBP-N-BC ~ Help – Offenders Learn To Be Better People – Not – Better Criminals

~ F-T-T-U ~ From – Them – To – Us

~ TGTD-UFT-BWT-SOE-A-ATGWAFT-PO-T-WWL ~ The Gulf That Divides – Us From Them – Builds With The – Silencing Of Empathy – And – Across That Gulf We Are Free To – Project Onto – Them – Whatever We Like

~ WWRTSA-OOT-WCOO-AI ~ When We Relate To Someone As – One Of Them – We Close Off Our – Altruistic Impulses

~ IB ~ Implicit Bias

~ BTFTA ~ Brief Tutorial For The Amygdala

~ C-THD ~ Closing – The Hostile Divide

~ WRM ~ What Really Matters

~ T-RW-O-FF ~ The – Raw Buzz – Of – Fellow Feeling

~ WMRT-PA-TWAIT-TSE-TEEOS-HS ~ We Must Reconsider The – Pat Assumption – That We Are Immune To – Toxic Social Encounters – The Emotional Equivalent Of Second-Hand Smoke

~ SR-B-HAN-WWAIWTHCOSIO ~ Social Responsibility – Begins – Here And Now – When We Act In Ways That Help Create Optimal States In Others

~ TCCFTC-WBT-ETCOTWCA-U-A-STNWCA-T ~ The Crucial Challenge For This Century – Will Be To – Expand The Circle Of Those We Count Among – Us – And – Shrink The Numbers We Count As – Them

~ WNNATDTHB ~ We Need Not Accept The Divisions That Hatred Breeds

~ TSBWCUAAOCHC ~ The Social Brain’s Wiring Connects Us All At Our Common Human Core

JIM LOEHR + TONY SCHWARTZ ~ THE POWER OF FULL ENGAGEMENT ~ 2013

~ E-N-T-I-TFCOHP ~ Energy – Not – Time – Is – The Fundamental Currency Of High Performance

~ P-H-A-H-AGI-TSMOE ~ Performance – Health – And – Happiness – Are Grounded In – The Skillful Management Of Energy

TMWTRFTEWBTTW-TMEAPWB-TMWBOOEC-TMNACOEILTB ~ The More We Take Responsibility For The Energy We Bring To The World – The More Empowered And Productive We Become – The More We Blame Others Or Eternal Circumstances – The More Negative And Compromised Our Energy Is Likely To Be

~ L-A-TSO-OE-T-IOD-OF-BHETMTOE-AN-BHWT-M-F-I-A-R-TCEOTTL ~ Leaders – Are – The Stewards Of – Organizational Energy– They – Inspire Or Demoralize – Others First – By How Effectively They Manage Their Own Energy – And Next – By How Well They – Mobilize – Focus — Interest – And – Renew – The Collective Energy Of Those They Lead

~ TSMOE-IAO-MP-FE ~ The Skillful Management Of Energy – Individually And Organizationally – Makes Possible – Full Engagement

~ FE-RDOFSBRSOE:P-E-M-A-S-AFDAC-NISBI-A-EPITO ~ Full Engagement – Requires Drawing On Four Separate But Related Sources Of Energy: Physical – Emotional – Mental – And – Spiritual – All Four Dynamics Are Critical – None Is Sufficient By Itself – And – Each Profoundly Influences The Others

~ B-ECD-BWOAWU-WMB-EE-W-IER ~ Because – Energy Capacity Diminishes – Both With Overuse And With Underuse – We Must Balance – Energy Expenditure – With – Intermittent Energy Renewal

~ TMABAO ~ The Mind And Body Are One

~ EF-RTCTMFAAAAWPOERTRROD ~ Emotional Flexibility – Reflects The Capacity To Move Freely And Appropriately Along A Wide Spectrum Of Emotions Rather Than Responding Rigidly Or Defensively

~ ER-ITATBBF-EO-D-F-A-E-L ~ Emotional Resilience – Is The Ability To Bounce Back From – Experiences Of – Disappointment – Frustration – And – Even – Loss

~ PER-HSRFME-ATKT-FE-A-SHP ~ Positive Energy Rituals – Highly Specific Routines For Managing Energy – Are The Key To – Full Engagement – And – Sustained High Performance

~ A-PR-IABTB-A-OT-FB-SDHV ~ A – Positive Ritual – Is A Behavior That Becomes – Automatic – Over Time – Fueled By – Some Deeply Held Value

~ TPORITTITWUALCEAPWIINAN-LUFT-SF-TEATU-I-C-E-W ~ The Power Of Rituals Is That They Insure That We Use As Little Conscious Energy As Possible Where It Is Not Absolutely Necessary – Leaving Us Free To – Strategically Focus – The Energy Available To Us – In – Creative – Enriching – Ways

~ TFSIOCPIT-DP-ITFOOHBAOITP-TSQ-WNITMCIOL ~ The First Step In Our Change Process Is To – Define Purpose – In The Face Of Our Habitual Behaviors And Our Instinct To Preserve – The Status Quo – We Need Inspiration To Make Changes In Our Lives

~ ‘HSISMEIAWTICWMDV?’ ~ “How Should I Spend My Energy In A Way That Is Consistent With My Deepest Values?”

~ IIITCACOC-U-YAATLHAWYAT-‘HAYSYEN?’ ~ It Is Impossible To Chart A Course Of Change – Until You Are Able To Look Honestly At Who You Are Today – “How Are You Spending Your Energy Now?”

TO-WVOLT-R-C-G-POAV-O-SDTOT-TCWAMAHACIO-T-Q-F-A-F-OO-E ~ Too Often – We View Our Lives Through – Rose-Colored Glasses – Painting Ourselves As Victims – Or – Simply Denying To Ourselves That – The Choices We Are Making Are Having A Consequential Impact On – The – Quantity – Force – And – Focus – Of Our – Energy

~ FTT-BW-GCD ~ Facing The Truth – Begins With – Gathering Credible Data

~ PIF ~ Physical Is Fundamental

~ E-IS-TCTDW-OMFNAHBI-TSARE-WA-OB-IA-OU-RIOI ~ Energy – Is Simply – The Capacity To Do Work – Our Most Fundamental Need As Human Beings Is – To Spend And Recover Energy – We Are – Oscillatory Beings – In An – Oscillatory Universe – Rhythmicity Is Our Inheritance

~ WCOPSHFSLWBDABO ~ We Can Only Push So Hard For So Long Without Breaking Down And Burning Out

~ WMLTE-SP-IOD-IT-WWSOTT-CPI-A-SOAFATR ~ We Must Learn To Establish – Stopping Points – In Our Days – Inviolable Times – When We Step Off The Track – Cease Processing Information – And – Shift Our Attention From Achievement To Restoration

~ SA ~ Stress Addiction

~ DFO ~ Death From Overwork

~ WGAAL-B-EEBONL-A-T-R ~ We Grow At All Levels – By – Expending Energy Beyond Our Normal Limits – And – Then – Recovering

~ EC-R-AWTE-S-TD-ITSO-L-TR ~ Expanding Capacity – Requires – A Willingness To Endure – Short-Term Discomfort – In The Service Of – Long-Term Reward

~ OMFNAHBITSARE-O ~ Our Most Fundamental Need As Human Beings Is To Spend And Recover Energy – Oscillation

~ WB-E-M-A-S-C-WMSEOT-SBONL-FB-AR ~ We Build – Emotional – Mental – And – Spiritual – Capacity – We Must Systematically Expose Ourselves To – Stress Beyond Our Normal Limits – Followed By – Adequate Recovery

~ D-S-A-R-B-I-SASO-E-A-A-F-AWAO-R-S-A-Q-TU-HP ~ Deep – Smooth – And – Rhythmic – Breathing – Is – Simultaneously A Source Of – Energy – Alertness – And – Focus – As Well As Of – Relaxation – Stillness – And – Quiet – The Ultimate – Healthy Pulse

~ OT-E-A-B-S-I-TMISO-R-IOL ~ Other Than – Eating – And – Breathing – Sleeping – Is – The Most Important Source Of – Recovery – In Our Lives

~ B-S-A-C-T-HAPIO-H-O-EL-A-O-P ~ Both – Strength – And – Cardiovascular – Training – Have A Powerful Impact On – Health – On – Energy Levels – And – On – Performance

~ EAR ~ Enjoyment And Renewal

~ HITBP ~ Healing In The Broken Places

~ NE-SS-B-TAVCAEIITCOP ~ Negative Emotions – Serve Survival – But – They Are Very Costly And Energy Inefficient In The Context Of Performance

~ TAT-SPEDPOIS-LATHO-EL ~ The Ability To – Summon Positive Emotions During Periods Of Intense Stress – Lies At The Heart Of – Effective Leadership

~ TPOTB ~ The Plasticity Of The Brain

~ B-T-MAB-AS-IC-EMPECICC-IDSMSBDMBAOTTB-EIABTSMPOAC-B-D-NT-WHRBCAPFD ~ Because – The – Mind And Body – Are So – Inextricably Connected – Even Moderate Physical Exercise Can Increase Cognitive Capacity – It Does So Most Simply By Driving More Blood And Oxygen To The Brain – Exercise Is Also Believed To Stimulate More Production Of A Chemical-Brain-Derived – Neurotrophic Factor – Which Helps Repair Brain Cells And Prevent Further Damage

~ TO-WDOTTATDAOM-DOERITP ~ Too Often – We Devote Our Time To Activities That Don’t Advanced Our Mission – Depleting Our Energy Reserves In The Process

~ T-ME-TBS-FE-I-RO-STWAII-B-AWPTA-DO ~ The – Mental Energy – That Best Serves – Full Engagement – Is – Realistic Optimism – Seeing The World As It Is – But – Always Working Positively Towards A – Desired Outcome

~ MMC-IDF-ABBEAR-ME ~ Maximum Mental Capacity – Is Derived From – A Balance Between Expending And Recovering – Mental Energy

~ CTCTBSAAPAA-RMD ~ Continuing To Challenge The Brain Serves As A Protection Against Age-Related Mental Decline

~ SE:AWTL ~ Spiritual Energy: A Why To Live

~ TKMTF-SE-I-C-TCACTLBOV-EWDSRPSAH-SSM-I-P-C-I-A-H ~ The Key Muscle That Fuels – Spiritual Energy – Is – Character – The Courage And Conviction To Live By Our Values – Even When Doing So Requires Personal Sacrifice And Hardship – Supportive Spiritual Muscles – Include – Passion – Commitment – Integrity – And – Honesty

~ SE-ISB-BACTAPBO-W-AS-C ~ Spiritual Energy – Is Sustained By – Balancing A Commitment To A Purpose Beyond Ourselves – With – Adequate Self-Care

~ SW-CBDARATST ~ Spiritual Work – Can Be Demanding And Renewing At The Same Time

~ PCAD ~ Purposes Creates A Destination

~ T-S-AE-R-ITWFTBTSFM ~ The – Simple – Almost Embarrassing – Reality – Is That We Feel Too Busy To Search For Meaning

~ CPT-T-Q-U-T-WISTMOUFWSDNH-WAFRFOOTTNWALSOD ~ Clarifying Purpose Takes – Time – Quiet – Uninterrupted – Time – Which Is Something That Many Of Us Feel We Simply Do Not Have – We Are Forever Rushing From One Obligation To The Next Without Any Larger Sense Of Direction

~ W-O-SI-WYLTSOY-T-TWCWYRWIYL? ~ What – One-Sentence Inscription – Would You Like To See On Your – Tombstone – That Would Capture Who You Really Were In Your Life?

~ WWLASSOP-WAEBBLIS ~ When We Lack A Strong Sense Of Purpose – We Are Easily Buffeted By Life’s Inevitable Storms

~ FTT:HAYMYEN? ~ Face The Truth: How Are You Managing Your Energy Now?

~ I-IAMOAAT-C-WEII-E ~ Intellectualizing – Is A Means Of Acknowledging A Truth – Cognitively – Without Experiencing Its Impact – Emotionally

~ HWAPAYIYE? ~ How Wisely And Productivity Are You Investing Your Energy?

~ ‘ICBW’ ~ “I Could Be Wrong”

~ CETBWWFDAAR ~ Confident Enough To Be Wrong Without Feeling Diminished As A Result

SANDY HOTCHKISS ~ WHY IS IT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU? ~ 2003

~ TE ~ They’re Everywhere

~ TINNAN-THAB-V-G-M-C-WHAIPOTALRFO ~ There Is Nothing New About Narcissism – There Have Always Been – Vain – Grasping – Manipulative – Characters – Who Have An Inflated Perception Of Themselves And Little Regard For Others

~ N-INJTIODAA-IIG-MOOLATPFWAFTNP-A-WCWTETE-A-‘EDI’-BTJFCDTP ~ Narcissism – Is Not Just Tolerate In Our Day And Age – It Is Glorified – Many Of Our Leaders And The Public Figures We Admire Flaunt Their Narcissistic Proclivities – And – We Can’t Wait To Emulate Their Excesses – And – “Everybody Does It” – Becomes The Justification For Continuing Down The Path

~ IT-N-S-ISITTMHBDNTEIAA-WPC-‘BS’-LL-S-O-TAOAC-HBAPBO-D-C-B-O-R-TSIDO-AF-TS-9CNB-‘MF’ ~ In The – Narcissist – Shame – Is So Intolerable That The Means Have Been Developed Not To Experience It At All – What Psychologists Call – “Bypassed Shame” – Looks Like – Shamelessness – Or – The Absence Of A Conscience – Hiding Behind A Protective Barrier Of – Denial – Coldness – Blame – Or – Rage – The Shame Is Directed Outward – Away From – The Self – It Can Never Be – “My Fault”

~ TNT-ASAAC-CACDFTN-ALHAWORDOHE-TMTTEIACAO-DAI-WPC-‘MT’ ~ The Need To – Avoid Shame At All Costs – Creates A Continuing Dilemma For The Narcissist – As Life Has A Way Of Regularly Doling Out Humbling Experiences – The Methods They Typically Employ Involve A Considerable Amount Of – Distortion And Illusion – What Psychologists Call – “Magical Thinking”

~ T-FWON-CHA-SA-TPTEYII-S-TSCCBE ~ The – Fantasy World Of Narcissists – Can Have A – Seductive Allure – That Promises To Envelop You In Its – Specialness – Their Superficial Charm Can Be Enchanting

~ SL-AO-N-WCBTBEA-LTTB ~ Sore Losers – Are Often – Narcissists – Who Cannot Bear To Be Exposed As – Less That The Best

~ TNNTSASOS-EAO-WSEATHSTHOSL ~ The Narcissist’s Need To Secure A Sense Of Superiority – Encounters An Obstacle – Whenever Someone Else Appears To Have Something That He Or She Lacks

~ NE-FBTDNTBS-LSMETGOWTN-II-UOD-WMITMMD-UOEEOTNFS-TIMFO-SRC ~ Narcissistic Envy – Fueled By The Desperate Need To Be Superior – Like So Much Else That Goes On Within The Narcissist – It Is – Unconscious Or Denied – Which Makes It That Much More Dangerous – Unaware Of Either Envy Or The Need For Superiority – These Individuals May Feel Only – Self-Righteous Contempt

~ IITNONETSTSFOOVSPOV-B-OEOT-A-O-F-A-C ~ It Is The Nature Of Narcissistic Entitlement To See The Situation From Only One Very Subjective Point Of View – Because – Others Exist Only To – Agree – Obey – Flatter – And – Comfort

~ HHNFLTND ~ Hell Hath No Fury Like The Narcissist Denied

~ NPD-OA-OIOHP-MTFC-FTSFON-YTAMMIWETT-TSD-STCSD-INIT-TCIOWWTCICCOARB ~ Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Only About – One In One Hundred People – Meets The Full Criteria – For This Severe Form Of Narcissism – Yet There Are Many More Individuals Who Exhibit These Traits – To Some Degree – Sufficient To Cause Significant Distress – If Not In Themselves – Then Certainly In Others With Whom They Come In Close Contact On A Regular Basis

~ WTPSFSN-TRAP-SCWTB-COTNP-WOWBMDIRTR-AFSOS ~ When The Parent Suffers From Significant Narcissism – The Results Are Predictable – Some Children Will Themselves Become – Clones Of Their Narcissistic Parents – While Others Will Be Mysteriously Drawn Into Relationships That Require – A Familiar Sacrifice Of Self

~ S-WADTT-L-T-LQ-A-TSWTMUF-WWIIT-GAO-ISW-WTH-WMEUSOTAITLU-UEAB ~ Sometimes – We Are Drawn To Their – Larger-Than-Life Qualities – And – The Special Way They Make Us Feel – When We’re Included In Their – Grandiosity And Omnipotence – In Some Way – When This Happens – We May End Up Sacrificing Ourselves To An Illusion That Leaves Us – Ultimately Empty And Bruised

~ W-YETWOTN-YLYB ~ When – You Enter The Web Of The Narcissist – You Leave Yourself Behind

~ TNEUVOO-NV-TMTOWKUBTTB-PUU-B-TP-D-A-TM ~ The Narcissist Engages Us Via Our Own – Narcissistic Vulnerabilities – The Most Treacherous Ones Will Keep Us Bound To Them By – Pumping Us Up – Between – The Put-Downs – And – The Manipulations

~ NC-D-O-P-UPOTOOP ~ Narcissists Constantly – Dump – Or – Project – Unwanted Parts Of Themselves Onto Other People

~ TNTPWIH-AICFMP-IRIN-YAJAMTAE ~ Try Not To Personalize What Is Happening – Although It Couldn’t Feel More Personal – It Really Is Not – You Are Just A Means To An End

~ YNTFAWT-D-FT-FOD-TNEIY-SIHTTOTPABTYOOTI ~ You Need To Find A Way To – Detach – From The – Feeling Of Diminishment – The Narcissist Evokes In You – Sometimes It Helps To Think Of This Person As Being Two Years Old On The Inside

~ RTUTR-DTTCOETPE-TNHALAT-IKUPU ~ Resist The Urge To Retaliate – Don’t Try To Challenge Or Enlighten This Person Either – The Narcissist Has A Lot At Stake – In Keeping Unconscious Processes Unconscious

~ ER ~ Embrace Reality

~ NWGTGLTAARTESATPFTSTGAO-TRAFT ~ Narcissists Will Go To Great Lengths To Avoid Any Realty That Evokes Shame And To Promote Fantasies That Sustain Their Grandiosity And Omnipotence – They Require Accomplices For This

~ WMUVTTSAOTNIOONFI-IOS-EIALS-ITISMFOL ~ What Makes Us Vulnerable To The Seductive Allure Of The Narcissist Is Our Own Need For Inflation – If Our Self-Esteem Is A Little Shaky – If There Is Something Missing From Our Lives

~ IOHYWTTSOAN-FYOD ~ Instead Of Hitching Your Wagon To The Star Of A Narcissist – Find Your Own Dream

~ SPFWTA-N-WYWTTB ~ See People For Who They Are – Not – Who You Want Them To Be

~ LTAT-IAN-L-C-D-O-H-O-BC-TA-O-SALOC-SOL-YCETBOTREOTSB ~ Learn To Accept That – If A Narcissist – Lies – Cheats – Disrespects – Or– Hurts – Others – Betrays Confidences – Takes Advantage – Or – Shows A Lack Of Compassion – Sooner Or Later – You Can Expect To Be On The Receiving End Of That Same Behavior

~ DFITTOTTSSAYRWSY ~ Don’t Fall Into The Trap Of Thinking That Something Special About Your Relationship Will Spare You

~ DGIARWANTYAGTCT-O-THOSWCBOFFY ~ Don’t Go Into A Relationship With A Narcissist Thinking You Are Going To Change That Person – Or – That He Or She Will Change Because Of Feelings For You

~ TBDATIAEOTNIAGSGOYOWVAAAOYOA ~ The Best Defense Against The Intrusions And Exploitations Of The Narcissist Is A Good Solid Grasp On Your Own Narcissistic Vulnerabilities And An Appreciation Of Your Own Assets

~ PLIRASTMTARAYOGA ~ Practice Living In Reality And Striving To Make That As Rewarding As Your Own Gifts Allow

~ IYCCYOGOYNTI-YMBSITWOYOH ~ If You Can’t Control Your Own Grandiosity Or Your Need To Idealize – You May Be Standing In The Way Of Your Own Happiness

~ IVOB-OBCTAPN-IIAYOR ~ Inevitable Violations Of Boundaries – Our Biggest Clue To Another Person’s Narcissism – Ignore It At Your Own Risk

~ OYHSAB-KI-IYBD-YSTNTYDNNTBTS ~ Once You Have Set A Boundary – Keep It – If You Back Down – You Show The Narcissist That You Do Not Need To Be Taken Seriously

~ CRR ~ Cultivate Reciprocal Relationships

~ OOTBWTCWNITABVIWTITFP-YMAWTATTEIWNT ~ One Of The Best Ways To Cope With Narcissists Is To Avoid Becoming Very Involved With Them In The First Place – You Might Also Want To Avoid The Toxic Environments In Which Narcissists Thrive

~ TYCTRAANANVITP ~ Teach Your Children To Recognize And Avoid Narcissism And Narcissistic Values In Their Peers

~ TAOTKOPOAUTN:TWCPTU-A-TWTCPD ~ There Are Only Two Kinds Of People Of Any Use To Narcissists: Those Who Can Pump Them Up – And – Those Whom They Can Put Down

~ NMB-ME-W-A-A-EP-TMPYA-TMYCGAW ~ Narcissism May Become – More Entrenched – With – Age – And – Expanding Power – The More Powerful You Are – The More You Can Get Away With

~ TEOBATMTNITTYOE ~ The Essence Of Being Able To Manage The Narcissist Is To Transcend Your Own Ego

MARK MANSON ~ EVERYTHING IS #@%!ED ~ 2019

~ AYMCCIFFALATDIWU ~ Anything Your Mind Can Conceptualize Is Fundamentally Flawed And Limited And Therefore Damaging If Worshipped Unconditionally

~ TAWH-TNHFB-TBB-ITMATN-A-TN-A-TN ~ To Act Without Hope – To Not Hope For Better – To Be Better – In This Moment And The Next – And – The Next – And – The Next

~ H-IMITGWYWOAAG-H-IIGAV-IAOI-H-IT-A-E-NA-M-TSOE ~ Honesty – Is More Important Than Getting What You Want Or Achieving A Goal – Honesty – Is Inherently Good And Valuable – In And Of Itself – Honesty – Is Therefore – An – End – Not A – Means – To Some Other End

~ G-AC ~ Grown-Ass Children

~ AA ~ Aging Adolescents

~ TAPO-G-AC-ITW-A-TAALOAA ~ There Are Plenty Of – Grown-Ass Children – In The World – And – There Are A Lot Of Aging Adolescents

~ TFPSITT-FC-INL-RVL-B-TICVOT-R-A-L-V-TCA-AO-B-TRAL-INLADO-CVC-O-FVE-B-R-O-MVI-O-MVE ~ The Fundamental Political Schism In The Twenty-First Century – Is No Longer – Right Versus Left – But – The Impulsive Childish Values Of The – Right – And – Left – Versus – The Compromising Adolescent-Adults Of – Both – The Right And Left – It’s No Longer A Debate Of – Communism Versus Capitalism – Or – Freedom Versus Equality – But – Rather – Of – Maturity Versus Immaturity – Of – Means Versus Ends

~ OTOH-W-MM-DTIFOI-ASUT-TOAM-H-ESP-ESD-T-HTB-PRTT-A-TCBG ~ On The Other Hand – When – Marketing Messages – Designed To Induce Feelings Of Inadequacy – Are Scaled Up To – Thousands Of Advertising Messages – Hitting – Every Single Person – Every Single Day – There – Have To Be – Psychological Repercussions To That – And – They Can’t Be Good

~ MPTMIIIHLTIBAD ~ Many Of The Most Important Innovations In History Left Their Inventors Broke And Destitute

~ TOTFOF-TOEFOF-IT-S-L-IINTPOCEYWIYL-BR-CWYWGUIYL-TINO-RF-TIT-OF-YWABATC-WYAWTS-WYAWTGU ~ The Only True Form Of Freedom – The Only Ethical Form Of Freedom – Is Through Self-Limitation – It Is Not The Privilege Of Choosing Everything You Want In Your Life – But Rather – Choosing What You Will Give Up In Your Life – This Is Not Only – Real Freedom – This Is The – Only Freedom – You Will Always Be Able To Choose – What You Are Willing To Sacrifice – What You Are Willing To Give Up

~ U-TMMFIYLCFYC-TTILFWYHCTS ~ Ultimately – The Most Meaningful Freedom In Your Life Comes From Your Commitments – The Things In Life For Which You Have Chosen To Sacrifice

~ TT-IAB-FPWSMD-SM-BI-A-FD-TTA-UTMSC ~ Today’s Tyranny – Is Achieved By – Flooding People With So Much Diversion – So Much – Bullshit Information – And – Frivolous Distraction – That They Are – Unable To Make Smart Commitments

~ DRACOSMAC-TLOTFP-TMWII-FF-TLWWBATUTVNTA-A-F-D-S-T-F ~ Democracy Requires A Citizenry Of Strong Maturity And Character – The Lower Our Tolerance For Pain – The More We Indulge In – Fake Freedoms – The Less We Will Be Able To Uphold The Virtues Necessary To Allow – A – Free – Democratic – Society – To – Function

~ DHF-B-J-B-B-B-MC-MR-MH-MD ~ Don’t Hope For – Better – Just – Be – Better – Be – More Compassionate – More Resilient – More Humble – More Disciplined